Cumming too easily during sex

[wendigo3]

I'd try using a cock ring and see if that helps. You might also try switching positions when you feel close to ejaculating. It will give you a minute to calm back down and the other guy will just think you aren't comfortable in the current position. Of course, he'll probably be scared if you change positions three or four times, so use it sparingly. Does anyone else have any ideas?

 

[OrionNorthFL]

I sorta have the same problem sometimes. If I get REALLY horny, I don't last very long at all. Luckily my "refractory" period is like, one minute or less, so I can usually go again (or sometimes just stay hard and keep going if I'm fucking).


Anyway, one thing that I have tried is to just consciously RELAX your penis. I found that a lot of times I was squeezing my PC muscle down below (internallY).... and when I did this, I came quicker. If I just relax, however, and make an effort NOT to squeeze this muscle... I last longer.

I by no means last as long as I'd like, however.......... I'm jealous of the guys that can. Hopefully as I get older it will get better!

 

[ok455]

It takes me to long to cum

 

[cockboy4286]

i too cum really fast... i find that if i'm fucking and i slide my cock in and just relax for a minute before started to move in and out, i last longer. i understand OrionNorthFL is saying, like when i jackoff if i "flex" the muscle i can cum much quicker than if i jack without tensing up... just relax and it should be ok!

 

[IowaGuy]

I'm 65 and have always cum very quickly. As others have said the key is to relax and I know that's hard to do - next to impossible for me sometimes. Luckily my partner is understanding and I always make sure that he is satisfied before I am.
I know that probably doesn't help you any but just wanted you to know that you are not alone.

 

[3nipples]

There are two methods that work for me.

The first is to concentrate on an image to help me relax. I visualize a canoe cutting through the mirror surface of an early morning misty lake.

The other is if I do a lot of foreplay. After about an hour I can last practically for ever.

 

[jockboy01]

I visualize a canoe cutting through the mirror surface of an early morning misty lake.

LMAO at this one. Sorry, just picturing having sex and thinking about rowing a canoe at the same time is f@#$ing hilarious in my mind... but hey if it works. For me, I think I would start laughing and that would probably make him uncomfortable.

Here's some thoughts... the one about getting off earlier in the day is a good one. On the down side to that, you won't have as much cum when you are with the guy, but you'll last longer (life is about trade offs).

Another thing is some sort of desensitizer.... I'm sure they make these specifically. I would say that most topical pain control gels/creams would work, but just make sure it is safe for genital use. The down side here is 1) taste might not be so appetizing and 2) many of these things can break down condoms. So be careful about that. I'd say buy something specifically made for that.

There are also medicines that you can take for it as a last resort.

Thinking of other things has worked for me occasionally. Also, the taking a break when you get close is a good idea as well. Although once I did that so much that I came without an orgasm (which I still think is weird but others on here said it happens with too much edging) which was kind of embarrassing imo.

 

[3nipples]

LMAO at this one. Sorry, just picturing having sex and thinking about rowing a canoe at the same time is f@#$ing hilarious in my mind... but hey if it works. For me, I think I would start laughing and that would probably make him uncomfortable.

Jockboy is totally incorrigible! Give him an image of a canoe slicing through water and right away he's rowing to win a race. Sigh!

Medicines, desensitizing creams and jacking off before the date all have an element of deperately trying to perform. Besides that, you'll be trading off the intensity of your orgasm, so what's the point? IMO you'll just be starting off your date with the wrong mindset.

Try to remember that getting off is the scope of the exercise, so stop trying to last and go for the release. While you're recovering you work on your partner and you'll be ready yourself in no time.