Hey everyone, im new here and this is my first post. I recently started having some new feeling about guys if you know what i mean. i really want to try things out with a guy, but im not really sure on how best to meet decent guys. so if you guys have any advice on how to meet guys or tips for a first time that would be great, thanks.
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If you are a student, most Universities/Colleges have LGBTQ centers or Gay/Straight Alliance organizations. That would be a good place to start.
Or, you could try volunteering at LGBTQ events. There are usually good people at both places.
Or, you could try volunteering at LGBTQ events. There are usually good people at both places.
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That "decent" in your post is a big qualifier.
The question for you is whether exploring those feelings means dating or whether it means getting laid.
Finding a guy to have sex with is easy, however finding a decent guy to have sex with might not be as easy.
On the other hand, if you're wanting to meet some guys for friends and to date, there are lots of social organizations, volunteer organizations and networking groups for young gay guys. And as you make some gay friends, you'll meet more people who are like-minded and you can use the process of getting to know them to sort out the decent guys from the jerks.
If you're wanting to find guys for NSA sex, there are plenty of social networking sites, dating sites, quick hookup apps, etc that you can use to find guys to play around with. However, that "decent" might get in the way because these sites are a little like fast-food places- if you're looking for something quick, you go there; if you're looking for better quality, then these are not the places you want to go.
And the next question, that Season has already asked, is whether you're willing to be more public with your curiosity.
i guess would want to try to have a relationship of some kind over just sex, so i may try to get involved with some groups at school after the break. im not too keen on going public with this just yet, i want to make sure i know who i am first i guess. but thanks for all the great advice
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Just a fair warning, the quieter that you are about your sexuality the less likely you are to get a relationship. I'm not saying to go out in the world screaming that you are gay if you aren't sure or anything, but if only the people in the club know then they are essentially your dating pool.
May I suggest going to a gay club/bar (like a night club not an LGBT organization), I know that they aren't for everyone, I probably wouldn't go to one alone myself. But some people do, or at least if you get one good gay friend go with them and give it a shot.
Also I would also suggest that for someone in your situation it might be better for you if you are the one to try to start things, if you see a guy you might like at the LGBT club or something you should take the initiative and ask him out rather than just sitting around. Just be straight forward.
Also I gotta say that it's really commendable for someone to actually be comfortable enough to say that they are curious, whether or not they might be bisexual or not. I applaud you on having an open mind
May I suggest going to a gay club/bar (like a night club not an LGBT organization), I know that they aren't for everyone, I probably wouldn't go to one alone myself. But some people do, or at least if you get one good gay friend go with them and give it a shot.
Also I would also suggest that for someone in your situation it might be better for you if you are the one to try to start things, if you see a guy you might like at the LGBT club or something you should take the initiative and ask him out rather than just sitting around. Just be straight forward.
Also I gotta say that it's really commendable for someone to actually be comfortable enough to say that they are curious, whether or not they might be bisexual or not. I applaud you on having an open mind
If I could live my life again I probably would. I wish I was born in NYC in 1990 so that my life would've so much freer. I have so many regrets to list here.
You're fortunate I'm spilling the beans because I'm drunk right now.
Go on fucking grindr and Craigslist. Just make sure you play safe. Don't be a stupid boy and do bareback sex. Don't be a stupid boy and do drugs. Drink but don't get drunk. Hook up with guys but don't be a slut. A lot of the guys, believe it or not, on Craigslist are also just like you looking for love and a relationship. Believe it or not. Sure they're horny as fuck just like you but you're both guys and it's biology that's talking. You are not a child anymore so you can tell the difference between a guy looking for a hookup and a guy looking for love and relationship just like you. Oh yeah? Grow up! You're not stupid so don't act like it. You can tell the difference.
When in doubt don't.
Everyone deserves someone to love. Look for him. You might need to kiss a lot of frogs to find your prince but never look for a guy with more than 5 criteria. Don't rob yourself of the love of your life simply because of age or circumstances. And it's not all about you, relationships are a continuous set of compromises.
There is no the One, as dan savage said. There are only .6, .78, .9 and you round them up to 1.00. Because you aren't the One for anyone either.
With that said, happy hunting and may you all find happiness and love this 2014!
Happy new year!
You're fortunate I'm spilling the beans because I'm drunk right now.
Go on fucking grindr and Craigslist. Just make sure you play safe. Don't be a stupid boy and do bareback sex. Don't be a stupid boy and do drugs. Drink but don't get drunk. Hook up with guys but don't be a slut. A lot of the guys, believe it or not, on Craigslist are also just like you looking for love and a relationship. Believe it or not. Sure they're horny as fuck just like you but you're both guys and it's biology that's talking. You are not a child anymore so you can tell the difference between a guy looking for a hookup and a guy looking for love and relationship just like you. Oh yeah? Grow up! You're not stupid so don't act like it. You can tell the difference.
When in doubt don't.
Everyone deserves someone to love. Look for him. You might need to kiss a lot of frogs to find your prince but never look for a guy with more than 5 criteria. Don't rob yourself of the love of your life simply because of age or circumstances. And it's not all about you, relationships are a continuous set of compromises.
There is no the One, as dan savage said. There are only .6, .78, .9 and you round them up to 1.00. Because you aren't the One for anyone either.
With that said, happy hunting and may you all find happiness and love this 2014!
Happy new year!