3 year relationship is officially over - for about 6 weeks now. First year and half was amazing - he was my first real BF. After that we scuffled a bit about lots of things. We broke up late last summer - had a couple months apart - got back together but it just wasn't the same and we ended it. A bit sad but eyes wide open. My "let's try again" gives me the perspective I needed to know for sure it wasn't meant to be.
So I jumped right back into the pool. Meeting guys online - Manhunt, Grindr, OK Cupid plus in person - at the gym, on the subway, bars, etc. I will chat with anyone usually although bars I tend to be less "how are you doing"
Another issue I had with my BF was that he was a total top and after the first year or so of him "allowing" me to top him 1x a month or so (with him grimacing, etc.) I stopped trying and resigned myself to bottoming - which was fine and was good but left me wondering and missing frankly
So after the break up I needed to see if I could still top and yes I could - and for a few weeks, it became my reason to be. Met some very attractive guys, none of whom were dating material - my goal was simply to be the dominant top, fuck in as many positions as possible, create new ones, etc. Mission accomplished - is that all there is?
So I've met a couple of guys and it's been mixed. First guy Brent, from Iowa, likes sports, cute, nerdy (with glasses) - we really hit it off. Had 3 dates. He said he was "seeing someone" but not exclusive. After a couple good times he stopped responding directly to my texts for "let's get together" - was evasive. I finally said "thought we hit it off - do you or don't you want to see me again"
Whereby he explains that his roommate (i knew about) was his BF and they had discussed an open relationship and that now they're not, etc. etc. etc. At which point I said "good luck - next time be more str8 about the situation
whatever - but I liked him - so bummed
A few other dates - basically I like them (they don't reciprocate) - they like me (I don't like them) - LOL
welcome to dating
So I met this guy on Grindr about a week ago - Chris - actor/singer/dancer - from New England - we met on grindr (I know) - met for drinks at Barrage in Hells Kitchen in NYC - got pretty wrecked as we chatted for 3+ hours - on a week night - great convo, some flirting - cab home we make out I drop him at his place
he comes over Sunday night to my place to watch MadMen - great time - we make out some more + he has an early audition, I have work - he leaves
we go to dinner this past Tuesday night - awesome - I find that I'm telling him things so naturally (perhaps too much) and am naturally curious about him and he reciprocates.
He wears a bow tie to our dinner - I love it - even though it's a wee bit tilted - we joke about him changing his grindr pic to be him in a bowtie (my idea) - he responds with perhaps just the bowtie (no face) - LOL - so there's some grindr chatting - who we like/why, etc. - I'm ok with it - wondering if it's appropriate ???
we talk about coming out, our parents, social issues - in addition to just fun stuff - appears to be (no there is) a connection
Meanwhile for the week we text a few times - it's so natural and unforced - simply put he's a terrific guy
Not sure where I'm going with this
I like him - it's been a week - he's going home to his parents for Easter weekend - not gonna see him - I miss him
Thinking I'm getting toooooo into him tooooo quick
I have no idea whether he views me as BF material - I do view him as such
Oh yeah - was wondering if having sex with him too early is a problem - perhaps a lame question
that's it - wanted to type this - say it - looking for any feedback that comes my way - which i will take under advisement
beautiful sunny day in NYC btw
cheers
So I jumped right back into the pool. Meeting guys online - Manhunt, Grindr, OK Cupid plus in person - at the gym, on the subway, bars, etc. I will chat with anyone usually although bars I tend to be less "how are you doing"
Another issue I had with my BF was that he was a total top and after the first year or so of him "allowing" me to top him 1x a month or so (with him grimacing, etc.) I stopped trying and resigned myself to bottoming - which was fine and was good but left me wondering and missing frankly
So after the break up I needed to see if I could still top and yes I could - and for a few weeks, it became my reason to be. Met some very attractive guys, none of whom were dating material - my goal was simply to be the dominant top, fuck in as many positions as possible, create new ones, etc. Mission accomplished - is that all there is?
So I've met a couple of guys and it's been mixed. First guy Brent, from Iowa, likes sports, cute, nerdy (with glasses) - we really hit it off. Had 3 dates. He said he was "seeing someone" but not exclusive. After a couple good times he stopped responding directly to my texts for "let's get together" - was evasive. I finally said "thought we hit it off - do you or don't you want to see me again"
Whereby he explains that his roommate (i knew about) was his BF and they had discussed an open relationship and that now they're not, etc. etc. etc. At which point I said "good luck - next time be more str8 about the situation
whatever - but I liked him - so bummed
A few other dates - basically I like them (they don't reciprocate) - they like me (I don't like them) - LOL
welcome to dating
So I met this guy on Grindr about a week ago - Chris - actor/singer/dancer - from New England - we met on grindr (I know) - met for drinks at Barrage in Hells Kitchen in NYC - got pretty wrecked as we chatted for 3+ hours - on a week night - great convo, some flirting - cab home we make out I drop him at his place
he comes over Sunday night to my place to watch MadMen - great time - we make out some more + he has an early audition, I have work - he leaves
we go to dinner this past Tuesday night - awesome - I find that I'm telling him things so naturally (perhaps too much) and am naturally curious about him and he reciprocates.
He wears a bow tie to our dinner - I love it - even though it's a wee bit tilted - we joke about him changing his grindr pic to be him in a bowtie (my idea) - he responds with perhaps just the bowtie (no face) - LOL - so there's some grindr chatting - who we like/why, etc. - I'm ok with it - wondering if it's appropriate ???
we talk about coming out, our parents, social issues - in addition to just fun stuff - appears to be (no there is) a connection
Meanwhile for the week we text a few times - it's so natural and unforced - simply put he's a terrific guy
Not sure where I'm going with this
I like him - it's been a week - he's going home to his parents for Easter weekend - not gonna see him - I miss him
Thinking I'm getting toooooo into him tooooo quick
I have no idea whether he views me as BF material - I do view him as such
Oh yeah - was wondering if having sex with him too early is a problem - perhaps a lame question
that's it - wanted to type this - say it - looking for any feedback that comes my way - which i will take under advisement
beautiful sunny day in NYC btw
cheers
Oh well, at least he's not a total top. That would be a deal breaker. 
