Dating & Ecstasy?

[darling-boy]

Hi boys!Here it is..
I started casually seeing a guy about six weeks ago and it's been really great. Good enough that I can see it possibly getting serious in the near future. But the topic of ectasy(the drug) came up the last time I saw him. And he shared that he will sometimes do it and go dancing all night. But heres the thing for me, I've never done, nor plan on doing any drugs. So its hard for me to relate. Plus I stupidly got myself entangled with a meth user once (I didn't know @ the time) who ended up cheating on me when he was high. Needless to say, I'm now weary about dating & drug use.
So I'm wondering if someone here had some opinions on this?
Would using ectasy on a once in awhile basis be a deal breaker in a dating sense for anyone? Thanks for reading..

 

[tipmyscales86]

I wouldn't do it, but it's your life. As somebody who has done it before, just be ready for potentially weeks of depression after you do it.

 

[swerve]

I'm not a doctor -- so I'm not going to speak about the medical affects of the drug...

From a SOCIAL aspect -- I think it would be FUN to go out and party all night every now and then -- and possibly even experiment with recreational drugs...

Having said that -- our SOCIETY has placed such a HUGE PUNISHMENT (your FREEDOM) against these drugs (if you get caught) -- that I'd have a REAL HARD TIME advocating it...

It would definitely NOT be a DEAL BREAKER for a relationship though!!!

Meth is a different animal because it is SO ADDICTIVE!!! And I suspect that your previous BF had NO IDEA that he would end up cheating on you PRIOR to getting high -- with THAT drug it JUST HAPPENS...

Best of luck -- and I'll be curious to see what others have to say about this interesting topic!!!

 

[sabot3ur]

everyone's different, every drug is different. if it has been a good relationship so far I see no problem.

 

[MindBlast]

At least he was honest about it upfront. That's kind of how you know he probably doesn't have a drug problem. How often is sometimes?

I have 2 friends (who are a couple), and both guys use ecstasy occasionally, like a few times a year. They're the nicest guys I've ever met and their relationship is going strong after 6 years, without any cheating as far as I know (although they'll occasionally bring in a 3rd guy if they know him pretty well and like him).

I'm pretty open minded when it comes to 'soft' drugs, although I would never, ever use them myself. They still do harm to your body in one way or another, but I'm not going to judge someone else based on that. I generally don't have a problem as long as it doesn't negatively affect me (ie: drug dealer friends which usually means violence somewhere, rapid mood swings, stinking up the place with marijuana). I could never date a smoker because that negatively affects me.

Decide how YOU would be affected, and if you'd be too concerned for his health to be able to stay in a relationship with him.

 

[KaraBulut]

There's a big difference between meth use and occasional X use. Yes, it is an illegal drug but putting things into perspective, alcohol destroys more relationships than Ectasy ever will- and yet alcohol is perfectly legal and socially acceptable.

If you feel strongly about recreational drug use, then you shouldn't get involved.

 

[Seasoned]

It would be a deal breaker for me. I have never met anyone that required drugs including alcohol where it wasn't a problem. Other people may do as they wish provided no one gets hurt, but I know my limitations when it comes to trust if someone is high.

 

[chance1]

Sorta been through this - here's my take

My bf - 2 1/2 years - used to be a club kid - never did meth but ecstasy pretty regularly - made him a little erratic IMO - at the beginning i let it go - he was beautiful - really nice - i just looked the other way

after about 6 mos. i told him regular drug use and us were not compatible - thought it was too much to deal with - him sleeping during the days - drinking the take the edge off, etc. - it was making him a mess IMO and i couldn't take it

he has stopped habitual use - and he is better and we're better

I tried it - and have done it several times - had one bad experience - we do it together once every couple months at parties that go all night into am - frankly w/o it, i can't sustain the evening - i have to say i like the feeling, keeps me fresh - never thought i would try or do it - i have a system where i stay up the next day and go to bed that night - and have had no ill effects

so i would say if it is under control and not too often ............ perhaps you can deal - if not, you have to determine if his behavior is such that it's not ok with you

good luck

 

[just_mills]

I think it's safe to say that Meth & Ecstacy are incomparable drugs; they're completely different.

Personally, I couldn't care less. SWIM (Someone Who Isn't Me) has done it enough times, and never has any problems with it. It is a social drug - No harm in it, as long as you're with people who know you're on it/on it with you. I do think you need to be someone who is able to control yourself though; or not be afraid of letting go.. Thing is, if you're doubtful about trying it, it might be an odd night for you.

SWIM has found no addiction to E, but quite a fun party drug. SWIM hasn't done it for ages, and have no craving for it at all. Prepare yourself for a possible comedown though.. However these can be avoided by taking a Valium before you go to bed. It's either that, deal with it the next day (ain't that bad, really), or try to sleep through the comedown.

A deal-breaker though? Nah, not really.. But everyone is different. SWIM is often around people doing different drugs, and SWIM has no problem with it.

It's a good feeling. MDMA is more euphoric, but that's a whole different story, hahaha.

Look out for yourself, and don't be pressured into something you aren't comfortable doing. If you two aren't meant to be, there will be plenty of other guys out there, that are..

 

[maxpowr9]

Yah I used to be into ecstasy back in my college days and fucking made me a wreck. When I started to have loads of anxiety attacks from crashing, I knew I had to stop all together. I look back on those memories and remember it was fun then but it probably would not be now. My only advice would be to watch your doses and how often you take it and make sure you use it around people you trust. While ecstasy is not addicting, it can do some permanent psychological damage if you are not careful.

Meth is a whole other monster and I would avoid the drug and its users like the plague.

 

[tipmyscales86]

Yah I used to be into ecstasy back in my college days and fucking made me a wreck. When I started to have loads of anxiety attacks from crashing, I knew I had to stop all together. I look back on those memories and remember it was fun then but it probably would not be now. My only advice would be to watch your doses and how often you take it and make sure you use it around people you trust. While ecstasy is not addicting, it can do some permanent psychological damage if you are not careful.

Meth is a whole other monster and I would avoid the drug and its users like the plague.

Pretty much agree with everything you said, and had a similar experience. I did it about a dozen times in a year and a half span. The last time I did it spun me into anxiety attacks and depression, and I realized I couldn't do it anymore. You are right about doing it around people you trust, because that last time I did it, there were these two people with us that I couldn't stand, and it ruined the night. But there were some fun times, the first time was the best. But I don't see myself doing it again.

 

[DietCokeHead]

Ecstasy is a scary drug. Sure, if you do it with the right person it can be amazing. I've rolled with a close friend a few times and it was awesome.

However, I've seen people have seizures on it, and my friend that I did it with lost his mind after coming down. When he is on it, it makes him into a complete nutcase.

But everyone is different. I've done it a handful of times and I was fine.

Would it be a deal breaker? For me it would be situational. If someone couldn't handle it the way my friend can't, yes, probably. But if he is like me and isn't affected by it, then no, I don't see the problem as long as it's not habitual.

 

[hylas]

it has been said before, but xtc and meth are incomparable. im pretty open-minded about drugs and ive done xtc a couple of times before, and im probably gonna do it again sometime. but i would never ever even be casually friends with somebody who does meth.

just an impression of what might be going on in your dates head while doing xtc: usually, it "energizes" you so you can dance all night, and it usually makes you feel all warm and fuzzy inside, like you could embrace every single person on this world. the hang-over on the next day is hell, though.

i think instead of wondering what your "rule" should be regarding dating xtc users, you should just date the sane and responsible, and stay away from the unstable, crazy, and self-destructive. is his behaviour responsible? then its not a problem, is it?

 

[Harke the Boeotarch]

I hate xtc.
I've done it twice and it was crap both times.

My cousin's cousin used it and he jumped off a building. He is now permantly bound to a wheelchair.