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Dating in my age range with premature hairloss

Alive and Free

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I am 23 and Just started my graduate studies and considering I went all through out undergrad be it i wasent out untill the last year without a boyfriend I would like to change that in the next year or 2. I am struggeling witht he fact at 23 my hair has greatly thined out and without a hat this adds the years to my appearence and I think it could be hard to date in my age range with this. Anyone have feedback on this or how to get my hair fixed ? Thanks
 
How can you expect someone else to accept you for who you are, if you cannot first accept yourself?
Anyone who would reject you for losing your hair is not likely to be someone you would want in your life anyway, is he?
You will meet lots of shallow people in your life, weed them out and move on to guys who will look for qualities in you other than the superficial.
I can imagine it is a difficult thing to lose your hair. Hair can be such a sexy thing, but I suspect there are lots of guys who really go for the bald look.

If you are in grad school, obviously you have a lot going for you. Concentrate on that.
 
Why you would want to date in your age range in beyond me. Guys that young are pretty superficial and clueless. Find someone older who can appreciate you.
 
I started losing my hair at age 17. For some reason, it's been a REALLY slow thing - I'm now 37, and it's still very slowly receding.

Riddle me this, Batman. Assume you meet a guy. He's nice, you like him, he looks OK. Only thing against - his hair's a bit thin on top. Would you say "Thanks but no thanks"? Most folks won't. :)

Just be a great, interesting, fun person. There's still a chance someone will reject you because your hair isn't perfect. Those aren't the sorts of guys you'd want to hook up with anyway. :)

Lex
 
tommyj said:
Have you looked at transplants?
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I actually went and a appointment at the hair club for men and they want 2K to glue some hair to my head and $80 per haircut afterwards since it was not gorowing hair. I need to find a good doctor to fix this situation.
 
Some guys find balding HOT on a man... Sad that you have bought into the gay image thing.
 
Look - the best, easiest and cheapest thing you can do is start cropping your hair really close and go for a skin-head or shaved look. Any of the options currently available to slow or disguise hair loss end up being ridiculously expensive, high-maintenance, obviously unnatural-looking and doomed to failure in the long run.

What you want to avoid is becoming obssessive or neurotic about your hairline. We all have our various challenges to face with regard to our appearance and self-esteem. You need to integrate the state of your scalp into the whole picture of who you believe yourself to be. You are more than your hair, I hope. make a virtue of necessity.

The good news is that you like dating guys in your own age group. If you were only attracted to men younger than yourself the situation would be worse. Most men begin to lose their hair from their mid-twenties onwards and as time passes you'll be in good company.

On no account grow a foot-long fringe and comb it over your baldness!
 
Do not get transplants, do not comb over, do not care. Shave your head if possible and emphasize the features that will be attractive by being confident, smiling lots and making it very clear that you are content with what genetics has handed you.

I had thinning hair from the time I was 18 and realized how idiotic it would look to do anything other than to live with it. Maybe it didn't get me some hirsute hotties, but they weren't likely the guys I was interested in anyway. I loved all the ones I did meet.
 
Alive and Free said:
I actually went and a appointment at the hair club for men and they want 2K to glue some hair to my head and $80 per haircut afterwards since it was not gorowing hair. I need to find a good doctor to fix this situation.
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Do NOT do this!!!
 
I would think that anyone who's not interested in you because of your hair wouldn't be approaching you in the first place, nor would you want him, as others have said. I have a friend who's been going bald since 17. He's now almost 25, I'm 30 and I have more hair than he does. He's unbelievably hot, whether he shaves his head completely or lets his hair grow out so you can see he's going bald. The hair doesn't matter, it's the person it's attached to that counts. I doubt it'll affect your dating options. Good luck.
 
>>>I need to find a good doctor to fix this situation.

Perhaps you do - a psychiatrist who can convince you that your selfworth shouldn't be tied directly to the hair follicles on top of your head.

Lex
 
G-Lexington said:
>>>I need to find a good doctor to fix this situation.

Perhaps you do - a psychiatrist who can convince you that your selfworth shouldn't be tied directly to the hair follicles on top of your head.

Lex
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STOP!! Going bald at a young age is a big deal. You saying he needs mental help is ridiculous! He has every right to feel this way. It actually pisses me off that you could spit in his face and tell him he's crazy. And I know you are gonna write you didn't say he's crazy but you told him to see a psychiatrist for a mental problem. You yourself being a bald fat guy should have sympathy.
 
I had a friend in college who got hair plugs in his 20s - they were pretty expensive, but he was happy with the results, even though his friends and I thought they were unnecessary. Elton John seems to be happy with his - he would have been completely bald decades ago without them. A shaved head can be a good look as well, but it may or may not be what you want. It might help if we had a picture of your face to help evaluate the best options.

Do NOT glue hair to your head or use Rogaine or similar products. If you are determined to have hair, implants are the only way to go. They are permanent, the other solutions are not.
 
I started going bald about 6 years ago. I mean it became more prominent. Now I just revel in the fact that I have changed into a different person and have accepted the fact that I no longer have hair and really dig my appearance. At first like yourself I was "down in the dumps" about it. I looked at options like minoxidil, rogaine( same as minoxidil),finesteride and hair transplantation procedures from Hair Club for Men to other methods. I decided that keeping my hair cut close for a nice and neat shaved look or just completely shaving it actually made me look younger. I have accepted myself now more than I ever have in my life and I am more than my hair. It is not the end of the world man....love yourself for who you are with or without hair and try to hook up with those your age that are not so shallow. Good luck and I'm there with you all the way.
 
>>>Going bald at a young age is a big deal. You saying he needs mental help is ridiculous! He has every right to feel this way. It actually pisses me off that you could spit in his face and tell him he's crazy. And I know you are gonna write you didn't say he's crazy but you told him to see a psychiatrist for a mental problem. You yourself being a bald fat guy should have sympathy.

Well, I'd like to think I smacked him lightly on the back of the head rather than spitting in his face. The fact that he's going bald isn't the problem - people go bald all the time, at all ages, and it's a cosmetic thing rather than a medical one. The fact that he thinks going bald is a problem is the problem. I'd like to think he can building up enough self-confidence to continue living his life without always thinking that people are treating him differently because of his hair.

Yes, he can go get "treatment" - be it a medicine or transplants or a weave or what have you. That won't stop the underlying problem, thought - lack of self-confidence.

Lex
 
You can always do a comb-over

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No one will see a difference!
 
patrick stewart starting losing his hair at the age of 19......he did ok for himself :D hehehe

if it bothers you that much, do as someone suggested and go for a shorter, cropped style that looks like your deliberately a little thinner on top.

however, as with many things in life, attitude is everything! try to get to a stage where it doesnt bother you, and project that feeling, people wont notice or treat it as a bad thing if your happy and secure in yourself.

anyone who sees an image and is shallow enough to not see past it to the person within doesnt deserve the time of day.
 
SantaCBear said:
You can always do a comb-over

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No one will see a difference!
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The purpose of this thread I thought was to help this young brother be more accepting of himself and to give him options other than repugnant and ill-advised non-comedic fillerbustering. With photos that are not helping at all like this one. Along with your comment . Perhaps to you and others this may be funny, but remember we are not all perfect human beings with or without hair.
 
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