Deep anal sex hurting

[blazinpapi83188]

So my boyfriend and I have been getting better at anal sex and both of us have recently started to like bottoming. The only problem is that when we push our dicks in deep it will hurt the bottom alot. Is this normal? Some positions are better and dont hurt as much but it will always hurt in any position. Should we just not push in as deep? And to be more specific the pain isnt because our asses are tight.

 

[StlKj]

Pain is your body's way of saying "CUT THAT SHIT OUT!"

You refuse to listen to it at your own peril. If it hurts that much, quit it.

 

[3stripes]

No, dont use numbing lube. You can cause more damage without realising.

Its because your rectum takes a right hand turn as it heads up to your lower colon about six inches in. So in certain positions the top is pushing against the "side wall" of the turn and stretching it causing pain.

So, as you have discovered, work with it by fucking in the right position, and varying stroke length in other positions. "easing it around the corner" slowly is also helpful.

 

[blazinpapi83188]

No, dont use numbing lube. You can cause more damage without realising.

Its because your rectum takes a right hand turn as it heads up to your lower colon about six inches in. So in certain positions the top is pushing against the "side wall" of the turn and stretching it causing pain.

So, as you have discovered, work with it by fucking in the right position, and varying stroke length in other positions. "easing it around the corner" slowly is also helpful.

Thanks alot. I guess practice makes perfect.

 

[tallguy297]

Hey blazin,

Mate, I moved your thread to the health forum as it seems you really want good advice... and this is the best place to get it.

The guys here will offer you advice and support and theres people here with skills and experience to guide you.

Good luck mate!

TG

 

[versatastic]

I have the same problem with guys who are long enough to go that deep. I f you or the other guy is going to go that far, you need to slow it down a bit. The colon isnt static in its position in the abdomen so you can definitely straighten it out for a long cock to be accommodated. The top just needs to be patient and hold it in while he's deep instead of acting like a jackhammer. If you're the bottom, once it doesn't hurt anymore, you wont be able to get enough. Srsly, you'd wish you were in a sling and ten guys were ready to fuck you hard. But maybe I'm just a whore, lol.

 

[12fear99]

Definitely take it slow when starting out. It gets much better with time. Asversatactic stated, once it does not hurt anymore, you will not be able to get enough in any position. Good luck and enjoy every minute.

 

[versatastic]

Which cyberskin do you have? I have the 8 or 9", and it's way too thick for me. it takes too long to get loose enough for it so I never use it. I use the handle of a screwdriver right now among other things, but I'm thinking of buying another Dildo The cyberskin seems to be really nice.

 

[versatastic]

Thanks, but damn that's an expensive Dildo! dear-lady.com has them much cheaper. Now, is this one really 1.25" wide or 1.5"? For the slimline, different online retailers say different things.

 

[KaraBulut]

So my boyfriend and I have been getting better at anal sex and both of us have recently started to like bottoming. The only problem is that when we push our dicks in deep it will hurt the bottom alot. Is this normal? Some positions are better and dont hurt as much but it will always hurt in any position. Should we just not push in as deep? And to be more specific the pain isnt because our asses are tight.

It depends on what kind of pain and where the sensation is occuring.

The points of resistance are the external and internal sphincter. The internal sphincter is about 1" inside the anus. It is usually the source of the most resistance and pain until you learn to completely relax it during sex.

After the internal sphincter, there are two other problematic areas- the prostate and a bend in the colon. When the penis is pushing up against the prostate, many guys say that it feels like an uncomfortable pressure like they need to pee or take a dump. It is also a pleasurable sensation but many guys have to learn to work through the pressure sensation before they can get to the pleasure sensation. The width of the penis seems to be more of a factor since a wide penis will exert more pressure as it passes over the prostate. It takes time for your brain and body to get in synch and perceive the sensation of pressure as a pleasurable sensation instead of discomfort.

Below is a link where there is a discussion between Versastic and I that also provides some pictures of the anatomy involved that might be helpful.

The bend in the colon is an odd sensation but the colon automatically repositions itself as the penis enters. There's a rather unpleasant YouTube video in the thread below that shows a guy taking a wickedly sized dildo and you can actually see the colon reposition itself. Don't look at the video unless you have a strong stomach- it's a little disturbing.

You may need to try different positions with your boyfriend until you adjust to the sensation. Sometimes using a butt plug will also help you adjust to the sensation of fullness. Also, have your boyfriend spend a little time with lube and fingers getting you prepared before anal sex. Over time, your brain and ass will be trained to relax automatically and you will be able to be a little more spontaneous.

As long as you and your boyfriend are of average size (both your dicks and your asses) and you're taking things slow, it's usually just a matter of learning to relax and enjoy the sensations. Some guys are just natural bottoms. Everyone has to learn to enjoy it.

The link to the other thread is here:

http://www.justusboys.com/forum/showthread.php?t=198467