Depression over circumsicion state

[hellomynameis]

Hey there, as the title implies I've been starting to feel depressed over being circumcized. I feel like I'm making a bigger deal out of it than it really is, but I still feel a great feeling of loss. It's gotten to the point that when I see an uncut man's soft penis in porn or elsewhere I feel that sickening stomach drop, sort of like falling on a roller coaster, and I feel jealous and of course upset. I'm an 18 year old virgin and although I'm excited about the chance to finally meet other gay guys when I move to new york city for college this august, I feel like I'm being robbed of an experience when it comes to sex. I'm not really sure how much it would bother me if I were to have sex with an uncut guy. I'd probably feel at least a little jealous and self conscious, but it's not like it's his fault I'm cut so I would look past it as much as I can.

I'm the type of person who tries to look for the positive in negative situations, and I guess there are some... firstly I'm 90% sure I'd only want to bottom when I do have sex so being sensitive is maybe a little less important than if I only wanted to top... and my penis is quite large, particularly for someone so short with small hands/feet... but honestly I'd rather be much smaller and intact than large and cut

I'm aware of "foreskin reconstruction" techniques, which can help reverse dekeratinization, but like I said I'm living at home on my parents' money so I wouldn't be able to try any of those products, at least not until after college. Even if I could I'm not sure I'd be completely comfortable with putting such strange devices on my dick : s. I've heard of manual stretching too but I don't know if I should proceed with that either because 1. the directions for processes I read about confuse me and none have diagrams, and 2. I think my circumcision is tighter than usual because the scar is about half way down my shaft, so I feel like it really wouldn't help much.


I guess the purpose of this thread was to get my feelings about this off my chest, and also to seek reassurance from other cut guys that I can still have a satisfying sex life... and maybe some replies about results achieved through various methods of foreskin restoration would be nice too.

 

[cityboy-stl]

Well, you aren't the only one who feels this way. I've never been happy about it. But sex has always been great so you probably do not have to worry. I do sometimes wonder how much better it would be intact. I don't know if it helps but I know how you feel man. I've never been dedicated enough to do restoration but I know it does work so good luck. You can find a ton of info on the net.

 

[cityboi]

I've had plenty of anonymous and other encounters. Most of the guys of all ages I've been with are cut. I prefer cut because I can see the entire head right from the start. The head is what really turns me on!

 

[Nephelauxetic]

I don't think you should worry at all. Many guys are cut and they have a good sexlife anyway. In fact I don't think that it would be any better if your uncut. The techniques for jerking is a bit different and that's the only difference I see.
If you use condoms, which I hope you do, then you have to (and should) use lots of lube. But the bottom doesn't feel a difference at all. So you are able to top and it will be great if you're comfortable in that role.

On the other hand I really think Americans should stop circumcising their boys. It made sense 3000 years ago where the hygienic situation was much worse. Nowadays that's just concision and doesn't have any benefit at all. It make me sad to see that there are young guys like you loosing parts of their self esteem due to this. Actually parents should read this thread and think a bit more...

 

[HotRiot]

having your skin on does feel good, its softer when you fuck and it protects the penis, but u got cut, so live with it, id rather have a big cut penis then a small uncut penis any day!!!!!! dont do surgey thatill only fuck up your dick!!!!

 

[Rex]

I'm uncut and I'd rather be cut but I would never wanna go through the pain of surgery.

It's really not as big a deal as you're making it out to be. If anything, more people probably prefer cut over uncut.

 

[Corny]

^ If you take into consideration the worldwide amount of cut vs uncut people ... no, probably not.
Anyway, that's not the point. The point is that unlike many that posted here most people don't have a strong feeling about it. Some have a preferences, some would disagree with the technique, but hardly anybody would kick you out of the bed because you're cut or uncut.
Did you ever talk with your parents about why they had it done? Most likely they thought they were acting in your best interest - sure that will not change a thing, but maybe you feel a bit better knowing that. Sexually, you will not have any problems either way.

 

[hellomynameis]

I think he was talking about F22 more than you when he said that getstoseven... but anyway, I guess I do feel a little better now. Like I said, I have a tendency to overreact to everything. It's not like I'm alone, especially in the US... I wish I was ignorant to the issue like most cut guys though. I'm also confused because I've also found studies that suggests there is no significant difference in sensitivity.

Corny; My feelings are not about appearance or anything, just purely the possible loss of sensation. In fact, I like the look of cut a little better but it's not like uncut looks bad (quite the contrary! ) I'm pretty sure it was my mom's decision because of hygiene. my dad was not circumcised and I remember when I was entering puberty he would occasionally tell me to pull the skin back to wash when I shower, so I think he forgot after not changing my diapers for several years.

 

[cityboi]

My cut dickhead is so sensitive I can't imagine it being any more sensitive if I had not been cut.

 

[Corny]

well, you also cannot imagine the sensations that the foreskin gives you, can you?

 

[jamie_01930]

I'm uncut and I'd rather be cut but I would never wanna go through the pain of surgery.
for what it is worth. it really wasn't all that bad to be cut. and I was cut at the age of 50 something. the thought of it is far worst.
a cut cock is cleaner and looks great.

the only down side is the sensitivity loss

 

[PhunkSpunk]

Circumcision as a public health policy was started by the Victorians and endorsed by no less a physician than Sir William Osler as a way to keep young Empire-builders from engaging in morally degrading acts of self-gratification. America, with Imperial aspirations of her won, quickly followed suit. Britain's state-sponsored mohel's knife retired as her empire diminished. Perhaps our own imperial misadventures in Araby will have a similar salutary effect here.

Recently circumcision has been shown to limit the transmission of HIV: the first and so far as I know only demonstrable clinical benefit. However it is not, as pediatricians would have you believe, a painless procedure. Indeed having someone take a blade to your Johnson on your second or third day of life is the most profound violation of person I can imagine. Hell of a way to start out! The decision to snip or no should be left to the individual, not to his parents, and should be performed only when he can make an informed decision and be properly anesthetized!