Depression, self image issues, the grindr mentality....can anything be done?

[offthewall14420]

my bad... barefoot for both

 

[PacificBeach]

my bad... barefoot for both

I was living at the beach then.

 

[tallguy23]

You have to have a thick skin if you're going to use a sex app. Most of the users are normal people who aren't looking to hurt anyone. Having said that, anywhere you find human beings, you'll find at least a few assholes (no pun intended).

Looks go away with time. The "hot" guy right now won't be the shiny trophy in a few years time. You have to have personality and substance to maintain a healthy relationship with anyone.

 

[eastofeden]

You have to have a thick skin if you're going to use a sex app. Most of the users are normal people who aren't looking to hurt anyone. Having said that, anywhere you find human beings, you'll find at least a few assholes (no pun intended).

Looks go away with time. The "hot" guy right now won't be the shiny trophy in a few years time. You have to have personality and substance to maintain a healthy relationship with anyone.

Actually...having been with someone for 30 years who would have been considered very handsome by most people's standards though I will always maintain beauty is in the eye of the beholder and is completely subjective....

...I think he is more handsome and hot NOW...over 50...than when he was 20...because I know him so much more and his character and his soul make him the hot man he is....

So I submit that sometimes beauty grows......not fades.....and when he is walking toward me and I see him before he gets to me I feel excited and a bit fluttery....his evolved self confidence makes his lines so sexy in my eyes...

I feel the same way about Jessica Lange...she has always been sexy to me but now that she is 60+ and not afraid to be her age..I think she is stunning. One of the sexiest things about her is that she embraces her age...so sometimes sexy can and does grow as the person ages....and even becomes more intense and profound....

 

[RicanKicks]

So. I am THAT'S guy. I'm the guy who posts no fats no fems. I want hot muscle guys or athletic looking guys. Handsome. No black guys. And looking for bottoms only. Hot guy bottoms clean dudes. No Raw. I'm STD free I like to keep it that way.

I myself am not as hot as I used to be if anything I'm now an average office workers who gained weight but isn't exactly a fatso. Cock size seems to have gotten smaller over the years.. idk how.. >_>
And I probably last 15 minutes on a good day.

That being said I want only hot muscle guys. Have had some turn me down others offend me just like I used to offend other some years back. Others no show me. All good. I just want sex. I have no intentions of meeting anyone. I don't care for anyone. I have my specific people I care about. So then some dude hits me up some average Joe. Skinny guy or chubby. Wanting to get to know me.. I'm like what part of my profile don't you get? They then feel the need to flare me up and their grinder friends to say I'm an ass and that I'm not hot at all. I'm ugly and no hot guy would let me do them.. and so on. I ignore them and they continue. One profile after another of their little grinder friends.. all I have to say is. Whether I'm unattractive to you or not.
Why should I settle for a lesser male?
Whether the kind of guys I want to fuck want to let me fuck them or not. Why should I have to settle for a weak dude with a weak ass? Granted I get some hot muscle butt every few months. And I rather be sex starved than settle for a mere commoner. Some dudes even say "well ass is ass". No mam. Ass is not ass. There is common ass. And there is what I crave, muscle ass. The feel of it. The look of it. Is quality. I do not settle for inferior ass. For inferior looking guys. I know what I like I like muscular guys athletic guys fit guys. Handsome guys. Quality. I know I sound ugly dude. I know I sound like a horrible person. I am not believe it or not. I simply do not pay mind to dudes I do not like.
When I go to gay bars I go look at the dancers and lust over them. The hot ones of course. It seems to trigger jealousy amongst other dancers. Me I'm just the guy going from point A to point B and looking for a hot guy with a hard beefy muscle ass along the way. I'm not the hottest I'm not the series I am not the most muscular. I am an average Joe who lifts once a week. Cause you know, life. And I get a hot dude every now and then. And it boggled the mind of other gay guys who call me superficial and whine about me not wanting to fuck them. But it's like. If I'm not interested in you and I'm unattractive myself according to them, why bug me?
No pity fucks are given by me oal. Sorry not sorry.

 

[RicanKicks]

Short answer bud, don't take it personal. Move on. Some guys are jerks. Some ignore you because you aren't what they are looking for. Don't have expectations about grinder.. let's be grown ups.. it's mainly a quick fuck app. Want to meet someone and build on it? Find someone at the gym. Best place to start. And careful with STDs
In my city a dude got busted for spreading HIV by hosting at his home. He was a hot looking guy giving it raw to guys who were smitten by him. You have a lot of good looking psychos too bro

 

[RicanKicks]

One more thing. Sounds harsh. I'm now 32. I feel that guys who kill themselves over being rejected is kind of lame and deserve no compassion.
The LGBT community is crap. The mentality is acceptance yet within the LGBT the hot guys are treated like gods of ancient greece. And us mere commoners are expected to worship them. That's why so many guys workout like crazy. Take their disgusting supplements and diet like crazy to be able to be found attractive. Porn stars don't do the mentality any favors.
Us gay men are sexual beasts. Our dicks get hard and we want that hotness. If people broke away from the LGBT mentality there wouldn't be so much nonesense. Guys wouldn't be depressed trying to kill themselves over not looking hot. Diversity is the name of the game, fuck equality. Because fact we are all not exactly equal as my statement above about Greek gods. I have some good fem and fat and or both friends who are funny are awesome yet they feel like shit next to a muscle dude. I have noticed how when a hot dancer approaches me for money I become smitten. With their bods my eyes and smile change and my sexual aura takes over. Pushing my fem and fat friends aside like if they don't exist. Once he leaves I'm back to normal and they get offended internally and I feel it
I been there too on their shoes I know the feeling. It sucks but get over it is all you can do and become strong minded.

 

[jbrown329]

One more thing. Sounds harsh. I'm now 32. I feel that guys who kill themselves over being rejected is kind of lame and deserve no compassion.
The LGBT community is crap. The mentality is acceptance yet within the LGBT the hot guys are treated like gods of ancient greece. And us mere commoners are expected to worship them. That's why so many guys workout like crazy. Take their disgusting supplements and diet like crazy to be able to be found attractive. Porn stars don't do the mentality any favors.
Us gay men are sexual beasts. Our dicks get hard and we want that hotness. If people broke away from the LGBT mentality there wouldn't be so much nonesense. Guys wouldn't be depressed trying to kill themselves over not looking hot. Diversity is the name of the game, fuck equality. Because fact we are all not exactly equal as my statement above about Greek gods. I have some good fem and fat and or both friends who are funny are awesome yet they feel like shit next to a muscle dude. I have noticed how when a hot dancer approaches me for money I become smitten. With their bods my eyes and smile change and my sexual aura takes over. Pushing my fem and fat friends aside like if they don't exist. Once he leaves I'm back to normal and they get offended internally and I feel it
I been there too on their shoes I know the feeling. It sucks but get over it is all you can do and become strong minded.

Yeah, this kind of shit wasn't going on nowhere near as bad 30yrs ago. Back then you occasionally ran into older men that wanted nobody but kids (18-20). Now the majority of older men (40+), that's all they want. Fuck having a relationship with anyone their own age.

I guess if I had lots of money and 'favors', I could get someone too.

 

[PacificBeach]

One more thing. Sounds harsh. I'm now 32. I feel that guys who kill themselves over being rejected is kind of lame and deserve no compassion. .............................................................................. ............................................................................

 

[offthewall14420]

One more thing. Sounds harsh. I'm now 32. I feel that guys who kill themselves over being rejected is kind of lame and deserve no compassion.

I used to say that. Then I learned what depression is and how it fucks with your mind.

Otherwise I feel ya on the rest.