Desensitization of the penis from masturbation? And how to reveres it?

[dolphingunblade]

I’ve been hearing about this for a little while from different places, that over time as guys masturbate they tend to use a tighter and tighter grip on their cocks to increase pleasure which intern desensitizes the penis, so to acheve orgasm again the next time you have to slightly increase the pressure in which you stroke to achieve the same results, and in time you build up a need for that excessive amount of stimulation to continue to achieve orgasm.

So basically my question is how big of an impact does this have, do it actually happen to the point normal penetrative intercourse isn’t enough? And how to fix it or resensitise the penis.

I ask because for the longest time iv jacked off by placing my left thumb and forefinger around the base of my dick then pulling down till the skin of my shaft is semi tight as it feel better to stroke then to do it loose, from there I lube my right hand and stroke up and down while moving my wrist left to right and back to create a screwing motion I don’t grip hard or anything but again my technique is basically maximum pleasure possible per stroke.

I recently tried getting a blow job and giving anal sex, for both I felt little to nothing and actually went limp out of frustration while trying to give anal, at first I assumed maybe I couldn’t feel much from the blowjob because it was the guys first time at giving one so maybe he was just doing it wrong, and for the anal I thought it may be I’m just not used to the condom or I was doing it wrong.

So question two is could my problem be IV desensitized myself or is it something else.

 

[NineOfClubs]

I don't have an answer. But I get the question.

A lot of gay men never have one-on-one sex--they mostly get off on their own.

I've been with them, and I can attest that hot anal or oral doesn't work for them.

It all comes back to how they did it on their own...

 

[Lovethecawk]

For the anal, if you were nervous at all then that could easily make you go limp. A couple months ago a guy cam over and after I gave a BJ I just couldn't get hard. You got hard tho and lost it halfway through... that's a little odd. Did you ever say that you use a lot pressure when you masturbate? All I read is that you use lube. (but your question implies that you use a lot of pressure)

I would say that the guy just didn't turn you on is the most likely answer. How horny you are has a huge affect on pleasure. My best climaxes are when I'm so horny I can't even think straight. I would say the key to the best orgasm and pleasure is finding the thing that turns you on the most; and it might not be anything sexual. I personally love diapers and cross dressing. I really enjoy jacking off wearing a dress and find that I just have a much better session when I indulge myself.

 

[ronnie_h]

It's something else. Most probably in your head.

After more than 30 years of masturbation it's still as good as it used to be, maybe even better. If I'm in the right mood and/or the partner is right I just need the slightest touch and very light stimulans to get me off. The only difference I've seen over the years that it's harder to excite me and while almost every man turned me on in my younger years it now needs a special guy.

A lot of sex is a head thing (the big one on your neck) and about how horny you are. Sometimes you feel like having sex but you're not horny enough or the feeling isn't right. Then it requires some extra energy to get off if you really want to. But it got nothing to do with desensitization. Your little fellow is going to work just fine, even after years and years of extensive, pleasuring use.

 

[gotdimples77]

I have been worried about this as well, however I think it has to do with how often you masterbate as well as how much pressure. If I havent jerked off in a couple days I can get off really easy no matter what the stimulation is practically. usually i jerk off two or three times a day though and that takes longer to pop.

 

[JustJuice]

The effect is real, I've experienced it, and I've worked out how to get rid of it. It's easy. Stop masturbating using your hand. When you use your hand, you're sending two messages to your brain. One from your cock, the other from your hand. Your brain gets used to the two sets of signals.

Now, when you masturbate using another method (say rubbing your cock on the bed when you're lying on your side) it will take a long time to orgasm the first time. It took me nearly an hour the first time. But after about 4 or 5 times I was back to the usual less than 5 minutes.

The next time I have sex (when that happens, I have no idea), I plan to use this method, or ask to be masturbated (the effect is the same, but you need someone else to help you...) for about a week before I have sex.

 

[dolphingunblade]

wouldent that make it worst? i mean dosnt useing the bed chafe further numbing the area as the body protects itself from future discomfert?

 

[lilman]

im going to DEFF try using something other than my hand and see if this works lol i know what ur talking about hahaha

 

[USEDCAR]

What about using a sex toy a flesh light or something similar?

I used to use the hand to masturbate a co-worker brought me a pocket pussy and it took masturbation to a whole new level

 

[dolphingunblade]

not shure. iv also been meaning to make a thread about toys like the fleshlight, ie like if its worth it or not. but im not 100% shure what catagory it goes under

 

[Hello-Good-Bi]

I think its very important to switch up the ways in which you jerk off for a few reasons. To a degree, one reason is desensitivation, coupled with discovering new and maybe better sensations along the way. Another reason is that I don't want to get in a "rut" and not be able to have my partner get me off! To me there's nothing better than laying back and getting worked over by my guy. I'd be mad as hell if I couldn't get off that way because my cock was only used to "me".

I think a good thing to do is to relax your grip when you're jerking off, and concentrate on how good it feels in the moment, not necessarily focusing on the race to finish. Relax.

 

[Kratos1]

wouldent that make it worst? i mean dosnt useing the bed chafe further numbing the area as the body protects itself from future discomfert?

I would agree, others may not. There is a comparable argument with regards to if a guy has a foreskin or not i.e if he is cut the head has to become less sensitive to stop the constant feelings of rubbing from underwear etc. The head basically dries out and a thin layer of skin forms on the top to achieve that (Look at pictures of uncut and cut guys, the uncut heads tend to look more sensitive, with purple colours and a moist appearance).

So I would never masturbate raw unless you really wanted to, always use lube or a "sleeve" that others have mentioned above.

Finally a reduction in sensitivity IS normal (for both un/cut)... when I was young I could feel more with less friction or touching for sure... Still good now though!