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Did something I really shouldn't have

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Ok tonight was my first night drinking ever and I was doing it with my best friend who is straight and well we end up drinking way too much and i ended up jacking him off. This is the worst thing I've ever done and i done want to lose my friend. What should I do? I don't want to lose my best friend. I'm still drunk bytes freaking the gell out
 
Talk to him, but don't panic and freak him out about it. Be calm and open. Let him know your friendship for him is the most important thing and not any attraction that happened that resulted in the hand job. Keep us posted.
 
The worst thing is that I'm not
attracted to him and I don't want him to think I am. Not exactly sure how I'm goingr to explain that one .
 
You just learned a VERY valuable lesson about drinking: don't over-do it! You'll regret it the next day in several ways. . . .
 
So just be honest w/him and tell him exactly how you feel, and that it was a drunken thing that happened.

what info you don't tell us is does he know your gay, how did it start,---> he or you. was he passed out/awake, did he know it was happening, did he cum from it, cuz this might have a bearing on how you start the conversation. And point out the main issue that you value his friendship more, and that your not hung up on him.
 
Welcome to JUB. "Ended up jacking him off" doesn't give me enough information. Was he passed out? Was he playful? Did he whip it out and tease you? It took two people to do what was done and unless you attacked him he bears 50% responsibility. Don't allow homophobia to allow 100% of the blame to go to you.

As for alcohol, it's a widely socially accepted drug, but a drug nonetheless and is not for everyone. Bottles, cans and other containers of it could have the warning, "caution, the consumption of this beverage lowers inhibitions and can cause words and actions that can hurt oneself or others. Use with care and don't operate machinery while under the influence."
 
He knows I'm gay and he was awake but pretty damn drunk and it all started because he told me how hard he was getting so I just pulled it out and went to work. In a pretty weak voice he started say saying "I'm not gay", "what are you doing", and "stop" but then he just ended up taking his pants off all the way and rubbing my legs with his hands and then he would start grabbing my hand and making me go fast. But some times he would push my hand a way but then go back to do doing the things mentioned above. He did cum and I kinda feel like I basically raped him.
 
I agree with Seasoned that he was a willing participant, but you are feeling guilty for a reason and you are owning up to it. All you can do now is hope you haven't damaged the relationship. It's probably better to talk to him about it rather than letting it become a root of bitterness between you.
 
We had A LOT to drink and as far as I know he's still asleep on the couch and I'm kind of afraid to get up and find out. I managed to crawl down the hall and make it to a bedroom.
 
Don't freak out....be relaxed and kind of just pass it off as an 'oops' type thing. Just say something along the line that you were really drunk and things got a bit crazy, that it ain't happening again...apologize and chuckle. If you stay calm and blow it off, he will too. Then ask him if he wants coffee.

I don't think you really have anything to apologize for, but it probably will help ease the awkwardness of the situation...
 
Hey at least you didn't wake up next to a girl in your bed, and realized you had sex with her didn't remember sleeping with her. I had that happen to me once, was super awkward explaining to her that I am gay and I am not attracted to her. Because they see thinks it was just a one night stand with a really bad excuse. So yeah that kind of killed me ever being friends with her, but to be honest I Didn't even know who she was.

You learned a important lesson, dont drink past your limit. when I drink past my limit my flamboyance con-cons like a butterfly who wants shit glitter on everything. Everyone Who knows I am gay basically found out when I was drunk or Hitted on me and I just told them flat out I was gay not interested. Otherwise they would have never of know because I am relatively masculine guy.

It could of been a lot worse buddy, in number of ways. Just do what everyone else said, shallow your nerves and prepare for awkward conversation, it is much much much better then not talking about it all, I know personally from personal experience. Most likely its just going be a test of your friendship and just turn out to be one those secrets that only you 2 know.
 
jaysizzles said:
Don't freak out....be relaxed and kind of just pass it off as an 'oops' type thing. Just say something along the line that you were really drunk and things got a bit crazy, that it ain't happening again...apologize and chuckle. If you stay calm and blow it off, he will too. Then ask him if he wants coffee. I don't think you really have anything to apologize for, but it probably will help ease the awkwardness of the situation...
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hi RedPhenix69,

Welcome to Jub and good to hear your friend is aware that you are a gay guy. It means that he is not a homophobe and that he is cool that one of his best friends is a gay guy. Well, such kind of things can happen when both of you were very drunk.

Jaysizzles gave a very good advice. Be relaxed, and apologize for what has happened, and explain that both of you were very drunk (etc.). Hey man, he is also a guy. Does he has experiences with girls?

Good luck and please keep us informed. Feel also free to ask for more advice.

Take care & best wishes.
 
You're not the first person to have gotten drunk and ended up with a regrettable bedmate. You were both smashed, what happened happend, and there's no sense to making a big thing out of it. If the subject comes up, be honest and say you realize now what you two did was not the best idea, but that you value him as a friend and want to continue being friends. I'll bet real money your friend files this under "it never happened" and never mentions it.
 
If this is the last time you or your friend get drunk and do something stupid, you'll be lucky.

If he remembers what happened, then apologize and make sure he knows that you don't want to fuck up a friendship.

And then you both should forget it happened. And try to not get so stupid drunk that you do stupid things.
 
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