do i have a chance with my friend?

[Danugh]

This one is tricky. I read it 3 times. The first time i said, yes have a damn good chance. But after the third read, i got more of a him trusting you and accepting you as a bisexual friend.

So i wouldn't do anything to jeopardize the friendship you two have had.

only once have i woken up with my hand on his crotch and his hand on top of mine, which just happened this year.

^ That part was very curious and it seems to me that if anything were to happen thats when it should have happened, when your hand was on his crotch. Thats what you call, missed opportunity.


If anything were to happen in future, i say it has to be him who initiates it, NOT YOU.

 

[SilverRRCloud]

Frankly, you want to re-define 'friend' in your books.

You have known each other for 4 years now? He knows, you are 'bi'? He comes over and shares a relatively small bed with you? You sleep over at his place? You talk about the girls? He is not having any? He likes to hang around with you?

Sorry for my being blunt here, but what are the two post HS kids, who are good pals, talking about, if it is not sex and getting some??? Are you guys monks or hermits or bible enthusiasts sworn to an everlasting celibacy???

My advice: leave out this whole 'I am bi story'. And leave his remarks 'I am watching film with A Girl'. If he is, good for him. This isn't exactly forbidden.

If you like the dude, and want to mess around with him, which as we all know may jeopardize the 'friendship' at hand, put on your moves on him and get rolling in the hay. That's all.

If not, play with your x-box and look for sex somewhere else.

SC

 

[8tomtoms8]

I think he's certainly bi if not gay. Sounds like he isn't real comfortable with his sexuality yet. If you really value his trust and friendship, I would let him make the first move, which he may never do with you. If you pressure him, he'll prabably just close off from you. The thing is once you guys begin a physical relationship the friendship will be forever changed and may become very awkward.

 

[TheTrish]

anyone else have anythign to say?

Hi, zero! Are you two going off to college next year where you can experiment in privacy?

In the final, tho, you are too young to enter into confusing situation. Wait til you know yourself and your partner knows himself.

T

 

[Matthew-]

ok and i forgot to mention, when we were going into our sophmore year he told me he was bisexual and he had never told anyone before, and i was so shocked and excited i didnt know what to say, so i just asked him how long he knew and he said for a lil while and i was like damn this is too good to be true so i decided i was gonna tell him about me in the morning, and neither of us didnt say anythign for about 15min and he finnally said "o im just kidding, as he like tickeled me. and recently we havent really been hanging out as much as we used to, but im 18 and hes 19 and we still sleep in the same bed lol and my best friend who is strait said if he knew i liked him or had any reason to think so he wouldnt ever sleep in the same bed as me lol so thats directly from a strait guy

I think this might show that the friend who sleep in your bed is at least a little bit interested...

 

[RRRalph]

i have a friend that ive liked for about 4 yrs now. over this time we have stayed the night at each others houses many of times, and we sleep in the same bed.

he told me he was bisexual. he finnally said "o im just kidding, as he like tickeled me.

Make a move dude. You sleep in the same freaking bed. At least tell him that you like him.

 

[AresIncarnate]

Ok, I'm not being mean here; I promise.
6' 280lbs is pretty big. Are you sure he doesn't have low self-esteem about his weight and it's impact on a relationship? i.e. maybe he feels inadequate in some way, and he's afraid to make a move.

I'm only saying this because I have a few friends who are bigger. Sometimes they feel that nobody could love them that way because of their size. They let people they like (women in this case) close to them, but they never make a move because they think it's pointless. They don't want to mess up a good friendship.

Just a thought