Do I need a phyciatrist?

[lonely23]

Warning: This post is very long and very depressing.

I feel like my whole life has revolved around my sexuality I have been so confused and conflicted my whole life about liking guys and girls that ive pretty much excluded myself from everything and everyone ive let it take over. I don't have any real friends cause i only talk to people im sexually attracted to(which I know is a problem in itself) I've never had a girlfriend before even though i like girls ive never really liked them as much as i like guys which gets even worse b/c there are times I get physically sick when i watch gay porn and I don't even know why i do it. And I know that most guys who say they're not gay are usually the gayest of them all but i really dont think i am because there are things about both guys and girls that i really like but there are times when my mind gets so scrambled that im not even attracted to guys or girls. I feel like my childhood didn't help either from going to a horrible middle/high school that was in a completely different city from where i was living(where the weren't many black kids) to being born without a father even to having the greatest mother in the world who i actually think is a little crazy(for reasons im not going to get into). I don't smoke, I don't drink, I don't play any sports, I don't like being around alot of people which all contributes to me not being very sociable and not having many people to talk to or have anything to talk about . Im just waiting for things to get better for my real life to actually begin but i don't how to make it happen I don't know where to start. I know most of u well say i need to get out more and meet more people but how can i when im so screwed up I guess I just need some advise which brings me to my orginal question do I need a phyciatrist do you think they can really help me?

 

[JNewYork]

Hey,

You ask the question "do i need a psychiatrist" as if the answer is yes then that would mean you're fucked up.

The truth is that ALL people could use some counseling in their lives, especially those of us dealing with sexuality issues and those of us who are adolescents.

You don't necessarily need a shrink as much as a counselor, a psychologist.

Check out some free counseling services and do NOT be ashamed about seeking help. Nowadays there's no shame in regularly seeking therapy.

For YEARS I suffered when I could have been helped by going to a counselor. Many problems work themselves out after a lot of years. But why wait that long when a counselor can help you now.

You'll feel a lot better talking with a trained pro. She or he will help you come to terms with who you are and they will help you be at peace with who you are.

There's nothing wrong with you. Sexuality issues are not always clear cut. A counselor will help you sort things out.

Don't do it alone, like I did.

 

[PhoenixRandall]

Perhaps you should see a therapist of some sort. Start with a school counselor or a psychologist first...they will send you to a psychiatrist if you need it. (psychiatrists are more physical / mental..they deal in brain chemicals and tangible things like that) Couselors and psychologists are more therapists and can help you sort out the things that you mentioned in your post....it just takes time.


Last thought, seeking help from a trained professional is a good thing. It is not a sign of weakness or craziness or a sign that there is something seriously wrong with you. None of them run around their offices with syringes full of mind altering drugs looking for a patient to commit to an asylum...they're good people that are there to help.

Good luck!

 

[sentirpromesas]

any counselor will do you a world of good. Don't think of it as something only crazy people do. Most of us benefit from a helpful hearing ear.

 

[pinoy-pride]

its not depressing, u maybe need sum people u can talk to, people that get u, I didn't play any sports in high school, I worked a lot, I didn't and currently do not have a lot of friends, I mean I have like friends that I talk to but I never go out, I didn't go to a school with a lot of black ppl, I'm filipino and black, so I dnt think its necessarily a 'race' issue, i just think maybe u need friends to talk to. the friends I have now I met all thru working. I now have sum of the best friends I could possibly have and met sum of the coolest ppl

 

[tucaz7]

You seem to understand yourself quite well. You are aware of some of the issues/flaws that make you unhappy. React to this knowledge and start thinking and experimenting out of your comfort areas to change what makes you unhappy.
If you are unable to make the changes, then you should probably seek professional help. They can help immensely.
Waiting for change will not help, most of the time the outcome will also not be what you desire.

You are not alone in your sexuality confusion, many suffer for a large part of their life. Dont let it stay a problem.
I wish you luck!

P.S. As a man, your penis will not easily surrender control.

 

[jwarren69]

hey man i have touches of the exact thing you're feeling every now and again and you should know that you're not alone. we are all given circumstances that can either make or breaks our spirits, and some of the time we become broken with whatever it is we're given. it may seem hard to relate to anyone around you but the only mistake you're making is thinking that you're the only person who feels what you feel. there are so many people who have a hard to with the reality of Reality, and the fact that you are admitting to it and expressing it means that you are so much more ahead of those who may forever be afraid of everything. there isnt anything wrong with you any more than what there is wrong with the rest of us. we all have different challenges. as you are asking and doubting on here, seeking help, know that your admittance that something needs to change is the best step into actually getting closer to happiness. i haven't gone to therapy yet, but i know i will soon, because it's healthy and as many have said above, everyone needs therapy. it's a place to go to begin the process of defragmentation, where you can let go of the things that plague you. and i have a feeling it's not just the obsession with sex that bothers you. i totally hear you. there are times where i feel like i am good for absolutely nothing, and in an even worse feeling, i know at one point i had so much potential. and in that nothingness, the only thing that pulls me into attention is the sexual part of me, and it's a scary thing.
if you know that you can't heal alone, its perfectly fine to let another help. in that case seek therapy, but don't every believe that you are a lesser human being for doing so. in fact, our flaws are what make us human. chin up, have hope.

if you can, and i am not sure if this will help, but it helped me immensely, go to barnes and noble and pick up the book 'On the Shortness of Life' by the roman philosopher Seneca. There's so much that he says that I am sure you would agree with.

Good luck man and be willing to heal!

 

[PhoenixRandall]

google "asexual"

Bjornb - why dont' you google "insensitive asshole?! What you'll find is a "written mirror."