Do I risk it all?

[Nibbler]

I'll start of with some introductions. I go by nibbler and I am 18 as of this year. I am mostly bi-curious currently because I haven't tried anything but have been interested for a while now. I have always wanted to come out and ask if I can try something with one of my buddies from school but I'm always afraid that if he takes great offense to it he might go around and tell everyone as well as maybe not talk to me anymore. There was one guy in particular, he has a girlfriend currently but they aren't too serious(well at least by his standards). The reasoning for me wanting to go ahead with him is small little things here and there I noticed but I'm still unsure about it. Some examples are when I'm about to leave his house he won't want me to leave even though we were just sitting around for the last hour doing our own thing. Other things are constantly stretching showing off his belly and look at me when someone makes a weird or awkward comment that makes most people uncomfortable. So now I am going camping with a couple of buddies in a few days including him and I'm am car pooling with him specifically. I wouldn't want to try anything there because people might see us but I don't know if I should just live in the shadow and not try anything or go for it. Is there some more ways to kind of push towards it without straight up asking or diving in. From what I have said are these even enough signs to go for it? I know he is having sex with his girlfriend but could he still just be bi? or simply wanting pleasure.

Any advice or help would be awesome

 

[Georgiadude]

I don't find anything you said even a hint that he's interested in trying anything. on the contrary you said he's straight, has a gf and they have sex. sounds to me like he's straight until proven otherwise. I think approaching him while car pooling or while camping could make for a long awkward weekend. I understand wanting to explore and try things. I remember what it's like all to well. at least these days things are more open and there are apps and computer sites that can help you find someone. don't be in a hurry to just get it out of the way. take a look around and see if you can find a better candidate. trust me they're out there. you're young and have lots of time to find someone.

Steven

 

[LAPan75]

Could always ask him if he's Bi, because you noticed a few things.... without revealing your own sexuality.​

 

[62624rd]

i agree with Georgiadude.

 

[KaraBulut]

I don't find anything you said even a hint that he's interested in trying anything. on the contrary you said he's straight, has a gf and they have sex. sounds to me like he's straight until proven otherwise....don't be in a hurry to just get it out of the way. take a look around and see if you can find a better candidate. trust me they're out there. you're young and have lots of time to find someone.

^QFT

It's very tempting, when you're in your situation, to project your feelings onto other people. It's not a good idea to do this. If you want to know how someone feels, ask them. When they tell you, believe them.

It is amazing how much things change the summer following graduation. Things get much easier and clearer. You'll meet a lot of openly gay and bi people. Experimenting and exploring will be much easier.

In the meantime, respect your friends and don't let your horniness make you do things that you'll regret later.

 

[lambdaboy]

Many areas have gay hotlines and Gay youth groups. You can meet people like yourself Where do you live by that I mean country and/or state maybe we can help!

 

[Seasoned]

KaraBulet writes about horniness taking over rational thought. The horny guy in the closet is hypersensitive to every sexual nuance around him. God, I know I was! The closet is not only awkward and frustrating. It can also be socially, emotionally and physically dangerous.

Over and over again in the years I've been here I've read advice suggesting that someone like you ask if a friend or acquaintance is bi or guy. That has never set well with me. A person holding a known secret asking someone else if they have a secret is cowardly and silly. Why would they be any more inclined than you to "confess?"

 

[borg69unimatrix]

Your young lusty hormones are trying to assert themselves, even to the point of making you see signals that aren't there to let themselves out, in desperation. Unfortunately you can be your own worse enemy.

Join a gay youth group in your area and hang out with other gay youths your age. Hopefully something might develop there, in the safety and obscurity of not turning your rabid lusty desires on your straight friends and embarrassing yourself greatly.

 

[checkinthingsout]

^QFT

It is amazing how much things change the summer following graduation. Things get much easier and clearer. You'll meet a lot of openly gay and bi people. Experimenting and exploring will be much easier.

Summer after graduation really does change your perspective, especially if you go to College/University. You will meet TONS of new guys who are both out and in the closet who might actually want to experiment with you and do more than "hint" at it. Don't ruin a friendship that didn't need to be ruined.