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Do I tell him?

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Hey, remember when you asked me if I was gay? Well, I am [bi]. I was just.. embarrassed at the time.

Something like that. Of course you tell him! :) He told you he's gay and gave you his number... C'mon now.
 
^ Absolutely this approach. You don't have to tell him you were embarrassed but that you think you're bisexual and don't know how to tell people easily about your sexuality because both gays and straights sometimes have weird reactions.

And then ask him to hang out with you.
 
Yeap, sounds like a good plan, what the previous posters said. You can even tell him exactly what you told us here. It is a very logical argument and I'm sure he'd understand.

As to whether he likes you or not, well...he did give you his number, so just take it from there. Study together, maybe meet up for something beyond studying, like watching some of the TV series you were talking about and see what happens! I would suggest however that you first let him know that you're bi. That would clear things up a bit!
 
Why worrry about telling him.? Just continue to be a good friend. Friendships have a way of developing into something more than just friendship. When the sex happens you can then both be surprised. No seduction will be needed if you want it and he wants it too. The sex will confirm the bond that has come to be between you.

The great thing about such sex is that it just becomes more fantastic with each re-confirmation! IMHO the greatest hindrance to the development of healthy sexual relationships is the notion that sex builds the relationship. No, it is the other way around: IT IS THE RELATIONSHIP THAT MAKES THE SEX HAPPEN SO THAT BOTH THE SEX AND THE RELATIONSHIP ARE GREAT.
 
Of course you tell him. Honesty is a foundation for friendship.
 
OMG, DON'T TELL HIM!!!!! Imagine what would happen if you did. He might hate you for being gay. It's better to keep these things to yourself. And now that you know he's gay and you've said that you're not gay, you have the superior moral high ground because gays are not as good as heteros. Being gay is a bad thing. I would never tell anyone I'm gay. My boyfriend still wonders if I'm gay or not. Why last night as I was coming with his dick all the way inside me, he said, "you're gay, come on admit it." And I said, "fuck off faggot, I'm straight, just like all the gay porn stars."
So DON'T TELL HIM. You will forever be known as a gay guy. And who would want that?
 
Me and a friend denied being gay to each other when given the chance, but we later found out we were both 'mos. We talked again, apologized and are now on good terms.


I did it, and so am you.
 
Well, as much as I loathe facespacebookpagetwittertext as a means of communication, I suppose sending him something he can read and re-read quietly may be a second best approach.

Don't do it in txtspk though.

Write out a proper text and be sure to tell him up front that the reason you couldn't tell him in person was your own fear that he might think that you had not been truthful with him.

Then ask to see him once he's read the text. Do not tell him you're madly in love with him or anything like that.

Tell him that you've been thinking over his question since he asked it (true) and that you are coming to a realization about yourself that you are in fact bi-sexual.
 
^^^

Not a big fan of the FB confession or email but if you keep stammering over this, it might be easier to get it out in the open if you write it out.

Just please, not over text message.

The suggestions above sound great, so something like:

"I wanted to tell you that I'm glad you told me that you were gay. I was caught off guard when you asked me if I was gay and I didn't quite know what to say. I just want to clear the air and tell you that while I've always considered myself straight, I'm probably bi or bi-curious. It's not something that I've told many people and I have just been too shy to tell you in person but I wanted to be honest about it".
 
ah just tell him. Even by txt its not like you're telling him you're dieing.
 
I would tell him by text if you feel uncomfortable telling him in person. Be honest. Tell him that you have tried but couldn't bring yourself to do it in person. Surely he has been through the same thing himself. So he will understand. You will be glad you did it.
 
Tell him you were unsure of what his response would be if you announced it. Say that his saying he was gay, encouraged you, and now it's your turn to come clean.

(it worked for me once, and we're good friends now)
 
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