Do str8 guys check out other guys?

[longway2happy]

Do straight guys check out other dudes and do they ever fantasize about being with another guy?

 

[AngelFromAbove]

Yes and yes. Straight men can check other men out to compare themselves or out of random curiosity. It does not mean that they are attracted. In addition, it's possible that they would fantasize as well, and be straight in reality. Now, if these same men are fantasizing about men on a regular basis, the question marks go up.

 

[Adan0316CumOnMe]

Yeah guys are always checking out other guys my straight friend says he does it so he knows what kind of competition is out there ... lol I find that hard to believe sometimes

 

[IceFier]

There's a fine line between checking out the competition and checking under the hood!!!!

 

[bulge]

Men systematically check each others crotch.

http://www.kottke.org/07/03/men-look-at-crotches

I think Desmond Morris wrote about it.

It seems men want to know how big and hung the other guy is.

Str8 men are quite homosocial and tend to have much more activities with other men than with women. Hazing in all-male groups is quite common and has many male-to-male sexual components as if men want to evacuate all homosexuality within the group from the very beginning and as if they want to check out a new comer sexually. Sex awareness in guys in general and especially in str8 guys is extreme. As soon as 2 str8 guys are together and there is the slightest thing happening vaguely suggesting anything looking from very far like something vaguely homosexual, reaction is immediate. This immediacy indicates extreme strong awareness of what could sexually happen between the 2 guys. I think male-to-male awareness is extreme in guys. Pairs are paramount, much more than any woman.

 

[Rex]

He's not exaggerating any more than the guys here who think all straight men want to fuck other men.

I agree with Al Kane. Guys check each other out for comparison and it's a big testing of egos thing. Guys love the feeling that they can take another guy in a fight, and sometimes they will check a guy out to measure themselves up to him.

It's not sexual at all if the guy is really straight. It seems to be a big trend nowadays on this forum to manipulate the meaning of the word straight. Seems like you can have all the sex you want with men and still be considered straight. I believe everyone has atleast a little curiosity about their same sex but if a guy is fantasizing about being with a man on a regular basis, NO they aren't straight.

 

[cityboi]

It's been documented since forever that men are always discreetly checking out other men in locker rooms as comparisons.

 

[Conflicted]

I had a period of major confusion over this. As a human being with eyeballs in my head, I of course can tell when somebody is good looking and when they are not. With a guy, I don't think "wow, he's hot". I just have the unconscious knowledge that he's the type that girls really go nuts for. It's usually a jealous, "fuck this pretty boy" (insult...don't read that the wrong way!) feeling. It's a jealously feeling because I feel inferior, less, etc...so it turns to hatred and opposition.

I do understand the competitive thing too, of course. I don't study a body for weak points or anything like that, but I am on the defensive and have that fight mode set. "If he was to attack, what would I do"? Of course, there is the "who's cooler" thing as well.

I've had a lot of what is called "man crushes". Being involved with music, I've actually met and befriended many of my "man crushes". But there isn't anything homosexual involved. I can't even think of that with these guys. When I questioned if I was gay/bi for having strong thoughts and wanting to emulate other guys and thinking of them, I consciously tried to think of them sexually..and it just doesn't work. It's more like an unpleasant nightmare than a pleasurable fantasy and nothing arousing about it.

 

[Marksman]

Yes, str8 guys check out other guys, but they are habitually late in returning them.

Now that's funny.

 

[mike_n_herrin]

As has already been said I think a fair number of guys check each other out. Just because one person hasn't experienced anyone checking him out in the locker room doesn't mean no one has. Since people obviously have experienced it suggests it does indeed happen. It doesn't surprise me. It doesn't make those guys bi or gay, it just means they are checking out the competition regardless of whether they are really competition or not.

There is a little bit of hostility creeping into some posts here. Lets tone it down a bit please.

 

[Conflicted]

I know for a fact that most, if not all guys "look" at other men. This is how we find our own identity, to look at others of our own kind to find ourselves. From everything to our body type, hair style and the clothing that we wear. We largely base and build our own identity on other guys. Of course, some are going to appeal to us more than others. Some guy might stick out and strike a cord with us much more than others. We see in him what we want to be and what we want. Doesn't mean we want HIM.

This is especially true when you're younger. A lot of guys going through puberty are looking to other guys to find their own identity and popping boners left and right at this age. Which of course, could sometimes lead to confusion. I think this is why young men often stress and worry that they might be gay or bisexual. You see it online all the time.

The different between straight and gay/bi men, is that there is no sexual attraction and no possibility of romance. You might want to be close friends with a guy and even put that friendship before relationships with women (remember "bros before hoes" is a term from the straight world)....but it's more of a brother type of relationship.

 

[Rex]

I know for a fact that most, if not all guys "look" at other men. This is how we find our own identity, to look at others of our own kind to find ourselves. From everything to our body type, hair style and the clothing that we wear. We largely base and build our own identity on other guys. Of course, some are going to appeal to us more than others. Some guy might stick out and strike a cord with us much more than others. We see in him what we want to be and what we want. Doesn't mean we want HIM.

This is especially true when you're younger. A lot of guys going through puberty are looking to other guys to find their own identity and popping boners left and right at this age. Which of course, could sometimes lead to confusion. I think this is why young men often stress and worry that they might be gay or bisexual. You see it online all the time.

The different between straight and gay/bi men, is that there is no sexual attraction and no possibility of romance. You might want to be close friends with a guy and even put that friendship before relationships with women (remember "bros before hoes" is a term from the straight world)....but it's more of a brother type of relationship.

Good posts.

I just have one question. I'm assuming you're straight. Why is your screen name Conflicted. It kind of gives off a different message? Are you straight or bi?

 

[Conflicted]

This screen name dates back to when I first joined and really doesn't hold any meaning today. The only reason I joined is because of a sexual identity freak out that robbed me of a lot of time and productivity. If you view my other posts, you'll most likely find the first topic I ever posted.

I believe myself to be straight, regardless of some behavior I took part in in the past and still do today here and there. What others think of men, doesn't matter much. I've always been too much of a deep thinker with a great sense of self to not know myself well.

I was just able to separate my true sexual orientation and my interests in porn and getting off. Which many might think are connected, but I've always known deep inside they weren't and these days I realized my problem was a porn/sexual addiction with some deep seeded psychological issues that manifested into sexual fantasy. There is a difference between who I see in the mirror and myself in day-to-day life and the person in front of the computer screen looking at porn and in sex chat rooms. Unlike a gay/bi man, the later is not the real identity. It always felt like a role and an act...not an expression of me true self.

It's a very complex issue.

I don't think any gay/bi man has read as much as I had and pondered as much as I had. The only conclusion I ever come to is that I am straight.

I also have OCD, which confuses things even more. Much of my "gay" thoughts were always intrusive and unwanted....and never bring me real pleasure. I'd imagine it's different for gay bi men. Even though they might be uncomfortable with them at first, they aren't intrusive and get in the way of what you want to do.

 

[SleepersLairDoc]

In my experience a straight guy (meaning 98.9999%) which in my opinion is about as straight as anyone gets still as said in many ways above does still check out other guys.

If by straight we mean a homophobic male, that's a much more complicated question, since most homophobic men are actually in doubt and afraid of their own sexuality.

My own experience has shown that a well adjusted straight male who acts on his own sexuality is comfortable with what ever another persons orientation is.

-(©¿©)- Doc

 

[thiskidd24]

no problem, its a crazy world with crazy people, dont slip out there, anything can happen at anytime,

just ask 9/11 survivors and sean bell's widow.

i really dont think most people size up others in this way, do you? i dont think that the average person could systematically eye each area you were describing w/o some kind of training. i dont know what crazy part of the world you live in, but i dont think that most people live in areas where that kind of knowledge is necessary for survival anymore. but thanks for the tip