do you have any patterns in your dating life?

[maxpowr9]

I feel your plight loki. I had a guy dump me recently (we only went out for 2 months so nothing too serious) and I was more appalled by the fact that he dumped me via text while I was at work than the actual dumping. Since I know someone may bring it up, the dump was more mutual but he initiated it. Even before I met him, it was basically the same thing as you.

I dunno, I just think some guys are way too picky (at least the ones I find). Maybe I will meet someone at pride this coming weekend.

 

[cliffdweller]

I just got out of a five-year relationship. I'm starting to think that I'm just too goddamn introverted for relationships - none of them seem to be able to get the fact that I need *lots* of alone time and am naturally very low-energy. They end up resenting me for "never wanting to do anything" and I end up resenting them for not leaving me the fuck alone. lol

 

[Diablo1]

Well I'm glad to see I'm not the only one I'm usually good for two dates before a guy drops of the face of the Earth. The best I can come up with is that I'm a little slow I'm typically oblivious to signals until after opportunities have been missed...I like to know a guy first before moving further. Maybe it comes off as disinterest?

 

[Audio Tech]

Well I'm glad to see I'm not the only one I'm usually good for two dates before a guy drops of the face of the Earth. The best I can come up with is that I'm a little slow I'm typically oblivious to signals until after opportunities have been missed...I like to know a guy first before moving further. Maybe it comes off as disinterest?

Pretty much the same here. I like to get to know someone a while before I even think of anything further. Let's face it, I'm not a teen anymore, so lust isn't the first emotion when I meet someone. And then there is the issue that I feel dating is a damn chore. I just don't enjoy the process, the forced agenda, and HAVING to go and eat every time. Maybe I'm not always hungry?

In the end, I think I do come off as not interested, even though I plainly tell my date when I am. I'm just not a rushed person and do need my space.

It sucks..... but eventually I'll meet someone that's more on my wavelength.

 

[BlackAdam13]

I just got out of a five-year relationship. I'm starting to think that I'm just too goddamn introverted for relationships - none of them seem to be able to get the fact that I need *lots* of alone time and am naturally very low-energy. They end up resenting me for "never wanting to do anything" and I end up resenting them for not leaving me the fuck alone. lol

You and I must be twins on a spiritual level because I have the same problem, especially in regard to "me" time. Although I'm not necessarily low energy, I certain am for things I have no interest in and I'm not good at faking it. If I don't like something, I'm not going to do it. Conversely, if you don't like something...I'm not going to try to force, guilt or trick you into doing it just because I happen to like it. My female friends call it my Scorpio Syndrome. My partners call it apathy (eventually).

I've gone through a 9 year and 3 year relationship that both ended for fundamentally the same reasons. Sadly, I don't see this pattern ever breaking...such is life.

 

[Telstra]

I know a serial dater .... > so much dramma.

why do serial daters talk so much.

 

[rareboy]

Don't talk about politics, religion or work until the 10th date.

Oh. and make sure you fuck on date 2. Otherwise a lot of guys just figure it is too much effort and start to lose interest.

But if on the second date they find out that you can do that incredible thing with your....well, you get the drift....they'll be back for more.

 

[looseliam]

Yes. I seem to find the absolutely worst person for me.

 

[DarkHelios]

No patterns because my dating life is nearly non-existant. I've never understood how it goes from "hey, I enjoy spending time with you" to "hey, I'd like to do lewd things to you".

 

[Hotswimguy82]

No patterns because my dating life is nearly non-existant. I've never understood how it goes from "hey, I enjoy spending time with you" to "hey, I'd like to do lewd things to you".

Oh god that is basically the quote of my life.

 

[maxpowr9]

You and I must be twins on a spiritual level because I have the same problem, especially in regard to "me" time. Although I'm not necessarily low energy, I certain am for things I have no interest in and I'm not good at faking it. If I don't like something, I'm not going to do it. Conversely, if you don't like something...I'm not going to try to force, guilt or trick you into doing it just because I happen to like it. My female friends call it my Scorpio Syndrome. My partners call it apathy (eventually).

I've gone through a 9 year and 3 year relationship that both ended for fundamentally the same reasons. Sadly, I don't see this pattern ever breaking...such is life.

Scorpio syndrome eh? Despite being polar opposites, that sounds much more like a Taurus thing (I know that because I am one) than a Scorpio. Tauruses may be a bit boring but with a little push, we make great loyal companions.

 

[Craig86]

This entire thread is the story of my life. Recently I made it to the third date before he dropped off the face of the earth. Well then he sort of came back with a couple of sms's, then decided to fly away again. Which hurt, because I thought MAYBE, just MAYBE, the third date was a good thing. CLEARLY NOT.

The whole, you have to root on the second date.. I mean really? Sure I'd go for a kiss but is that REALLY the rule? Surely some gay guys have a bit more self-worth than that!?

I've just been on the first date and going to organise the second and was just aiming for the kiss but now I've read this I'm going WHOA maybe i've played it all wrong this whole time?