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I'm not talking about being a narcissist... but rather if you just like being who you are. When I was young I was insecure about my height, dick size, intelligence... I didn't like me. It took me some time to overcome what had been programed into me as a boy.

Today a 40 year old who has a drinking problem and isn't look upon as being very bright said that he wished he was me. I told him to never wish such a thing and to learn to love himself.
So, I ask... do you love yourself... warts and all?
 
Never thought about it but now that I do - yes - I like who I am.

There are some things I don't particularly like but it is what it is and I am OK with it.
 
I'm uncomfortable in my own skin. I usually have negative thoughts (as opposed to having good thoughts)
If anyone has real life advice about how I can change this, I would appreciate it

Im watching Seinfeld episodes and I have many of George Kastanza's traits' That doesnt make me feel good
 
Yes, I love myself, but it isn't always easy. I have to struggle against the messages I've heard, and the way I've been treated in the past. Sometimes it seemed like I heard messages from all quarters, telling me that I didn't have a right to be here, and I had nothing to contribute. Sometimes I still have to combat those negative feelings, and tell myself I'm a worthy person. And anyway, I'm not living my life for "them."
 
peeonme said:
I'm not talking about being a narcissist... but rather if you just like being who you are. When I was young I was insecure about my height, dick size, intelligence... I didn't like me. It took me some time to overcome what had been programed into me as a boy.
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So, I ask... do you love yourself... warts and all?
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It is unfortunate how something imprinted on us as a child stays so long with us.
Two things I remember from childhood; I am 6'5" and have always been head and shoulders above my peers. But I remember my father (also tall at 6'3") saying there is nothing you can do about your height, so revel in the fact you can see over the heads of everyone else. Therefore, although being so tall has been a pain sometimes (getting clothes to fit has only become easier since internet shopping) it has never been something that has impacted on me mentally. My uncle, who was even taller at 6'7" had a permanent stoop because he felt he stood out too much.
The other thing I remember from childhood was my mother saying I wasn't funny and was tone-deaf. It turns out neither was true and, if that had not been imprinted at an early age, I like to think I may have gone into amateur musical theatre
As Philip Larkin famously said, "They fuck you up, your mum and dad. They may not mean to, but they do. "
 
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peeonme said:
I'm not talking about being a narcissist... but rather if you just like being who you are. When I was young I was insecure about my height, dick size, intelligence... I didn't like me. It took me some time to overcome what had been programed into me as a boy.


So, I ask... do you love yourself... warts and all?
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Well, I think I do. But I am still kinda unsecure about my dick size and my weight. But it doesn't bother me because now that I'm old nobody see's my dick. And although I've lost over 75 pounds in the last 3 years I am still overweight. But I don't dwell on someone seeing my naked body, because again, I'm old that it just probable won't happed anymore.
 
It honestly depends, I truthfully don't know where I fit and belong even within the vastness of LGBT+, I'm 100% the G on the spectrum but I don't feel a connection even to the community and I wonder is that down to me not fully knowing who the hell me actually is?
 
Hell, no. I do not think that even "accept" would be the term for it. Just tolerate each other. Like an old married couple.
 
Yes.

It has come about in stages.

I can make a list of several things wrong with me.

But I can make a longer list of things I like.

That's a win in my book.
 
Not really i struggle with anxiety and depression I have a disability and some health issues but my family loves me and some my co-workers like me so that's good. I just have good days and bad days
 
I am good with myself.

Even all the weaknesses and flaws.
 
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