Does it mean anything when my friend looks at me as he kisses women?

[Icecold]

This seems to happen every time my good friend comes over with a girl. He will look at me while he fondles her, he wont close his eyes like most men do when they kiss a girl... does this even mean anything?

 

[G-Lexington]

And, once again, Lube's Law.

If you think a guy is gay, he's gay.
If you think he's checking you out, he's checking you out.
If you think he's interested, he's interested.

Lex

 

[TX-Beau]

Maybe he’s wondering why you keep staring at him while he’s making out with some girl?

OK is that the “straight friend,” from this thread:

http://www.justusboys.com/forum/showthread.php?t=289774

And this thread:

http://www.justusboys.com/forum/showthread.php?t=306931


If so, you’ve been at this for awhile, he doesn’t know you’re gay, he has all these women, you have all these suspicions.

This has been going on and on for a long time and you haven’t done anything about it.

I don’t know what else we can tell you. You have two threads full of advice you seem to be ignoring, and are posting yet another thread about how “confused,” you are and “is he gay?”

Do you want us to TELL you he’s gay? What would you do about it if we did? Plenty of people have told you that anyway, did it resolve your situation?

Do you WANT a resolution? Or are you just playing with the exciting possibility that he’s in the closet like you are and having fun with the fantasies in your head? Are you using these threads to role play it out in your head?

Whatever he is, he’s not making out with you. IF he’s gay he’s in the closet, I for one don’t buy that guys in the closet, blatantly hit on other guys they think are in the closet.

After all, are YOU so blatantly flirting with him? Have you let him know you’re up for it?

What are you looking for us to tell you that you haven’t heard already?



Your choices:

a. Pick up your pride and walk away - then work on coming out and finding a guy who actually wants you.

b. Wallow in indecision and angst, and stunt your growth as a person and as a gay man - how much of your life are you going to waste on dithering?

c. Summon up the courage to tell him you're gay and take your chances.

That's pretty much it.

 

[G-Lexington]

>>>What are you looking for us to tell you that you haven’t heard already?

Maybe I wasn't clear enough.

He's gay.
He wants you.
Make a move.

Lex

 

[TX-Beau]

Einstein once defined insanity as repeatedly pursuing the same course of action and expecting different results.

If you won't do anything, you won't get anything. You certainly won't get any answers one way or the other.

 

[G-Lexington]

>>>If you won't do anything, you won't get anything.

You'll get to start another "OMG, guess what happened today" thread. That's something, isn't it?

Lex

 

[slnattak]

And what makes you think your life will be perfect even if he does sleep with you?

It's never that easy lol. Maybe he'll discover he's gay, kiss you- but that doesn't even mean that he's the right one for you anyway.

Hell it might even be the best sex of your life, but things just won't work out emotionally and he'll bring you nothing but pain. Then you'll just come here and cry more.

Don't you think the wisest thing to do would be to make sure that you are as happy with your own life as possible, and the most independent, so you can be in the greatest control of your relationships?

Jason mraz said (and I know the gay boys love jason mraz) the heart takes a long time to make up its mind. And that's so true. One good date is just that, one good date. That guy from star trek didn't marry his boyfriend until after they dated for what 15 years?

 

[rareboy]

And, once again, Lube's Law.

If you think a guy is gay, he's gay.
If you think he's checking you out, he's checking you out.
If you think he's interested, he's interested.

thanks lube, thanks lex, thanks txbeau

 

[LatinCoffee]

LOL! U guys are right and hilarious!!

 

[texan_slant]

To answer your question, NO;
it'd mean something if he kiissed you, though!