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Hi, here is my heartache situation that I am in now and I hope i can get some advise.

Me and my bf been together for 2years and a half now, we always been happy and probably one of the couples who are really in love. I see him everyday and we pratically live with each other. He is a flirty person and one day i just said to him as a joke to flirt with his co worker and then the next day he actually did and he told me he had his co worker slept over at his house :( he said he doesn't love him and that he loves me. Yet he does not tell any of his firends or co worker he has a bf. He keeps on texting this guy and keeps seeing him. As for me he kinda ignoring my calls and just keeps texting me i love you. I do not know what to do, I am afraid i wont find a guy like this who is so kind to me and knows me so well but yet he's cheating on me. He said he only wanted to try something different and its like eating at restaurants where if you eat at the same place over and over you want to try something else. I confronted him and he said that he is just fooling around with him and then he'll stop. I told him i dont understand why he doesnt care about my feelings . He keeps saying that i was the one that allowed him and now i dont want him to flirt. He changed in two weeks so much . I do not know what to do, right now I am not speaking to him and blocking his text and calls. Should i continue? He will come back to me but i do not know whether he will keep cheating on me :(. sigh. anyone have any suggestions?
"if you love something let it free, if it doesn't come back you never had it"
 
boyasian3 said:
He said he only wanted to try something different and its like eating at restaurants where if you eat at the same place over and over you want to try something else.
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I would never stay with a guy who says this. Unless you are okay with an open relationship and it does not pain you at all to see him with somebody else, it doesn't seem like this relationship would work.

EDIT: Let me give a more specific answer. I would say that you should talk to him about it and let him know that it bothers you. If he stops after that, then maybe there isn't a problem. Possibly he thought that with your suggestions towards him hooking up with the co-worker, that you wanted an open relationship. Let him know that this is not what you want, and see if he respects that. I'd say that if he tries to argue with you and convince you to have an open relationship while knowing that it bothers you, break it off.
 
boyasian3 said:
e is a flirty person and one day i just said to him as a joke to flirt with his co worker and then the next day he actually did and he told me he had his co worker slept over at his house :( he said he doesn't love him and that he loves me.
He keeps saying that i was the one that allowed him and now i dont want him to flirt.
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flirting is just that flirting. sleeping with the guy is cheating. nothing wrong with flirting, there is something very wrong with cheating.

if he is sleeping with someone else then break up with him, or if it's fine by you then have a open relationship, but that means you get to fool around with other guys also.

my .02 dump him
 
It's hard to throw away 2 years, and say goodbye to someone you love.

I'd have a heart-to-heart talk with him, perhaps mediated by a professional counselor if that would help. He needs to understand how you feel about his behaviors and he needs to understand the things you value and respect those feelings. Those should be your ground-rules for continuing this relationship.

If he accepts, then you might decide to give him a chance to prove himself. If he does not accept, or you find he failed his "second chance," then I'd get rid of him and move on. You don't want a lifetime of failed "second chances" and continual heartache. Life is too short.
 
averageguy said:
It's hard to throw away 2 years, and say goodbye to someone you love.

I'd have a heart-to-heart talk with him, perhaps mediated by a professional counselor if that would help. He needs to understand how you feel about his behaviors and he needs to understand the things you value and respect those feelings. Those should be your ground-rules for continuing this relationship.

If he accepts, then you might decide to give him a chance to prove himself. If he does not accept, or you find he failed his "second chance," then I'd get rid of him and move on. You don't want a lifetime of failed "second chances" and continual heartache. Life is too short.
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thank you very much maybe i will see a professional cousellor together. Well see where it goes.
 
dont block his calls and texts...thats just immature grade school shit...you need to talk to him unless you have decided you want to break it off and never want to speak or hear from him sgain in which case continue blocking his calls
 
Just have a talk and lay it all out, if he still want to see the other guy and or others, then it's time to go and find someone that has more respect for you.
 
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