Embarassing question about size

[looseliam]

^ if it looks like a soda can, it's too much lol

 

[Corny]

if I have the fear of breaking it when jerking, it's too thin (only happened once - still was a great and hot guy ). if I have troubles getting it in my mouth - it's too thick (happened more often :-/)

 

[smoothoralbottom]

So what does everyone think about the girth? Many say they arent concerned about the length so much and that girth is more important. What exactly is the average penis girth? Comments, thoughts?

Give it to me. The thicker the better. The fun for me is trying to fit it in my mouth and just getting it all sloppy wet. I'll still get him off all over my face.

 

[duoergun]

i have a small dick, but most guy loved the sex we had

 

[HouseOfLove]

Thank you all for your responses.
It's all been very informative.

 

[smoothoralbottom]

Everyone's entitled to their own opinions and preferences, but the people who get turned off by penis size insecurity mystify me a bit. Sure, they have every right to be turned off, and I can understand why in some cases, but generally, I don't see how they can blame the insecure party or hold it against them, considering how pervasive the "size queen" mentality is in our society. Most people are brainwashed by it to some degree, so what do you expect? Naturally, it's going to affect people and cause insecurity, which is fairly normal, so I don't get why it's so taboo. I'm not saying it's a good thing, or that anyone should have to put up with it. I'm just saying nobody's perfect, and everyone has insecurities. No one is immune to them or their causes, so it's unrealistic to expect otherwise. What matters most is how you handle it all. But I digress...

To answer the OP's question, no and no. For the most part, it wouldn't matter. All I'd be worried about is if I were bottoming, and his dick was either too big and couldn't fit in my ass, or too small and couldn't reach in through my buns. But as a versatile top, that's a rare issue.

You're saying I prefer a big cock because society tells me I do? Whatever.

 

[G-Lexington]

>>>I mostly lurk over at the porn area but saw this thread and felt like posting a reply. I rarely browse the "relationships" forum anymore because I have a tiny 4.5 inch penis and the humiliation I feel from this on a daily basis has gradually made it impossible to hook up with guys anymore or even entertain the idea of a relationship. Those of you avg or above avg have NO idea what it's like to be small, and I probably wouldn't either if I weren't small. You can't imagine the lonely prison your life becomes when having a rewarding sex life--and the human companionship it forms such an integral part of--becomes a remote, unlikely prospect.

Does size matter? Yes, to certain people, and in certain situations.

Gamer brought up the "show me your cock" thread. And there, I'd say size definitely matters. But see - it's a "show me your cock" thread on a gay message board. It's a visual-only medium. The person who owns the cock doesn't have to be a good guy, or even attractive outside the confines of the cock. He doesn't have to be able to do anything with the cock. He may not be able to get it up very often, or maybe he finishes in 30 seconds flat, or maybe he's a selfish klutz in bed. None of this matters. It's a picture of a penis, and I'd say for most people, when it comes to photos of cocks, the bigger the better. Even if it's far too big to do anything with, it doesn't matter - because it's just a picture. They don't have to fit in their mouth or ass. They can just fantasize about it.

Let's move away from cocks for a second. (Relax - they'll be there when we get back.) Let's talk about...oh, cars. There used to be a "post a picture of your car" thread. And a lot of people did so. And, not surprisingly, the majority of people who did had really nice cars. Very few people with beat-up jalopies or old pick-up trucks took part. (I did.) And yeah, the people with the nicest and most expensive cars got the most "oohs" and "aahs". But that's as far as it went. I don't even remember who posted what in that thread, and unless somebody has a car fetish (or simply enjoys cars a lot), I doubt most other JUBbers do, either. It's not like the people with the nicer cars have all the friends, and those with the lesser cars don't. None of the "oohs" and "aahs" were really applicable beyond the confines of the thread.

Would I like a nice car? Sure, I think most of us would. And maybe it would turn a few more heads. But very few people think that the one thing keeping us from getting more friends (or more action) is a nicer car. And I can guarantee anybody who decided that was the deciding factor, and ended up going for broke and buying a nice car, ended up being a friendless or dateless guy with a nice car.

NU2424, your dick is smaller than average. What's that mean? I guess you won't attract too many people in places like "Post a Picture of Your Cock" threads. You'll probably be turned down by size queens in pick-up places. You won't get picked first at the bathhouse. Just like I won't get many friends (or bed partners) by posting pictures of my beat-up car, or by entering it in car shows. That doesn't mean you (or I) can't make friends, can't get laid, can't get into relationships.

I've been in a relationship with a guy with a smaller dick. Know what? Didn't care. Do I wish it would've been bigger? Well, I guess it would've been nice, like it would've been nice to have a nice car. But so what? I'm sure he would've wished I could've been something-else, too. And I liked his small dick. Not because I have a thing for small dicks, but because it was HIS. I like HIM, and that small dick belongs to HIM. And I'd rather make HIM feel good by playing with HIS small dick, than make anybody else feel good by playing with whatever it is they've got.

Lex

 

[Yves Grey]

From my perspective, size doesn't matter much. I prefer the equipment to be proportionate to its owner, though I find beauty in almost anything (except the slovenly). There is definitely such a thing as "too big for me."

I have had one "smaller" cock, and he had one hell of a curve. But damn it was a nice cock. At first, I did have a quarrel with it... Truth is, though, it was only because it hurt my pride--there were few positions I could gratify him in orally. But it got better with practice. We were and still are occasionally friends-with-benefits when the situation is appropriate. And it's still a nice cock.

 

[BLACKNSMALL]

I'm a big black guy with a small one 4.5. To some extent, I'm not too bothered but I have been been turned down because of my size. I've heard it often, are you sure you're black? You're small for a black guy etc. Or, I bet you're big etc. I think I am slowly turning to sph because of it. I find I'm turning on to the comments. Yes, I know we come in all sizes however, it's the perception of most guys.

 

[Brtyui]

am not all that bothered about what size of cock a guy has, as long as he knows what to do with his cock then that's fine for me. i will take any size.

i've never been turned down cos of my cock size either, or vise versa, though its their own loss if people judge on size. but if you get turned off by it then that's fine too. after all we are only human.

 

[GoldLion]

Never! Although I did turn down this one guy because his cock was insanely thick and big -- that is NOT going in me

 

[chrisw87]

I'm a big black guy with a small one 4.5. To some extent, I'm not too bothered but I have been been turned down because of my size. I've heard it often, are you sure you're black? You're small for a black guy etc. Or, I bet you're big etc. I think I am slowly turning to sph because of it. I find I'm turning on to the comments. Yes, I know we come in all sizes however, it's the perception of most guys.

Welcome to the world of average numbers. Many people I meet that end up chatting about this topic instantly think "the average is xx inches" means every guy is that big, plenty of people will be on either side of the scale though.

Also how are you big? as in muscular or overweight? When I lost a lot of weight (I went from around 260lbs to 185lbs) I gained close to an inch of penis from a reduction in pubic fat. Although since then I have lost a quarter of that from an increase in muscle.

This must be why the skinny guys have the biggest ones

Back to the OP, no I haven't and no I have not been knocked back. I am average and have had an ex (female) comment on it, however she also expected it to be 8 inches. Women are more notoriously size queenish (and can't measure) than men in my opinion.

As for a potential partner? I don't do hookups, and I really wouldn't want to live with a freakishly large one daily, though if it was attached to the right person I would deal with it. Average is the best for me

 

[baroner32]

While i'd love to say it doesn't matter to me, it unfortunately does. not a size queen (i'm only 6" myself) but really thin cocks just don't do it for me at all. I've actually been in a situation where i lost my erection almost immediately after seeing the guy's cock. Stopped seeing him after that... For me sex just isn't as satisfying when the guy has a below average sized dick.

 

[Thonglover88]

I've been turned down many times. I can't be totally for sure, but sometimes the guy or girl will feel or see my small guy and then say they have to get going then leave. I'd say something like that has happened to me over 12 times

 

[dereperez]

Never had an issue. If I like the guy and we share the chemistry and passion...that's good enough for me. I'm the top anyway and couldn't care less.

Welcome to the world of average numbers. Many people I meet that end up chatting about this topic instantly think "the average is xx inches" means every guy is that big, plenty of people will be on either side of the scale though.

Also how are you big? as in muscular or overweight? When I lost a lot of weight (I went from around 260lbs to 185lbs) I gained close to an inch of penis from a reduction in pubic fat. Although since then I have lost a quarter of that from an increase in muscle.

This must be why the skinny guys have the biggest ones

Back to the OP, no I haven't and no I have not been knocked back. I am average and have had an ex (female) comment on it, however she also expected it to be 8 inches. Women are more notoriously size queenish (and can't measure) than men in my opinion.

As for a potential partner? I don't do hookups, and I really wouldn't want to live with a freakishly large one daily, though if it was attached to the right person I would deal with it. Average is the best for me

Maybe because for many women, unless they sleep around a lot, their only reference for penis size is in porn.

I've been turned down many times. I can't be totally for sure, but sometimes the guy or girl will feel or see my small guy and then say they have to get going then leave. I'd say something like that has happened to me over 12 times

They weren't worth your time to begin with. They did you a favor, trust me.

 

[Thonglover88]

I get off on it to be honest. It's one of several weird fetishes I have lol

 

[CharlieMars]

I've never had a guy turn me down because of my size nor have I ever turned anyone down for how big they are. I only care about cock size in the sense that I don't like them too big, anything under seven inches is perfect for me.

 

[CharlieMars]

While i'd love to say it doesn't matter to me, it unfortunately does. not a size queen (i'm only 6" myself) but really thin cocks just don't do it for me at all. I've actually been in a situation where i lost my erection almost immediately after seeing the guy's cock. Stopped seeing him after that... For me sex just isn't as satisfying when the guy has a below average sized dick.

There's nothing wrong with "only" being six inches. I see a lot of guys (and girls) write comments like this. Anyone would think six inches is super small.

Back to the OP, no I haven't and no I have not been knocked back. I am average and have had an ex (female) comment on it, however she also expected it to be 8 inches. Women are more notoriously size queenish (and can't measure) than men in my opinion.
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I've got no problem with people having preferences, we all do, but it angers me when people are arseholes about something and enjoy knocking someone else's confidence. I remember watching a documentary about a guy who had spent years feeling shameful because of the size of his dick. He explained that it started when a girl laughed at his size and then told everyone about it. Where's the tact and the respect? A lot of the women who call average dicks tiny are just twats. I bet they'd be pissed off if a guy called their average size breasts small.

I'm so glad I don't have to put with the shit a lot of my straight male friends do. I love my female friends, but they sometimes drive me insane with their double standards. Women hate it when someone turns the tables on them. It's ok for them to criticise a guy because of his body or the way he looks but it's the end of the world when a guy does it to them. I remember a woman complaining because her boyfriend's penis was "only" six inches and her ex-boyfriend's penis was 8 inches. She hadn't even slept with him but was still slagging him off.

 

[GermfreeAdolescent]

Kind of double standards from people in this thread condemning guys who those consider, or consider themselves as average or less but then say they would not go with a guy above X amount of inches. What if he was nice and gentle and considerate? What if you really liked the guy but just because his dick was big you would say no?