Erection Problem at 19

[bankside]

I wouldn't even be too quick to call this "an issue" or "a problem."

If I have somewhere to be, and I'm horny, I can jack of in probably a minute or two. My BF and I have also had sex like that. But what I really like to do with him is spend a few hours together having an erotic good time. Erections come and go but I never stop having fun. Hot naked times in bed with my sexy guy are fun whether we're both hard or not at any given moment.

(which is good because I think you are supposed to see a doctor for an erection lasting more than 3 hours)

If my dick could talk it would be saying "Not yet - I wanna see how long we can keep this going...I'll let you know when I'm ready but don't rush me because I'm enjoying this..."

I think a lot of men are like that to be honest.

 

[KaraBulut]

Most guys think of erections as blood flowing to their penis. That's actually only half of the equation.

An erection is two processes- increased arterial flow (dilation of the artery) with decreased venous flow (constriction of the veins).

Think of your penis as a long balloon that has two openings instead of one. If you blow into one opening but you don't close the other, then the air just goes through it. That would be the normal (flaccid state) of your penis- blood is traveling through your penis. When you get an erection, one of the openings to your penis expands and the other constricts so that blood is trapped inside the penis which causes it to enlarge and get rigid.

What is happening when you stand is that you are decreasing flow to your penis. This causes you to lose your erection. It's no different than what happens when you stand up too quickly and blood rushes from your head and you get dizzy. There are some people who are more sensitive to changes in position (typically called orthostatic hypotension) than others and his is why some guys can walk around with a boner while others lose it quickly after standing up.

ED drugs affect the venous constriction- they prolong the constriction which causes more blood to get trapped in the penis for longer periods of time. You still have to get an erection (the drugs won't help you get an erection)- the drugs just make you keep that erection longer.

ED drugs might work well for you since they will increase that retained blood in your penis which will help you maintain the erection once you get it.

But first, the doctor will probably want to check your blood sugar, thyroid levels and maybe testosterone levels to ensure there's no other health problems that might be causing it.

 

[Maccabee]

As KaraBulut puts it, the contraction "device" does not work as well for everyone. And if I think back, it has never worked for me that well. Also not when I was younger.
So I think I'm going to discuss this with my doctor. And we'll see!
(Hmm, that's going to be an awkward doctor's appointment )

 

[Maccabee]

The doctor gave me a prescription. So... I'm going to try it out now. First on my own and next Friday with my friend (still no label attached ).
I'll report back to you!

 

[wraithsa]

MOST erectile dysfunction has a PSYCHOLOGICAL aetiology than PHYSIOLOGICAL/PATHOLOGICAL - this percentage changes with increasing age as medical conditions affect bloodflow. So at ur age can u have ED - YES - is it likely to be something physically wrong possible but not probable

 

[Maccabee]

I took a viagra pill (50mg, but I broke it in half) before jacking off. And... I must say. It really helps me. I don't have to worry about getting soft. This probably means that my equipment probably is not working as it should be under normal circumstances.

Next Friday I'm going to test it with someone else, so I'm pretty curious how that will work out!

 

[boiseboy]

Remember, being by yourself and then being with another person are two different things. Obvious, but really important.

It's easy to get off by yourself, aka masturbating. Just like it's easy to get hard if no one else is there (sexually). Throwing in another person can mess things up, because a lot of different factors come into play. First, you don't have as much control over yourself as you would by yourself, seeing as the other person is there to get you off as well. Mentally, you could be a little self conscious and not know it, which is why another person being there can greatly affect your sexual stamina.

The first time I had sex with a guy, it was really hard to stay hard and get off. I had to do it myself and it took a lot of will power. It changes the more you have sex and the more you find out what you like and dont like.

 

[KölnElch]

Hi... I have a similar problem.

I am 33 and didn't have sex with another person yet.
Since I am 26 I suffer from erectile dysfunction. I don't even get my penis hard enough to get me a condom on, and I can't imagine to bottom.
That's why I never bothered to find me a guy, cos I feel sexually disabled.

I can jerk off to porn, but my penis never gets really hard. Hard enough for masturbation, too soft to roll over a condom. Barebacking is a big nono for me.

The problems came within an hour, after doing some stupid things with my penis. Dunno if it's a consequence to the physical actions, or if it's psychic, but I doubt the latter. I tried docs, but they always said it's psychic. I have seen a psychotherapist for 7 years, I am totally fine (had many other issues), but still have this.
It totally stops me from getting me a guy. And no, I am NOT straight.

 

[3nipples]

Since you can't get sufficiently hard when you jerk off, I'm inclined to think it's physical. If I were you I would make an appointment in the urology department of a teaching hospital.

 

[KaraBulut]

The important thing to keep in mind is that medications like Viagra and Levitra don't help for guys who can't get an erection. The drugs prolong erections by slowing the process that drains blood from the penis- so you have to get hard before the drug can help you keep hard.

I agree with 3nipples- since you're reporting that you can't get hard nor stay hard when masturbating, you should see a urologist for evaluation.