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[dingding]

Right guys, I've learned a lot from the JUB forums over the years, but now I have my own problem...

I'm 22, and I've slept with 4 guys to date. I've bottomed for all of them, and therein lies the problem...when a guy starts thrusting into me, it makes me need to pee. So badly that last night I actually leaked urine onto the guy's bed without realising it. Thankfully he was really understanding about it, and we tried 3-4 more times, but we had to stop after about 30 secs each time.

It feels like my bladder's being poked, and that stimulates me into urinating. After the 3rd time, I went into the shower with this guy's dlido, and played with my ass using that and fingers for about 30 mins, but couldn't find a single area that didn't make me want to wee after touching it.

However...of the 4, there is one guy who it didn't really happen with. He'd be screwing me for 30 mins at a time, and I loved the whole thing - didn't get hard, but didn't need to pee either. I thought it might have been because I was on ecstasy and ketamine at the time, but I'd taken E last night too, and it didn't seem to help. On top of that, even with that one guy the need to pee started to kick in by the end of the night.

I've always needed to pee a lot...I tend to go to the loo 2-3 times before lunch, cumming makes me need to pee, even doing a big crap sometimes makes me need to pee.

I've read on these forums that a lot of problems come down to anxiety (probably why I can never get hard). Thing is, I don't let this stuff worry me that much...I mean, even if it goes wrong once, I don't let it get me down, but keep trying. and all the guys are really great about it. But...I really love anal sex, and I'd like to keep doing it. I just can't figure out how...

NB. I'm not the least bit incontinent

 

[3nipples]

If finger-play stimulates the same need, would it help if you had your partner do that during foreplay so that you can run off to the toilet to completely empty your bladder before he penetrates you?

How is your urine flow normally (when your not having sex)? Does it come out in one single stream or do you find yourself pumping several times to get it all out?

 

[dingding]

Hmmm...I'll give that a go.

As for outside sex, it usually comes out in one go. But there have been occasions where I've finished and then had to go back less than a minute later...

 

[dingding]

Oh, I forgot to say...as soon as the guy stops stimulating my arse, the need goes away. There are times when I can't actually pee afterward, even if I try

 

[KaraBulut]

It is not unusual for guys to say that getting fucked makes them feel like they need to take a crap. Occasionally when pressure is applied the the prostate when you are getting fucked or having your ass played with can make you feel like you need to pee.

All of this is because the muscles that we use during sex, during taking a crap and during peeing are all the same muscles.

However, the symptoms you're describing, especially peeing during sex are not common with men- in fact, most men cannot pee when they have an erection. And the fact that you have a history of needing to pee a lot adds more evidence that there may be other factors at play.

It's probably a good idea to see a urologist and make sure there's nothing wrong.

P.S. Lay off the ecstasy and ketamine- that shit's not good for you or your sex life.

 

[dingding]

I've tried lots of different positions, and they all have the same effect

However, the symptoms you're describing, especially peeing during sex are not common with men- in fact, most men cannot pee when they have an erection.

I also can't pee with an erection - when the whole thing starts, I lose my erection completely.

 

[Eternaldarkness]

first, I think you should always tree to go urinate first before you have sex. Sometimes when I feel the need to pee, I am not really that into the sex. Maybe the angle is off and that is why he's stimulating a spot near your bladder. Try a different angle. Then, if that doesn't help then try stroking yourself as he penetrates. Having a hardon should keep the urge to pee away. Last, maybe you're not relaxing and when you tightened up (unintentionally doing kegal exercise) the urge to pee develops when you stop tightening.

maybe it is just something you might have to get use to. as long as you don't start actually peeing onto the sheets, you'll be fine.

 

[KaraBulut]

I've tried lots of different positions, and they all have the same effect

I also can't pee with an erection - when the whole thing starts, I lose my erection completely.

You can do a search on Kegel exercises for men and see if these might help.

As I mentioned before, the muscles that control the anal sphincter, the bladder and other things in this area are all the same set of muscles. Unless there is an anatomical problem, what is happening with you is that you are relaxing your ass when you are getting fucked and also at the same time, you are- without realizing it- relaxing the muscle that keeps the pee inside your bladder.

Ever notice that some guys fart when they are peeing? It's the same issue. When they pee, they are relaxing the muscles that allow the pee to come out but at the same time, they inadvertently relax their asshole, so they fart. Some guys are better at relaxing some muscles while keeping the others tight.

The Kegel exercises may help you train the muscles so that you don't relax all of the muscles at the same time.

If the Kegel excercises don't work, you should see a urologist. Your comment that you need to pee frequently (the medical term is "urgency") and that you feel urgency in all positions when you're getting fucked makes me think there might be another issue that needs to be evaluated by a physician.

 

[3nipples]

Hmmm...I'll give that a go.

As for outside sex, it usually comes out in one go. But there have been occasions where I've finished and then had to go back less than a minute later...

This can happen when you have been suppressing the urge to pee for a long time despite an urgency, especially when you have been drinking... if it also is happening on other occasions you should see a urologist about it.

 

[dingding]

Thanks so much for the help guys.

I'm gonna give these Kegel exercises a go, and if that doesn't work it's off to the doctor for me!

 

[vulgar_newcomer]

Thanks so much for the help guys.

I'm gonna give these Kegel exercises a go, and if that doesn't work it's off to the doctor for me!

I agree with the urologist, but I know that isn't some thing you want to do. I wouldn't.
You know its hard to get hard on X or K, I'm sure you know that already.
Still it is fun.
Maybe you have a fat prostrate that is pushing on the bladder? A lot of this pee problem stuff has to do with the prostrate. Its a fickle thing.
A lot of guys cannot get hard when getting fucked.
It is important to piss after sex that I know because I didn't have to go once and after I shot I had to go quickly and got a infection a bit later. That sucked.

 

[Lefty]

in the meantime, screw in the bathtub or if its big enough...the shower

 

[dingding]

Well, good news. This weekend I had sex with the very same guy as last weekend, while completely sober, and there were no problems! We took it a lot slower and it really paid off! I'm still going to the doctor tomorrow, but the future's looking bright all of a sudden.

Thanks again for all the help though