ever wanted to move to a different city...

[Auburn]

.....but didn't have any friends/family there? How did you decide on which new city to move to among your list of choices? Did alot of friends/family think it was a bad idea to move to a different city because you had no friends/family in your city of choice? I was just wondering about this cause alot of people desire to move to a different city but decide against it because they don't know anyone who lives there...

 

[Croynan]

Yes, not only a different city but a different country. But it is too late and the dye is cast. There is no way i can ever for see either one of them happening.

now if i were to win the California State Lottery all of the above is subject to change.​

when one is a local village idiot one has to try and deal with realities at least a small bit of the time.​

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[looseliam]

I think about it all the time.

I mean, it isn't so bad where I am now, but there's just so much more out there.

I'm not tied down here, and I know I could have a richer life moving around every 5 or so years.

But when I think of where I'd like to move, knowing people there doesn't enter into my thoughts. I will meet new people. I don't want the people I already know there, thus keeping the BS from here, going there.

And when you think about it, how often does one have an opportunity to start a new life?

But alas, I have not taken the chances I've had thus far. But plan to do so should the opportunity again present itself.

The grass is always greener...

 

[davy]

i've done it twice.

it's tough at first, but you always find your stride.

and you do find things that are different... things that other people don't see.

 

[woaini]

I only had one friend when I first moved to Honolulu, now I've been here almost two years~

 

[metta]

I want to move to LA...though, I have a shirt tail cousin who lives in the Greater LA area...if Nuevo and the tri cities can be considered Greater LA.

Can't do it yet alas.

I have never heard of Nuevo before. I looked it up on the map...

You would be in brandon's territory.

http://www.google.com/maps?q=Nuevo,+CA,+USA&sa=X&oi=map&ct=title

I think that it too far out there to be considered the Greater LA area. Living that far away from LA, it is generally not going to be as gay friendly unless you go to Palm Springs. I would not think that there would be very many pianist jobs in Riverside county. Palm Springs is very gay friendly and has a ton of hotels. Palm Springs would be the best bet for Riverside County...or possibly oneof the resort cities of that area. Temecula may be fine as well, in the wine country area. There might be some in Riverside and the Ontario area but they probably would not be in the same league as jobs you might find in Los Angeles County and Orange County. hmmm....I guess you could commute to Orange County and look in the areas of Costa Mesa, Laguna Beach, Newport Beach, Corona Del Mar, Laguna Hills (Ritz Carlton) and Irvine.

 

[metta]

I like where I live. If I were to move to a different location, it would probably be along the Ocean and would therefore cost a lot more to live. I could not afford to do it. I would need to invest at least $4 - $15 million to do it and I just don't have that kind of money. And the property taxes would be ridiculous. So, I'm probably going to just stay where I am.

As my businesses grows, I may have to find a cheaper place to live in order to expand. It would take a ridiculous amount of money to expand where I live now and I don't want to take on millions of dollars in debt to do it.

The problem is I don't really want to live in the boonies...I would be so lonely and I would miss my neighbors, the independent theaters, etc.

 

[cocktales]

It "can" be done...

We did it when I was still Active Duty in the Air Force...

My Partner and I both lived mostly in the Eastern portion of the U. S. all our lives, so we decided to just pick up everything and move out West!

So, he and I went on a house-hunting trip to Las Vegas and purchased a new home here.......

He moved here first without me, while I "had to" do an over-seas tour of duty for one year and then I joined him here at the local Air Force Base when my tour of duty overseas was up....

We LOVE it here and would NOT go any-where else....

I mean, sure we have some extreme heat for a couple of months here; but otherwise, this place is ideal, NO state income tax, some-what affordable housing (getting worse by the second with everyone coming here), NO real bad weather phenomenona, etc..

I say the fact that you have NO relatives there is a God-send, where NO one can bum stuff from ya! We've found that we suddenly have family who love us and want to come to Vegas for a trip....Hmmmmm? lol

 

[NineOfClubs]

When I moved to Seattle/Honolulu/Los Angeles/Portland I didn't know anyone in any of those places. That might be the reason I chose them, actually.

You'll make, and lose, many friends in your lifetime. Don't let the worry about that keep you from going where ever you might want to go.

 

[G-Lexington]

In 1995, I was finally offered an entry level position in my chosen field.

In Farmington, New Mexico.

Population: 50,000.

Nearest largest town: three hours by car.

I had no car.

The town is as conservative as they come. The first thing you see when you roll into town is the "Roll Your Own Ammo" shop.

The one person I knew AT ALL in Farmington was the guy who had interviewed me. I'd talked to him for a total of fifteen minutes.

I didn't know what the housing market in Farmington was like.

I was just out of the closet, and I knew full well that I'd be heading right back in again.

I had college loans and some credit card debt.

The job wasn't exactly what I wanted to do.

The job involved working until 6am every day.

They offered $600 a month.

I would've had time to work a second, part-time job while there, but unemployment in Farmington at the time was roughly 22%.

...

I took the job.

The best decision I ever made.

Lex

 

[Apollo]

I have always dreamed on living in London. I am working towards that dream everyday.

 

[confusedboy23]

The prospect of moving and living in a new place for a little while is always an exciting thought. However, having moved several times and lived in several cities around the world, it is not always the best thing to do. I guess where is something good, there has to be something bad to it as well.

 

[Auburn]

When I moved to Seattle/Honolulu/Los Angeles/Portland I didn't know anyone in any of those places. That might be the reason I chose them, actually.

You'll make, and lose, many friends in your lifetime. Don't let the worry about that keep you from going where ever you might want to go.

Thanks, Nine. I won't let that stop me from going somewhere else.

Btw, which of those cities you mentioned did you enjoy most?

 

[Pushyourluck]

I've plans to move to either Turkey or Spain in the not too distant future. I have friends in Turkey but all my family live in the UK. The reason behind wanting to move is my belief that the UK as a whole is going right down the pan. So when i've enough money earnt and saved i'm off!

 

[drhladnjak]

I've done it several times--in the bay area for college, then Germany and North Carolina for grad school and finally (well, hopefully) Seattle for my first real job. It's been tough restarting my life each time, but I've had the opportunity to live in some amazing places and meet many interesting people from different parts of the country/world. Most imporantly, it's taught me how to be independent and given me confidence in my ability to take care of myself.

After doing it several times though I've realized that location isn't as important for being happy as I originally thought. There are cool people and jerks everywhere. There are things that I've liked and hated about everywhere I've lived.

However, when you move somewhere and start over, you pull up all your roots. It takes time to put down new roots in the new place and if you don't stick around long enough, you'll just sort of move on without being tied to anywhere. You will drift away from your old friends and family. Even if you stay in touch, they have their own lives which will continue on without you.

So I guess the moral of the story is moving somewhere new is hard but worth it. Just try not to do it too often.

 

[star-warrior]

I spent a childhood into my late teens holed up in a small inland port town with no cinema. I wanted out, and went to live just outside Manchester. After that, I thought to myself, been there, done that. All I want is a place to live and put my stuff. Then I got a drivers licence and a car, and could go anywhere I wanted to. So, the wanderlust has gone...

 

[Auburn]

LOL i am so confused....this board isn't a good place to ask for advice about moving...seems like some people think it is a bad idea. It seems like many people try to discourage you if you want to move somewhere different and try something new..people tell you that it is the same no matter where you go(its not, but thats just my opinion--which probably doesn't count for much)..I thought writing this out would help, but i guess not

 

[writerguyfl]

Moving is not a bad thing. It can be hard, however, if you don't know anyone in the new city. Therefore, some people might discourage you.

I grew up in LA and moved to Minnesota for college. After 11 LONG winters, I gave up. I quit my job, sold my condo, packed up the truck, and drove South. I moved to Orlando. I had an apartment lined up; but no job. I arrived late afternoon on September 10, 2001. I had an interview the next morning. Fortunately, they offered me a job on the spot, as the following week a hiring freeze started. Only as I was completing the paperwork was I told about the attacks on the World Trade Center.

I didn't know a single person in Orlando. Going through the shock of 9/11 alone was difficult. I don't, however, regret the move. It made me a much stronger person.

 

[BrandonSBCA]

I have never heard of Nuevo before. I looked it up on the map...

You would be in brandon's territory.

http://www.google.com/maps?q=Nuevo,+CA,+USA&sa=X&oi=map&ct=title

I think that it too far out there to be considered the Greater LA area. Living that far away from LA, it is generally not going to be as gay friendly unless you go to Palm Springs. I would not think that there would be very many pianist jobs in Riverside county. Palm Springs is very gay friendly and has a ton of hotels. Palm Springs would be the best bet for Riverside County...or possibly oneof the resort cities of that area. Temecula may be fine as well, in the wine country area. There might be some in Riverside and the Ontario area but they probably would not be in the same league as jobs you might find in Los Angeles County and Orange County. hmmm....I guess you could commute to Orange County and look in the areas of Costa Mesa, Laguna Beach, Newport Beach, Corona Del Mar, Laguna Hills (Ritz Carlton) and Irvine.

Yes, it would be kind of near the Inland area of California. Never heard of Nuevo, but I've been to Perris, seems like it's maybe about 30 to 40 minutes away from me. A nice place to live is Riverside, or Ontario it's like in the middle halfway to Los Angeles and half way to Palm Springs.

California is getting really expensive to live now, even the houses here in the ghetto party of San Bernardino are reaching to $350,000 dollars.

To answer the question of the thread. I've wanted to move to a different city, mostly within the California area, possibly Palm Springs, Riverside or Redlands. I don't see myself moving the Los Angeles or Long Beach, though most of the bear bars are located there.

But if I moved to another city in another state I would be leaving my family, friends behind and probably have to make new ones all over again, but I'll be with my boyfriend.

 

[1st love ron]

I sure think about it often. I plan on moving to a southern state or France (not definte) but my mother is 82 and she has no one else around so I'm staying put. After she dies, there will be no reason for me to stay where I am as I don't like it here (Maine).