Ex BF shows up after 4 years of breakup

[gauchotrucho]

What a weird day today...actually what a weird afternoon.

I own a small hardware store in a small rural town in Argentina and it is still custom here to sleep "siesta", especially in exceptionally warm weather (you can't really do anything in weather that surpasses 100º). Oddly this afternoon I had a very sexual dream of an ex boyfriend, a boyfriend that I broke up with very badly over 4 years ago. What is odd is that I've been over this breakup for quite some time, at least I thought so til today.

And what is weird is that this ex boyfriend shows up at my store later this afternoon. And it was totally weird the whole time.

I was standing at the door to my shop when he comes up to me and very casually hugs me and gives me a peck on the cheek (it is custom here for males and or females to kiss on the cheeks with close friends and or family). After 4 years of not even acknowledging each others prescence the few times we ran into each other in town, he just walks up to me, hugs me and gives me a peck on the cheek! I quickly moved to behind the counter (shutting a small gate, preventlng customers to that area)and oh so casually ask him how may I help him (just like any other customer). He then proceeds to ask me for my advice and help in changing careers!!!

What??????

Well guess what????

That's right.

This idiot helped him out.

He ended up staying in the shop for 4 hours, he even helped himself to a stool behind the counter while I was taking care of a customer.

We never talked about the breakup, even though I took a slight jab at the subject when as he was leaving he told me to call him and then asked me If I had his number and I replied that I had burnt it a long time ago. But then I made the mistake of mentioning that the number he was giving me was the old cellphone line that I had bought him way back when....one that he was to pay me back and never did.

When he was leaving he turned around came back to me, gave me a big hug and again gave me a peck on the cheek and asked me to call him.

Am I going to call him???

No!!!!

At least I hope I don't.

I just have to keep reminding myself why I broke up with him.

Selfish, emotionally and finacially needy, and lazy.

But DAMN!!! He's GORGEOUS!!! And worse, a charmer.
Crap!!!!
I hate siestas!!!!!

 

[hotb0d]

just remember there's always someone else more gorgeous than he is. Maybe you should put a pic of a hot guy in your shop if he ever comes back and tries to charm you, go look at the pic and slap yourself out of the illusion.

If he comes to your shop again, just be professional and treat him as a typical customer. Well you're the owner, fuck that might as well kick him to the curb. It was a bad break-up, no need to have someone like him around as a constant reminder of painful past, right?

 

[TX-Beau]

Are either of you out?

 

[hairycub29]

ughhhhh charmers are the worst ..... im currently trying to wean myself off a charmer...
He too has come back into my life after 2yrs of nothing!

goodluck mate i hope you are stronger than me!

 

[gauchotrucho]

If he comes to your shop again, just be professional and treat him as a typical customer. Well you're the owner, fuck that might as well kick him to the curb. It was a bad break-up, no need to have someone like him around as a constant reminder of painful past, right?

I tried that but as soon as I was taking care of a customer he moved in behind the counter. I mean, he behaved as if nothing happened 4 years ago. When we were boyfriends he used to come to the shop and often help out or just hang out there.
I agree with you and i'm pissed off at myself for being such a pushover. It was a tough breakup because I was really in love with the bum. I definitely can't let him back into my life, but it's difficult considering it's a small town and to make matters worse, he friend's with my brother-in-law.

 

[gauchotrucho]

Are either of you out?

No, but it wouldn't be too difficult to not figure out that I'm anything but gay (no....i'm not a flaming quen!!!), i'm 43 and never had a girlfriend.

 

[gauchotrucho]

ughhhhh charmers are the worst ..... im currently trying to wean myself off a charmer...
He too has come back into my life after 2yrs of nothing!

goodluck mate i hope you are stronger than me!

Thanks....but does that mean that we are weak?

Goodluck, and thanks again.

 

[hairycub29]

Thanks....but does that mean that we are weak?

Goodluck, and thanks again.

NO not at all .. it means there could be some unfinished business or that higher power who determines these things loves to F*ck with our emotions and hearts...

keep ur heart tucked away.....

 

[blogthissucker]

It's probably uncommon for you to dream about him if you're over him. In combination with seeing him that afternoon... well, it seems like a huge coincidence. A part of me wonders whether he came in and took advantage of you during your siesta.