I am a married man--just recently started fantasized about being with a man. Kind of scared; not sure what to expect. From kissing to sucking to fucking. Have any of you experimented with another guy before and wished you did not? Why? (Also, if you had an amazing time with your first gay experience--I probably wouldn't mind knowing why too.) I'm just sort of analytical and like to gather info before I jump into something. It's pretty awesome having these discussion boards to ask these questions!
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Experimenting gone bad?
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with me , my first time was with my college roommate. we both slept in the buff. One night i came in from taking my shower, he was watching tv from my bed. we had bunk beds his was the top. so i laid down beside him. Next thing i know he in=s complementing me on mu junk. Next thing know we are wrestling he is on top of me ginding me ( frotting) until we both bust our load on each other chest.It all felt good , A rush you might say. the next morning when i wake up, I am like wtf did i do last night. Am i now gay for liking this; having sex with a another man It was a total mind fucccck. We had a sit down talk just so that i could clear my head I was trying to define myself sexuality (what label should i give myself. ( thats why when i chat or talk to some one who is new this . Do not worry about labels. Just know your self. I could be a passing phase that you are curious about.
Hi there and 
to JUB their are probably lots of married guys in the same situation as you are into. Does you wife have any clue of you being bi?
to JUB their are probably lots of married guys in the same situation as you are into. Does you wife have any clue of you being bi?
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my situation ... is similar ...
i am pretty much in the same situation ... married ... curious ... but also kind of afraid to really do much of anything. But with me i posted a few pictures to a couple websites not showing my face of course so no one would know just to sort of fantasize about it.
what happened next was that a friend on my wifes side of the family who is gay did see and find out it was me in the pictures. he then emailed me and let me know he knew about it and asked for me to send him a picture or two. i figured since he seen the other pictures on the website it wouldn't matter much so foolishly i did telling him he could not tell anyone. Of course he agreed not to tell if i would send him a couple pictures but since my wife did not know about any of this he came up with the idea that if i send him a few more he would not tell her or any of the family.
Now he is getting more and more dominate telling me that i have to or my wife will find out because he wants me to do more than just post pictures. I know i dont really have to do anything because i dont think he would actually say anything to anybody but i really dont want wife or family to find out so i play along. sort of like blackmail ... i guess ... but with me willingly letting him think he can so its not really ... more like role playing ... nothing illegal since i could really stop it if i wanted.
lately however he thinks he is my master now and i have to and he wanted me to post a couple more pictures to prove it and he is even more determined that he will get me to do more ... so yes i am kind of scared to actually act out and do anything since i have not before ...
but he says i will have to ... so maybe i will ... if i let him keep thinking he can make me ...
i am pretty much in the same situation ... married ... curious ... but also kind of afraid to really do much of anything. But with me i posted a few pictures to a couple websites not showing my face of course so no one would know just to sort of fantasize about it.
what happened next was that a friend on my wifes side of the family who is gay did see and find out it was me in the pictures. he then emailed me and let me know he knew about it and asked for me to send him a picture or two. i figured since he seen the other pictures on the website it wouldn't matter much so foolishly i did telling him he could not tell anyone. Of course he agreed not to tell if i would send him a couple pictures but since my wife did not know about any of this he came up with the idea that if i send him a few more he would not tell her or any of the family.
Now he is getting more and more dominate telling me that i have to or my wife will find out because he wants me to do more than just post pictures. I know i dont really have to do anything because i dont think he would actually say anything to anybody but i really dont want wife or family to find out so i play along. sort of like blackmail ... i guess ... but with me willingly letting him think he can so its not really ... more like role playing ... nothing illegal since i could really stop it if i wanted.
lately however he thinks he is my master now and i have to and he wanted me to post a couple more pictures to prove it and he is even more determined that he will get me to do more ... so yes i am kind of scared to actually act out and do anything since i have not before ...
but he says i will have to ... so maybe i will ... if i let him keep thinking he can make me ...
So, thanks for the responses--but I'm not sure it's what I'm looking for...I thought maybe some of you had the experience and wished that you did not for various reasons---like 1)kissing a guy is not what you thought it would be 2) sucking/fucking is not what you thought it would be...I guess I am trying to get any negative perspectives--because there are plenty of "it's the best fucking thing" but I know not every experience is great....that's all I was asking for. Thanks.
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I wish I could give you more input, but I'm straight and curious only with my BFF - some kissing. I think we're getting comfortable with this as best friends, because it feels normal now. I cannot imagine being more than curious with somebody else so far. You and I are on a gay site which is JUB and it is a good place to get feedback. Epic place to figure yourself out in the WTF? You're definitely in the right place. I've made some friends here and will not have a problem keeping them updated. So for you Bro - I've kissed my best friend.
^ If the two of you are kissing I think you're pretty advanced already since kissing is usually(?) one of the last bastions of straightness.
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^ It started with a gentle kiss to my best friend's neck. More loving than hot - still is. I see where you're coming from.
If you've graduated to locking lips and lots of tongue.........well......I'M hard thinking about it........ 
cuteguyincali
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I had a bad first experience. I met this guy on yahoo chats. I went to his house. I was nervous. I was probably 25 yrs old. He was maybe later 30s. A little chubby. But I said what the heck. Im going to practice since this is my first time. This guy was clumsy. He had a perv look to him. I got undressed and so did he. He couldn't get his dick up. I bent over for him ready to give it to him and he couldn't perform. He tried. I felt bad for him. I got dressed and I never went back. I blocked him on yahoo chats (this was 2004) because he kept pming me and he turned me off bad. I really wanted to try some dick because up to that point i had fingered my self and tried other things so I knew the real thing couldn't hurt. I wont go on with my success stories because this is about bad experiences.
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The second guy I had sex with had some weird scent (not BO, it was completely unfamiliar to me) that got more and more nauseating the longer I was breathing it in. What started as just a bit unpleasant ended up making me gag by the time I was alone after he left. Ended up having to scrub myself raw in the shower and change all my linens before my stomach settled down. It put me off sex with men for about a year. (Fortunately my third time was the complete opposite, best sex I've ever had and I'm still friends with the guy 20+ years later.)
sweet_taboo
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Certain labels can fuck up many good things if you're not careful. I've had many very long term relationships with guys who would never identify themselves as gay (or bi) - they just happened to enjoy fucking me, so we were very comfortable with just going with the flow. Similarly, in pretty much all of my relationships, I'm the partner who gets fucked, but I'm not a fan of being called a bottom at all, nor do I refer to my guy as a top. Again we just go with the flow and naturally fall into doing things the way we like it. Starting with great conversations, you just kinda get to know certain things about each other, which I think helps maintain and nurture the friendship/relationship. I can't begin to tell you how many of my relationships began with a curiosity phase that just didn't pass.