Facebook/Myspace friends?

[islgb12]

Hi. I don't ever post here, but sometimes read a few things. Just wanted some opinions on peoples thoughts about meeting people through social networks like Facebook or Myspace. Now, I'm not out nor do I know any gay/bisexual people in my area and honestly not really looking to meet someone from right here. I've found one person that I kind of would like to become friends with maybe(?) but lives on the other side of the country. Really, that is what I'm looking for, not something close.........Now just to clarify I'm not looking for sex/love...strictly friendship.

I'm not sure if any of this makes sense......but I guess my question is, should I try talking to him? Is it weird because its on a social network and I've never met them in person?

 

[saymyname]

Umm... hardly anything is weird. I used to talk to guys all the time on myspace when I was in high school, before I started to meet other gay people, before moving to a big city. It's just chat... helps if you have things in common with them other than being gay, though.

Oh, and why not come out? "You'll feel so much better and happier if you do" (Milk).

 

[islgb12]

So its okay just to be like "Hey! Whats up?" lol. I really don't want to have that sleezy chatroom feel ya know?

And I'm working on it. The past few months I have come to terms with alot about myself. This is something I want to take slow. I'm happy with the way things are right now.

 

[G-Lexington]

Those particular websites seem like odd places to "get to know people". They seem much more suitable for keeping in touch with people you already know...

Lex

 

[spencer]

try omegle

 

[islgb12]

Okay so I'm not really looking to "get to know" someone on a real personal level. I was just wondering, is a it appropriate to add someone you don't know and talk to them?

 

[G-Lexington]

"Appropriate" is kind of iffy. I know some people who add everybody and their dog to their myspace/facebook accounts, and chat with anybody and everybody. Most of my friends tend to keep it to a "I'll add you if I know you" sort of thing.

Do you have someone specifically in mind? Or are you doing a search for "gay" and "in my area", and seeing if you can find someone who gives you wood? If that's the case, there are much better options.

Lex

 

[islgb12]

I do have someone specifically. And its not like its completely out of left field...(well it still kind of is)....but he is a friend of a friend...of a friend..haha. But I don't know him or my friends friend personally nor have I met either one of them.

 

[yourally]

here's something you could try

go to chat-avenue.com

click gay chat

make up a screen name and sign in (try to add something like these below to your name:

"no c2c" (cam to cam)
"no meet"(You're not up for meeting)
"no sex"(you're not looking for sex)

and once in, type a simple message like:

"Anyone here, not looking for sex and just want to chat?"

Don't keep pressing enter to post it bcuz you see all the sex crazed freaks flooding the board, but eventually someone will pm you and want to chat.(you'll get kicked out anyway if you flood-post a message too often)

Then, if you hit it off, ask for an msn/aim name to chat with them later.

Or you could just scroll down the right hand side and randomly pm someone who sounds like they're not sex-crazed.

I've made some cool online friends there, so wanna give it a try?