Family or Friends First? (Coming Out Order)

[BritBoy1989]

Hey, this could be really stupid, but I'm in a bit of a dilemma. I've decided to come out soon, but I'm stuck on what order to do it in. If I give you guys a list of the people, think you could help me? (I know this sounds like a maths question, haha)

1) My Parents. I think they'll be accepting
2) My best friend. I think she'll be fine, maybe shocked, maybe not :S
3) My best friend that I'm not as close with anymore. I'm almost certain I came out to him years ago, but whether that was a dream or not, he doesn't seem to remember it. Think he'll be fine
4) The ex-girlfriend best friend who I'm close with still. We dated for a month 2 years ago, the first (and probably last) girlfriend I'll ever have
5) Associated other friends. Haha, these will be last whatever

I know people say you ought to have a support group before coming out to your parents but I think they'll be alright with it, not sure what to do :S
It's such a massive thing!
Hope you guys can help, appreciate and love this forum

 

[looseliam]

May I make this suggestion:

Don't "come-out." Just stop living in the closet. If someone asks, "you're gay?" You can simply reply, "yep. You didn't know?"

Personally, I'm not a proponent of the "go tell everyone" approach. I find it selfish and narcissistic. But that's me.

In any event, best of luck to ya!!

 

[racer2438]

who care what order, it should only matter to you and only when you feel it is right in your heart and mind. Only you will know the right time.

And don't pressure your self with this,

[B]as said above, if [/B]someone asks you just say yes!! You didt know!!

 

[loveitacceptit]

i agree with looseliam's approach for all the random friends and acquaintances, but i feel like your parents definitely deserve to know at some point before you bring home your boyfriend for thanksgiving.

as for what order, it doesn't really matter. just do whatever feels right, or tell each of the people on your list when an opportunity presents itself, in whatever order. i did my good friends first and then my parents, but it wasn't for any particular reason.

 

[MrGlamorous]

well to be honest i came out to my family in a massive fight ( really disfunctional family ) they haven't accept me, and i came out to 2 other people and they were fine about it.. tho if i could do it again i wouldn't tell them i'm gay.. i would just simply be myself.. if someone asked me wether i was gay i would tell them.. but telling people that your gay i found it hits them quiet hard because it puts them in an awkward position..

but that is me

Good luck with it all let us know how things go

 

[roadtripboy]

I made a list of people I was going to tell and in what order.

And the reaction I got from most everyone was..."well, duh".

Good luck, hope everything goes well for you.

 

[castoono]

Tell your parents, let your friends ask if they need to, in my opinion. Well done, anyway. Good luck

 

[BritBoy1989]

I guess I'd never really thought of it like that before. That actually makes sense! I think I'll come out directly to my parents first, and my closest friend, and then the rest I'll just leave and let them ask if they feel the need to. This has actually helped a load! Just thinking about it, I guess that 99% of people either don't care or probably just assume anyway! Thanks, all of you x