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Feeling Bad After Hooking Up

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Does anybody feel the same way as me??

It's kinda weird that I regularly look for guys to hook up with but after that, I feel as if I was used, or in a way, disgusted because we only meet up for sex.

The weird thing is, even if i know i will feel bad, I still hook up. :confused:

Is this normal?? Or am I just a little horny??
 
I don't know if it's normal, but I recognise it. I used to have the same thing - you hook up and it's all fun, but as soon as the guy has left (or you're on your way home) you wonder why on earth you did this. But horniness wins out in the end.

I said 'used to', because I have made the decision not to consciously hook up any more. If something happens, that's good, but I'm not going to someone's house any more just to have sex.

The way I see it, you have two choices: continue hooking up, or stop doing it. Both are valid choices. Either way, you should feel totally comfortable with your choice. :)
 
I've had a couple hookups and I don't do them anymore. I felt bad afterward every time, so I just stopped doing them. I would much rather get to know someone and take things slow with someone that I truly care about.
 
After you shoot, the horniness disappears and you feel cheap for having casual sex, maybe with a stranger. I think we've all felt it.

You really have two choices: Not hook up, or change your attitude about negative aspects of hooking up and accept it for what it is...a way to get off. Then you'll feel as guilty (or not) as you do by masturbating.

If the second option doesn't appeal to you, then you might not be a good hooker-upper. Some guys aren't. That's OK, but the key is to know yourself and what what makes you feel better or worse about yourself. Right now, hooking up for casual sex seems to bother you afterward. So, you either need to change your behavior, or your attitude toward it.
 
Where do you think this expression comes from ?
"The shame comes after the nut."
 
do you have any interest to date any of these men? maybe you'll feel better if you are interested in them more than just hooking up
 
Yeah, that's why I stopped hooking up after the first time. I'm just not emotionless enough for it.
 
Hooking up is not emotionless, it's expectationless. Some guys can do it some can't.

There's no problem with either choice. If it makes you feel dirty, that could either be about you or the guys you choose, which is ultimately about you anyway. Don't do it if causes you problems.
 
gaskell said:
I'll be one of the exceptions, I never felt bad about hooking up.
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Same here. I feel empowered, sexy, and happy cause I got what I want(ed): to get laid.

It's good if it's what you want.

Don't let our judeo-christian moralistic society (sex-negativity) get you down!
 
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