Feeling Trapped

[alley]

What's in it for your boyfriend ---he's paying the bills---and he is not interested in a sexual relationship?--Have you talked at all about this with him? What does he say?

 

[justhappy]

maybe he cheated on you while he was on one of those trips and he is worried about his HIV status but is reluctant to get tested... for fear of losing you when he has to admit that he cheated .... or he is trying to avoid sex because he thinks there is a chance that he might be HIV positive and he doesn't want to take the chance and infect you.. sit down and talk with him and find out what's going on in his head even if it isn't as dramatic as this the key is still to talk to each other ... life and relationships can not simply be measured by the number of times you have or don't have sex

 

[joeG23]

Mann, you are in a tough spot, but you have to talk. Relationships are two way - and you're not getting what you need out of this one. You have a right to fulfillment. You need to work out what you want out of this partnership and let him know your expectations - if he can't or won't live up to those expectations then you will have to face up to the inevitable. Best of luck.

 

[G-Lexington]

Yeah, I'd say a major talk is in order. I'd wait until he's back in town, sit him down, and lay it all out for him.

Tell him you still have feelings for him, you appreciate all he's done, you understand his crazy work schedule, but you don't really feel like his boyfriend anymore. And let him know how you feel there's not much option open to you right now. Find out how he feels about the whole thing.

Lex

 

[KaraBulut]

Understand this- the issue is that your boyfriend is putting a lot of stuff before you- work, travel, sleep...

The question for you is your priorities - are you willing to give up school and other things that allow you to have a pretty good lifestyle because you don't get as much physical intimacy as you want or need?

It's a difficult to choice to make. The two of you need to have a talk. But you also need to think about your the options, the choices that you're going to have to make... and the choice that your boyfriend may have already made.

 

[rareboy]

Wow.

What a choice you have before you.

But as everyone else has said, talk to him first. A year without sex in the second year of a relationship isn't emotionally healthy.

 

[looseliam]

Well, here's what I'd do:

Nail the ex, go about your life. Become roommates with your bf. You've tried to open the lines of communication but he keeps dodging out.

You're young, have fun.