Feeling used.

[mexamor]

Sorry to hear that sweety. My rule is simple, act like you don't care. I know you do and it kills inside but just act like it doesn't. go out go to bars and act like it doesn't matter. Make him insignigicant. You don't have to be rude but you don't have to walk around with your heart on your sleeve either. good luck

 

[HartfordGuy]

Yeah, it happens to all of us at some time or another. Yes, it sucks. But there is nothing you can do about it.

You can however go about your normal routine without letting him know it bothers you. The best revenge you can get it letting him see he didn't bring you down.

Besides, he may have actually been interested in you. But then something changed and he reconsidered. Some guys are just bad "Breaker uppers". They have no social skills in that area, so they just take the cowards way out and leave you high and dry, then ignor you. Trust me, you are better off without guys like that . They ultimately treat everyone that way until they are alone.

 

[Homoerectus]

Yes, most of us have been used at one time or another. Most of us have used someone. It is part of the game of life. Just remember how it feels to be used if you are ever tempted to use someone. Now, when you run into him, say hello, ask how he is, introduce him to your date and friends and act as though everything is great. Never let the bastard know you are hurting.

 

[SilverRRCloud]

Anyone ever been used?

Basically, I had sex with this guy (my first ever time) about 5 weeks ago. I’d only known him three weeks, but I trusted him implicitly. We’ve met up since, and done stuff again.

Turns out he lied and all he was really interested in was the sex! I totally misjudged him.

I’m still very hung up on this guy (nowhere near as much as I used to be, though), so I just can’t be mean to him. He’s basically giving me the cold shoulder and is blowing me off.

The worst thing is I will have to see him around and in gay clubs. I don’t know what to do, and what will happen when I see him. He might just try it on if there’s nobody better around, and I probably would accept… but I really don’t want to.

I wasn’t the first he did this to, and I doubt he’ll be the last.

Such a twat!

Feeling really down at the moment. !

Dude,

There is not much point in wasting your time and energy on useless regrets here. He lied. You misjudged him.

Look, we all live and learn and sometimes it hits us hard and sometimes, we are reeling from the pain for a long time. That's why people say, 'Life is hard.' Rite?

Now, after all of that, you say, you are still very hung up on this guy? He used you alright but you must have loved it, too? Or why would you be still hung up on him? Think about it. How bad was it really, if you are hung up on him?

Basically, you are also saying that you may be willing to repeat the experience, if there is 'nobody better around'. Fine. So, how badly used have you been, if you are willing to go through it again? You really don't want to do it, but you'd do it anyway, rite? How come?

Care to spill out your beans, please?

SC

 

[morgaes]

Just act like you don't care, and if he ever approaches you again, give him the cold shoulder, he clearly doesn't deserve you.

 

[MaxMouse]

I totally understand where you're coming from. Every guy I have met here at Penn State just wants sex, and I am just not ready for that. I want to date someone for a while before even considering actually having sex. Luckily, I have only made out with 2 guys here, seen their dicks, but no oral or anything else sexual. I always end up stopping. In a way, I'm jealous of you...right now, whether you know it or not, you have a life experience behind you and it's OK to lose your virginity like that and everything...it happens a lot and it's really unfortunate. Good luck with the whole situation

 

[luminum]

Yeah, you know? It happened, it's over, he's a dick, and now you know not to get involved with him.

It's an ego bruiser for sure, but count it as a fling, and seek better men. Let the twat fuck his brains out.

 

[J_Nite]

yeah, being used sucks. i once flew all the way down to argentina to meet up with my boyfriend at the time (who was going to school there) and he acted like he was too good for me around his friends, but only when we were alone he pretended to be sweet. he wasnt apologetic, wasnt appreciative of the $2500 i just spent to fly out there and get a hotel room. listen, some people can seem very charming, but in reality, they just are evil. if u see him at a club, just pretend like he is someone like everyone else. just dont acknowledge him. if you are at a bar or a club, u are there for a good time, so have one. dont let him bother you.

 

[kurtwild]

did he tell you that he loves you or sthg?
if he didnt maybe he thought that you just wanted only the sex too.
you should try other guys too,and if you want only this one,then go all the time where he goes and try to get him/.

 

[loppyears]

Getting used blows. One guy who I met went so far just to have sex with me, we went out for 2 months and then he just didn't want to know me after that. Found out from a friend of his why he went out with me and I was uttly broken. I felt used, a total fool and dirty. But I learned from this, just like you will. There are nice guys out there, just finding them is the problem lol Some guys just don't care and don't want to know. Those are the type of guys who are gonna end up alone.

 

[StudboySeth]

I had a few of those, but now we're just friends and for one reason or another since I've gotten over them they just buy me drinks now and drive me around. See if you can just use them. Well, I guess I wasn't used, and I did some oral action the first time we met with both of them, so I guess it wasn't like you, but I dated both of them for about a week, and then we fought, then I ignored them, and then when I started talking to them as friends they wound up buying me stuff. It's nice.

 

[looseliam]

Haha. All I can do is laugh and cringe when reading this thread. That was my first time with a guy, I was so naive. :S

Well, and what have you learned in the past two years?? =]

 

[AlmondMilk]

didn't notice the date! lol. Well it's good to know that you're not as confused as you once were

 

[KaraBulut]

Well, and what have you learned in the past two years?? =]

My question, too. Give us an update.

 

[rareboy]

Hopefully you've recovered fully.

And haven't adopted the approach of just using others.

I think in your original case, it may have been partly a question of expectations and communications.

And confusing sex with love.

 

[spencer]

Hopefully you've recovered fully.

And haven't adopted the approach of just using others.

I think in your original case, it may have been partly a question of expectations and communications.

And confusing sex with love.

Yeah, definately don't let the hurt allow you to hurt others. I guess you could have pinned him down and told him outright before sex what your expectations were.

I think sex and love mix for both parties. If more people did that, they wouldn't sleep around so much. But alas, I'm a romantic.