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Maybe its just me but each time I've had sex with a guy I always get this guilty feeling that I'm doing something wrong morally. I think its part of the reason why I have a hard time letting things go and just enjoying the moment. I like bottoming, the pleasure is just rediculous but afterwards I just feel like I've done something bad. Is this something that happens to all bi guys or is it just me and will it ever go away?
 
I was that way for a while when I was younger, but for me it faded, as I become more comfortable with being gay.. / not sure how it will be for being "bi" tho . good luck!
 
i felt the same after i slept with a guy i work with. in the morning (when we sobered up) he gave me a blowjob and i couldn't cum. i just felt really awkward and wanted him to leave. but i soon acepted afterwards that it was the best sex i have ever had!
 
Many people have been brought up to believe that doing anything even remotely sexual is 'dirty' and thus, an overwhelming feeling of 'guilt' is only a most natural consequence.

Once you look into the matter closer, you'll discover that practically everyone does it and so, you are in the best company, guilty or not.

And those preaching the 'cleanliness' somehow tend to be more involved with all kinds of scandals than anyone esle... Doesn't that speak volumes?

SC
 
justaguy1988 said:
Maybe its just me but each time I've had sex with a guy I always get this guilty feeling that I'm doing something wrong morally.
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It's called "post-orgasmic remorse".

justaguy1988 said:
afterwards I just feel like I've done something bad. Is this something that happens to all bi guys or is it just me and will it ever go away?
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Chemically, there's a lot that goes on in your body during and immediately after an orgasm. Some guys fall asleep. Some guys get migraines. Some guys get warm and tingly.

Something about you is causing your brain to interpret that chemical rush as guilt and remorse. I suspect that if you deal with those feelings of guilt over your bisexuality before having sex with a guy, then that post-orgasmic felling of remorse will be replaced by something more pleasant- like warm and tingly.
 
i was on the brink of depression the first time I was with a guy. I was a real jerk and didn't speak to him for weeks. I still have a fear of hooking up again, because I don't want to go through that again. I did however call him up and apologized and explained. thankfully he was understanding and didn't hold it against me.
 
Smiffy2 said:
i was on the brink of depression the first time I was with a guy. I was a real jerk and didn't speak to him for weeks. I still have a fear of hooking up again, because I don't want to go through that again. I did however call him up and apologized and explained. thankfully he was understanding and didn't hold it against me.
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Seems like most bi guys have this issue to deal with. I still don't like it, it makes me all tense and nervous but I think if I just make myself do it I'll end up liking it. I'm supposed to meet an older couple, bi guy bi woman, this evening and I chickened out once and they understood why but I don't want to do that to them again. Besides once we get into it I think its gonna get pretty kinky.


Never heard it called post orgasmic remorse but that is exactly what I get after I cum.
 
Have you thought, even for a moment, that you may be going at this in a wrong way. Why not work on developing a friendship. When that happens I suspect that you will be pleasantly surprised how your friend's reactions toward you will move toward physical expression. Then, you can say that you have become more than friends. Bonds between you are coming into being. My own experience is that there comes a time when sex becomes the most natural and right way of confirming the bond between you. That kind of sex is fantastic and only improves as you move on with repetitions and innovations.

And the beautiful thing about such sex is that the rightness of it makes it guilt free. There is no feeling of hurt in sex between two persons in a loving and committed relationship.
 
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