Finding a boyfriend~

[IllgetyouHackman]

Okay, what you just said is me in the same exact situation. I don't know about you but I have tried some dating sites also. It think the best advice to you, from what I have learned, is be proactive and grab opportunities as they come. Don't be afraid to approach people at class, bars or whatever, if you get shot down no big deal. I even went out on my first meeting/date with a guy I met online, we were really different people and it was pretty obvious. But no harm, no foul; I did it, was proud of myself for initiating it, and I would do it again. Just be positive and outgoing!

 

[cumwhore]

Changed by mod to - "I have nothing nice to say so I'll keep quiet until I do"

 

[bluepheonix]

I would remind those inclined to post in the same vein as 'cumwhore' that CO&R is a no flame zone.

 

[Lube]

I have a blog post on it. Basically, just do what you like to do and you'll find people who like to do the same thing.

 

[tallguy297]

I would remind those inclined to post in the same vein as 'cumwhore' that CO&R is a no flame zone.

And that goes doubly for me. Please remember where you are.

 

[MisterMajestic]

If you don't have Gay friends that can introduce you to single guys then searching "online" is another option...(Local Gay chat rooms or different sitessimilar to JUB geared to Gay Men)...

Check and see if the Gay/Bi dating service "Mega-Mates" is in your area...Gay/Bi & Married men filter the service but there's always a hand-ful of Single Guys just looking for friendship &/or dating..

Check it out and see if its for you...

 

[KaraBulut]

Meeting people comes down to three things-

1. Putting yourself out there and not judging people by how they look
2. Taking time to be interested in what people have to say
3. Being willing to accept whatever comes of it- whether it be "no, thanks", "just friends" or hotsweatybuttsex.

If you are attending a large university, you can start by making some gay friends. Where are they? Try the LGBT student group, the theatre department or ask an emo/alternative looking guy if he knows where the gay clubs are in town (and be sure to ask about what the club is like- you don't want to start with the local leather bar).

The next time you go out with your craziest female friend, go to the straight club, get a little buzz going and then get her to go with you to the gay bar. This way you'll have a dance partner and you won't look like an out-of-place nervous guy. Dance. Have a good time. Check the place out. If you see some people you know, say "Hi" and then the next time you see them outside the bar, talk to them.

Eventually, you'll make some new gay friends and you'll start building a network of people that you can hang out with, party with, date, fuck and do all sorts of things with.

 

[TX-Beau]

The dratted Kara took my post.

I'll just add, that putting yourself out there doesn't mean standing in the corner or staring into your drink. Talk to people - you'll find some conceited assholes sure - but most people are willing to exchange a word or two. And really, you don't want to hang out with the conceited assholes anyway so it's best to let them self select themselves out.

Also if you're giving off "I want to be a wife now," vibes, you'll be scaring guys away. I can't think of any guy I know gay or straight who reacts well to seeing their date mentally picking out china patters the first month in.

Things DO have to develop naturally. Don't push, don't over commit, make sure it's the ACTUAL GUY you want, and not just the idea of A guy. Can't stress how many guys shoot themselves in the ass by mixing these two up.

So where to find them - I literally just ran into some guy, somewhere, every single time I got into a relationship with the single exception of the present one - and this one is abnormal anyway, since we met at the GLBT student group in college and then didn't start seeing each other until over a decade later.

It'll be the same with you. Go out, have a good time, live your own life, and you'll stumble across a thousand frogs and a few princes - remember, if the frogs are hot, true love doesn't have to be your goal. Have a good time along the way. The more confidence you build (you have to gamble to gain confidence) the more laid back you are, the more worthwhile guys you'll attract.

 

[TX-Beau]

Don't worry gay pride parades generally have nothing whatsoever to do with protests. Unless it's protests that the strippers on the floats are not scantily clad enough.

And there are a million and one different kinds of gay "clubs."

 

[Lube]

Yeah, let's not mess with that annoying gay pride stuff.

Let's just have fun.

 

[Lube]

Sarcasm with a smile. Or a smirk.

Yeah, as TX said, 'pride' is not the same as 'protest'. You can certainly make friends at pride events. Ya never know. Why limit yourself. Just bow out when they start talking about using machetes and hand grenades.

 

[kevinsexh8]

Don't Look for a boyfriend in Internet, just be yourself and...

This guy have some good points

[ame]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pHxdeEbrcak&feature=player_embedded[/ame]

 

[sabot3ur]

look for gays on facebook with mutual friends, friend them and just say whats up. make lots of gay friends whenever and wherever you find them. potential boyfriends are everywhere make plans to hang out with them outside of school or whatever and after a while you'll end up with a wonderful ball and chain of your own!

 

[hotatlboi]

At most college campuses, the gay student groups are not about protesting. At my school they sometimes had social events and things, it's a good place to meet other gay students.