Finding things to do with my baby

[gotYouinmystrongarms]

Good afternoon well I find myself not knowing where to take my man out at times. We are mature young men who like to "chill" as he says, got to admit I'm trying to keep up my gentleman role here, so to me we are spending time together. He is 19 I am 20, in the los angeles area, this is actually one of the most rewarding things for me to do right now, typing about the man whose heart I am forming with mine..
We will sometimes catch a movie, have been to the mall, our houses are off limits right now, and trust me as a man this is very difficult for me to be dealing with, but not everything can fall into place at once right. As it is now, we would like our parents to be ok with this but know what they Aren't, so for right now our families do not know and we would like to keep it that way, which explains why our houses are off limits, save the rare occasion when people are gone.

And again, as a will-be self sufficient man I understand I need to step it up and get us going here with a home, that will come.

I hear about the clubs alot, I would like to check out the one called Club Delicious.

What is important about how we feel about clubs is this: We have never really been to a gay club together, or alone, I would be up to take him but I need to stress we aren't necessarily "flaming" gay, as much as I do not like to stereotype, but we truly believe we are more masculine and do not want to go anywhere where we would feel out of place..

We have done a theme park, you know we will hit up Magic Mountain. I feel as the older, more mature man in this relationship I am the one who should know some good places, you know..

I would actually love to hit up some parties where house music is played, you know but it's got to be a safe place and I would not want him to be around drugs, save marijuana and drinks. I understand there will be some bad shit everywhere, and I will do my best to protect him.



Thank you for your time guys peace & love

-a true gentleman

 

[G-Lexington]

Maybe I've never been to the right gay clubs, but I have yet to be at one where "masculine" gay men were considered unwelcome. Yeah, I've been to ones that seem to lean one way or the other - there's a leather bar down the street, for instance, and a "yuppie"-type one near there. But anybody from one could go into the other, and there wouldn't be any hassles. If going to a gay club interests you (and you've got the appropriate fake IDs), go check them out. You might decide not to buy a drink when you first walk in. Just agree to go in for ten minutes and feel the vibe. If you like it, great - buy a drink. If not, say "enh - not our thing" and head on out to another one.

Lex

 

[Ryuukie]

Santa Monica -- my favorite place.

 

[hylas]

just fucking relax. you are just one year older, thats almost nothing. knock off the gentleman-older-mature-protector bullshit. maybe your boyfriend likes to be treated like a baby but to me it comes off as really obnoxious.

sorry to hear about your home situation. i have much more accepting parents but i still never brought anybody home, it just didnt feel right, and i only sarted dating seriously once i got my own place. so, get a job and move out.

as for gay clubs and bars, again, relax. check them out. you wont like all of them... just keep an open mind, dont go back to the ones you didnt like, and do go back to the ones where you had a good time. easy like that.

 

[TX-Beau]

Santa Monica -- my favorite place.

There are a lot of choices on Santa Monica. Anyway, I'm getting a pseudo closeted vibe from what you've said.

Let me know if I'm wrong. My knowledge of WEHO and LA and Silverlake is a few years old, but I'm sure the old standbys are still there.

Also, and I don't want to offend you, but there's no effective difference between his age and yours, and it is a little odd to hear you discuss him like he's eight years old.

To each his own, but if he was me, that attitude would bother me. Now if you were 30 or 40, that might be justified.

 

[Rule-Of-Thirds]

Never been to CA but I'm sure there are museums and small concerts you both can go to. That could always be a fun change of pace for you. Personally, I think there aren't many things better than to walk through a museum getting to know someone you care about.

 

[rareboy]

I also have to say that it sounds like you need to learn how to just relax.

About being a homo.

About letting your flamer side show.

About what it means to be mature and responsible.

About just having fun without it being a destination event.

From your post, everything sounds like a chore.

I realize that some guys are just born or raised to be joyless and conservative in everything they do, I know a number of guys that just can't cut loose no matter how hard they try. This is your youth. Make the most of it.

Oh, and I'd slap you if you referred to me as your 'baby'. It sounds fake.

 

[youngnihilist]

I think Club Delicious is at Arena, it's a Latino (almost everyone there) gay night. Since you're under 21 that limits options but Tigerheat is fun lots of couples there. Go check out the Grove, Santa Monica, Venice Beach, museums (LACMA, etc.)