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First Date Ideas?

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So, I've never been on a "date" or anything of the sort. Like most of the kids that aren't into the club scene, I have no idea how to meet gay guys my age. But, I finally have worked up the nerve to ask a guy I know to go do something. What though? I draw blank every time I try to think of what we could do. Something casual. I live in Seattle and we are both under 21. Any ideas?


Thank you.
 
Pick a good movie to go see. Afterwards.. go to a nice restaurant and find something the both of you would enjoy to talk about while you both wait for the food. Now.. I have never dated but it sounds good.. right? lol
 
Hey Jote,

Mate... if you know the guy at all then maybe its something that interests him... a game of footy, or baseball, does he like music... a band somewhere, a cup of coffee, does he like art... maybe a studio....

The key to all of these things and any date is to make it personal... dont go to the biggest movie, or the biggest game or the biggest band. Go somewhere small, quirky, unique. It doesnt have to cost big heaps, hell something like a walk to your favorite park or down your favorite mall doesnt cost anything... and yet its a little unique and a little personal.

Where you go or what you do isnt the most important thing Jote... you are. The rest is just an excuse for you guys to meet, get to know each other a little and to have a good time. And honestly if you hit it off it wont matter what you do!
 
Keep it simple! Do not exaggerate or elaborate it, if you know what I mean. Be yourself. Do not put pressure into it by thinking of it as a first date, it will put pressure into both individuals.

You just have to understand that this first date, nomatter what you do, just because it is the first date is special enough already and will leave a good impression no matter what. So who cares about what you do. Like I said, be yourself. Do the things you would normally do that you think will make him enjoy it more. Don't plan on something complicated, or special.

My suggestion is, again, keep it simple. A movie, a dinner at a cheap but great tasting restaurant (or home cook if you can) , or even things like a drive to the park can do it. I like how Tallguy297 said about keeping it personal. Make sure that the environment is just about the two of you..with no one else. Its easier to get to know each other better and make sparks happens.
 
Go bowling. There are only a couple of bowling alleys left in Seattle, so tell him, "Hey, let's go bowling before the sport goes extinct." It has several virtues: probably neither of you have ever done it, so there's no shame in being lousy at it; it gives you something to talk about while you're doing it, yet you don't have to keep up a conversation; it's public, so there's no pressure to do anything but have a good time; it can easily lead to going for coffee or a hamburger or something else to talk further, if you feel like it; and you get to spend a good amount of time looking at his butt.

Try it. You'll like it.
 
Don't go on a "date" - meaning dressing up, dinner, and whatnot.

Just go have fun. Find something you both like doing, and go do it.

Play minature golf.
Go see a local band play.
Go window shopping for cars, or home furnishings, or houses.
Go bowling.
Watch a professional, minor-league, college or high school sporting event.
Go to the zoo and feed the animals.
Join a for-fun volleyball league, and invite him along.
Stroll through downtown Seattle at night, and pick a random place to go eat as you walk by.
Enroll both of you in a one-day class where you learn to make clay, or take photos, or arrange flowers.
Take an introduction to karate (or other martial art) together.

Free your mind up - there's tons of stuff to do. :)

Lex
 
Thanks guys. I should hopefully see him today and I still have no idea what to ask him, but so be it. Thanks for all the advice. I love the idea of bowling, so that's probably the direction I'll be heading. Wish me luck.
 
The club scene in Seattle sucks, especially if you're under 21 (Neighbours after hours--no thanks). So I don't think you're missing much there. There used to be this thing called Queercore put together by Gay City Health Project or the LGBT Center (can't remember which) for guys between 18 and 30, but it imploded a while back. Lambert House targets GLBT youth under 22, but I've always figured it was more focused on teens.

Sports teams are a good way to meet a broad variety of guys--Frontrunners for jogging/walking, Orcas for swimming, Quake Rugby and more (see Team Seattle for more info on all of these and more). You don't have to be a serious athlete to be involved in those groups. They're more social than anything else. Seattle Men's Chorus is also a good way to get to know a lot of people if you're at all interested in singing. All of these groups have attendees of a broad range of ages, which means it's going to mostly be guys in their mid-20s through 40s although there will be some older and younger too. A lot of younger guys know people through school or are still trying to figure out how to meet other gay people or are too shy to go to these sorts of groups I guess. Still, the point is to get connected. You meet a couple people running on Saturday morning, get invited to a party, meet more people who you have more in common with, etc.

Fun dates I've had in this city:
  • Walking around various parks. The new sculpture park at the north end of Belltown, Discovery Park, Golden Gardens (beautiful especially at sunset), Alki (good for watching the sunset and grabbing dinner afterwards), around Green Lake (cafes or restaurants to stop at before or after) are all great.
  • Cooking dinner together and having a night in
  • Hanging out, swimming at Madison Park beach (obviously works better in the summertime)
  • Hanging out at a Cafe (there are about 5 gazillion of them in Seattle)
  • Visit an art gallery showing
  • See a theater production or movie (not recommended for the first couple dates though because you can't talk to each other)
 
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