First "date"

[Captain53]

Looks like I may be having my first "date" here in the near future. This is someone who I found on gay.com. He is my age and has had a lot of the same life experience I have had.

We are going to meet for coffee in a public place (I am not so naive as to meet privately for the first time) Needless to say, I am a bit nervous. Yet this is something I have looked forward to since I dediced that I needed to be honest with mysef about my feelings.

Since we are meeting in public, what hints can I get for conversation. should I just offer to shake his hand? Should I offer a hug? I feel like some teenager asking his pals about what to do on a first date.

thanks

 

[headrushboy]

Just greet him like some good friend.

it's difficult to say, but if he comes in for a hug go ahead.

don't overthink it.

As for conversation, well you've already gotten to know each other a little bit already no?
If not, start working up on that, if you have well continue getting to know each other more.

no stress no pressure. Just a casual date.

 

[G-Lexington]

I'd offer a hand, but accept the hug if it's forthcoming.

And have fun, damnit.

Lex

 

[Captain53]

Just greet him like some good friend.

it's difficult to say, but if he comes in for a hug go ahead.

don't overthink it.

As for conversation, well you've already gotten to know each other a little bit already no?
If not, start working up on that, if you have well continue getting to know each other more.

no stress no pressure. Just a casual date.

I know this is a first date and need to keep it such. However, I must admit it would be nice if it led further. I hate to tell you how long it has been since I have had sex with somthing other than my right hand

 

[Captain53]

I'd offer a hand, but accept the hug if it's forthcoming.

And have fun, damnit.

Lex

Lex,

thanks. and you are right. I need to have fun.

 

[KaraBulut]

Since we are meeting in public, what hints can I get for conversation. should I just offer to shake his hand? Should I offer a hug? I feel like some teenager asking his pals about what to do on a first date.

Do what feels right at the time.

If you've been talking on the phone for a while, a hug might feel right. If you don't feel it, then offer your hand when you meet.

But I suspect that the shake/hug/kiss dilemma won't be at the beginning of the date- it will be at the end of the date.

As for hints for conversation- there's one thing that most people enjoy talking about: themselves. Ask about his interests, his family, his work, his school... etc. And be honest in offering information about yourself.

 

[Captain53]

actually I know very little about him. Not much more than he has stated in him profile and in the few emails we have exchanged. I guess that our coffee get togehter is to find out about each other.

 

[inlovewithblair]

actually I know very little about him. Not much more than he has stated in him profile and in the few emails we have exchanged. I guess that our coffee get togehter is to find out about each other.

this is fun. i know how nervous some people (myself included) can get get over dating, especially when it's a first date. honestly, just be yourself and look at it in perspective - i mean, how bad can it actually go? and if it goes bad, who cares? lol.

tips for conversation...i'm sure things will come up, conversations naturally flow, usually. but, if it gets rough, start with the 'gay talk'. when did you come out, who knows, were you nervous, how's your fam now, ask about his job, school, etc. crack a few jokes here and there...

 

[KaraBulut]

You might give some thought to a brief phone conversation or online chat before your date. That will take some of the pressure off so that you don't have those "deer-in-the-headlights" moments or awkward silences.

 

[mydrew1]

Shake hands and start of with a basic overview of your lifestory I guess.

 

[spencer]

google first date topics and first date don'ts