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First day at University

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I had my first day ever at University today. I thought it would be pretty good, but it sucked. I don't feel like I fit in at all because I'm gay and closeted. Basically, all everyone on my floor talked about today was sports and girls so I don't feel like I relate at all. We went through this whole introduction meeting and I think I was the only one who isn't into sports. On the upside, I'd say 15 of the 20 guys on my floor are drop dead gorgeous! But I just can't relate to them so far so I don't really care.

Now I'm really worried that I'm going to be lonely like this all year. I'm going to bed soon, but I hope tomorrow will be better. There's a bunch more activities planned for frosh week and I hope I can meet people like me. But I'm really shy, so I don't know.

Most of my floor has gone to the Girls' residence now, but I didn't feel like going because of how I feel.

I've been thinking about joining the school's gay club today to maybe meet some people I relate to, but I'm so scared. But I don't even know one gay person so it would be a good thing to do. I don't even know why I'm scared, but I just am. Anyway, I'm really tired so I'm going to bed. I hope tomorrow will be better...
 
Whats your roomate situation?

Your shy but like you said there are many other activities this week for you to get to meet people.

The statistics dont lie so out of those 20 boys on your floor at least 5 of them must be gay so keep hope alive.
 
I don't have a roommate, everyone in this building has single rooms.

I don't know if I'm gonna meet people, but I'm going to try to go to all the events so there's a chance I do. We had these welcoming ceremonies today and the student who organized the whole thing was talking about how she felt so different when she got here and she met her best friend during this week. That made me feel a little better.

And yeah, there is that statistic, but I'd still be surprised if there was a gay guy on my floor. I don't think I've heard one of them not talk about girls since I got here.
 
Don't fret.

I moved to BR last year not knowing a soul. Now I've got TONS of friends from college and a few gay friends too. Even had a boyfriend for a couple of months.

(I have/had all this and I wasn't out till much later on!)

Good luck and enjoy college!!!
 
First off, let's get stats right... of 20, 1-2 should be gay.

Second, the beginning of university is scary for everybody... gay, straight, bi, whatever. And you do feel alone. I found huge emotional swings for the first semester actually. By second, things seem more in place. Don't freak yet. There's time.

And you're already doing what I'd advise which is get involved. The best thing you can do is get involved in everything and then weed out the things you don't enjoy. Makes the difference between an awesome college experience and a so-so one. Hang in there... it gets better I promise.
 
It will get better! There is someone in a class with whom you will become friends. It may take a few days. It sounds to me like you are already homesick. Suck it up (bad choice ?) and make an effort to meet new friends. Is there a gay/lesbian org. there? Give it a week or two. I'm sure it will get better.
 
college is the best thing ever. i came closeted, and had a great time. I'm a junior now , , and just starting to come out, and i'm still having a great time. Life and college are what you make of it. Sometimes it can be lonely, but you'll make friends. You'll also be surprized about how few ppl will treat you any different or care at all. Good luck have a GREAT TIME. feel free to pm me if you are looking for ppl your age to reach out to and talk.
 
I think you'll find that you're all not so different. They're not just interested in sports and girls. You guys might have classes together etc.

But, the best way to meet people is to get involved ine xtra curriculars. Go to the LGBT group. You'll meet other people and many of them will udnerstand how you feel and where you're coming from. Do ther things like some kind of sport that really isn't a "sport" sport. I do fencing and I'm not interested in sports at all. Do you like board games/card games? They have groups like that. Volunteer service, political groups, activist groups, the possibilities are endless and you can meet many many people.

Don't be afraid to get to know people or introduce yourself or hang out. If youf ind you're not interested in some people, give them a second try out and figure out who you DO enjoy hanging out with for certain and keep up appearances. Meet up for dorm meals.

College can be scary and meeting new people can be unnerving, but it's a lot better than sitting in your room and doing nothing. Inf act, a lot of guys leave their doors open when they hang out. Stop by and say hello or sit down when they're all hanging out and shoot the breeze. Find something else that you allc an talk about that you like. College life, where hte best food is, etc.
 
I wouldn't say I'm homesick. I actually didn't really have many friends at home so I was looking forward to a change. Today, it's just academic sessions until 9pm when there's a party with live bands playing. Hopefully today will be better.

Yeah, I should go to the GLBT group but I don't know if I have the courage to. Tomorrow, they have a get involved fair where every club has a booth so I'll check that out.

And I couldn't figure out how to keep my door open! lol. The latch keeps closing it. Other people somehow figured it out but I have no idea how. Maybe it doesn't stay open.
 
Hey you have my support if that means anything. You know you have the courage to do it :)
 
I could still remember my first day at college. It was scary and all I wanted to do was to run home and duck my head under covers! I am a very shy person too and I am not into sports at all. But, we all have our own unique interests and there are bound to be people out there who would be into the same sort of things. So, don't fret, just be yourself, chill and you'll be just fine! All the best!
 
The guys talk about girls and sports because they're nervous and don't know anybody. At least some of them are going to have other interests that you can share, so don't get discouraged.

You'd be surprised how many of those that to you look like they are connecting are feeling lost just like you.

Small criticism. Just because you're gay doesn't mean you can't join everyone when they go visit the girls' dorm. Sitting alone in your room isn't the way to go.
 
Today's been pretty good so far. I ate breakfast with a few people and then we had to go to these academic sessions. Then there were a bunch of cool games that we played for 2 hours and a presentation about how we're all different, have different interests and we're all nervous and stuff. The presentation was very interesting and fun. Then we went to eat. A few of us really didn't want to eat mass produced food (for 3000) so we went and got pizza. On the way back from pizza, the guy I went with was talking about how one of the guys on our floor already got laid. I thought to myself, "I'm not surprised, he is the hottest guy on the floor!" And now, I'm finally back in my dorm.

There's a outdoor on-campus party in a couple hours but I'm not sure if I'm going to go. I might just walk around for a while though to see what's up. Dancing and that stuff isn't really my thing since I'm so shy, but I still want to go check it out.

I still don't feel like I relate to any of these guys but at least I didn't feel lonely today. Tomorrow is the on campus clubs fair so maybe I can check out some clubs there and meet people like me.

3nipples said:
Small criticism. Just because you're gay doesn't mean you can't join everyone when they go visit the girls' dorm. Sitting alone in your room isn't the way to go.
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Yeah, I know, I should have gone! But I didn't go more because I was feeling depressed than because I'm gay. This morning a few people asked where I was last night. Only a couple other people didn't go as well.
 
It's early yet bro...things will get even better. You just have to roll
with things and get out and do stuff...and it has nothing to do with
being gay. Being active in functions and associating with people are
the only key. Other people are just as nervous as you and just as
shy...and if you decide to want to come out there, don't for one
second think you are the only gay there;) . Enjoy yourself...college
can be an awesome place.
 
I was a Freshmen 3 years ago. And scared out of my mind. Things gravitate toward sports/women very quickly when there isn't anything else to do. And any closeted gay/bi guys are going to be able to disguise themselves quite well. The GLBT group certainly could be the thing to do, but only you will know for sure.

But I would definitely recommend the "hanging out", even though it's uncomfortable. Both with women and men. You never know who you might meet.

The other thing is...perhaps you might want to start an interest in something. Gaming, music, etc....just so that you've got some things in common. Perish the thought.

As for the door...just find something heavy and prop it open. My favorite is a huge can of hunt's tomato sauce, but a concrete block or brick works nicely. And in a pinch, a good thick heavy textbook(s) will do nicely as well. It's definitely important to keep it open.
 
yeah, the first day at Laurier is kinda low key. Just a lot of volunteers going buck wild, while you're left in confusion.
Dude, get over the fact that you're gay and closeted. Completely forget about it and have fun. I swear, the last thing you want to do is miss out on OWeek cause it's the easiest venue to make friends and just meet people. Even if it's not the guys in your rez, it can be the people in your group and people in your colour team.
Heck, in my first year most of my friends were people who weren't in my rez :P
 
Does your floor plan on having some mixer for everyone to get to know each other? Perhaps you can talk to the R.A. about organizing something. That's what they are there for.
 
As to the door... if you don't have anything to prop it open, use the "fix all" of college life- duct tape. If you don't have it, buy it. It comes in handy all of the time.

As stated, everybody feels as lost and lonely as you. Everybody (including you I'm sure) just hides it. No self respecting teenager is going to tell people s/he is having a hard time.... EVER. Just the way it is. But you all are in the same position.

I agree with the forget about being gay right now. Focus on being a college freshman and starting a new life. Being gay will fit in when you want and in it's own time. Right now it is just important to mingle with everybody and get to know people. If you want to join the LGBT group, great. If not, don't worry about it.

Definitely go to the party. Even if you don't dance, you can just hang out. I remember my first few parties at college I didn't really dance. But there are always people just hanging out.
 
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