First hookup advice... =)

[bzeus69]

Well just like the title says, I may be having my first hookup tonight with a hottie about 30 mins away from where I live.

Basically we chatted a whole bunch on yahoo and stuff, met him on manhunt originally. But we've had super hot chats, and I plan to give him some oral loving as he loves it the most! Hes a dom/top, and well, I've never been with a guy before so I'm just looking to pleasing him.

I'm extremely shy about stuff like this, so I'm hoping I don't chicken out. I've been horned up all day just thinking about being able to pleasure him as I'm not the hottest guy around, but he seems pretty hot.

Anyways... any advice or suggestions? I'm pretty sure there won't be anything more than some 1 on 1 oral and such. (We're both clean btw.)

Thanks ya'll!

 

[Just_Believe18]

Oh really? You know a guy who is willing to hook-up with you without ever having seen you in the first place as being clean, eh? And you know this for a fact, how?

If you're going to meet him, meet him at a public place first.

 

[tallguy297]

G'day bzeus69,

Well mate if you are ready to meet someone then you just have to make sure that you are ready both emotionally as well as physically... you need to make sure that you are safe and that you will be respected and cared for.

There is absolutely no reason to do anything you dont want to do or are uncomfortable with. Dont feel pressured into overstepping your boundaries and dont take any unnecessary chances....its very easy to get caught up in the moment...especially if things are going well...and do something that later you'll regret.

You need to know that you ARE important, you are worthy and you're needs, wants and safety are as important as his. Dont go into this thinking that you are in anyway less than him..because you are not. Thats a sure way to be used and hurt. You have values, feelings and emotions...and they are extremely important.
You need to respect yourself mate as much as you might think a lot of him.

You have to remember that if things dont go to plan as well that this is not the end of the world. Your first experiences are always tenative and sometimes things just dont work out.

But most of all...you need to be safe. You need to be sure this guy can be trusted...take your time, as Just Believe said...meet him in a public place, take your time, take it slow, be sure.....and always use protection.

I hope it turns out the way you want bzeus69...good luck.

 

[RicanDAB]

Hi bzeus,

Ah, Manhunt ... those were the days .... ... but I digress ...

Hopefully you guys have chatted long enough to be comfortable with each other and your gut tells you that this is a good situation. My initial advice is to meet in a public place first - that way if you have to escape the chance of doing it is easier. My further advice then is to take things in stride, enjoy yourself and keep alert to anything that makes you uncomfortable. Since this is your first time meeting, you'd be surprised what things might pop up that you never realized before (e.g., they lied about something).

Glad you asked about "being clean" .. but do not let that safeguard you into relinquishing condom use if you guys go further than oral. Unless you have both been tested together throughout the course of at least a year, practice monogamy and have personal contact with each other's test results, there is no excuse to start letting go of the safe sex issue.

Good luck man!

P.S. Just_Believe and Tallguy beat me to the punch I see since I stepped away from computer in mid-post .. both are fine advice-givers so listen to them too!

 

[bzeus69]

Thank you all for such great advice and responses!
I don't plan to let it go any further than oral, and he seems comfortable with my wishes.

I have a few more hours of anxiety and thinking to go, and I'll post back with news of this first step I'm taking!

Thanks again !
-bz90

 

[hermanding]

bzeus69 - all that advice is on track. be careful. you really don't know this dude. some talk and in public would be a safer idea. then, consider if you wanna go any further.
ding

 

[tommyj]

So how did it go dewd?

 

[bzeus69]

Howdy again,

Well, he ended up having to work later than expected so it was postponed. Not sure when the next date will be but I'll keep ya posted! Thanks again for all the advice!

 

[RicanDAB]

UGH ... it was like I was almost cumming and I stopped it ... imagine how you must feel LOL

 

[bzeus69]

UGH ... it was like I was almost cumming and I stopped it ... imagine how you must feel LOL

lol!

Well... I'm pretty happy that I didn't end up hooking up with the guy... he seemed a bit weird, and was being evasive when I would ask him questions and would only want to hookup real late at night out by him (30min+ drive) which just seemed unsafe. But, in the process I met another bi-dude like me just looking for buds, and stuff.

We've sent dozens of emails back and forth, and we pretty much just blow each other away with how cool, down to earth, and similar our preferences are with each other, lol... Swapped some pics... talked about fetishes, and what gets each other off, etc..

We don't feel the need to rush things, as we're both comfortable with taking things slowly, and most of all.... "enjoying" it!

So yeah, thank you guys for the great advice, and it seems there were other plans for me in the works, lol!

 

[RicanDAB]

So yeah, thank you guys for the great advice, and it seems there were other plans for me in the works, lol!

Life is funny that way sometimes isn't it? When you're not looking for something is when you find it.

Not going to say "too bad" that the hookup 30 minutes away did not work out, because maybe it is for the best. You sound like you have no time for the head games (and rightly so) ... and I sincerely hope this one is your knight in shining armor

Again, keep up posted ... here goes the orgasmic buildup again

 

[tallguy297]

So yeah, thank you guys for the great advice, and it seems there were other plans for me in the works, lol!

You've gotta wonder sometimes how this whole thing works...

The lesson here mate is not to rush into things, take your time. There will always be someone else and maybe that person will be safer, friendlier more suited...these are special moments for you here mate...dont throw them away too easily.

Good luck with your new find...you seem a whole lot more comfortable with him... thats a great thing!

 

[bzeus69]

ok, so an update:

As mentioned above... I met a super cool guy on manhunt (2 posts up).... (not a fake, a creep, or a stalker type serial killer.... ) shocking.. yeah I know huh? lol =P

Anyways... well I went over to his house, which was literally 10 mins away from me, and super easy to get to.... I was pretty shocked at how close he was.

So I pulled up and was nervous but excited, rang the doorbell and he answered let me in, and we went into his kitchen, and he politely offered me something to drink, grabbed water, etc...

And we ended up chatting at his table for about 2 hrs straight. The guy is super cool, down to earth, and has pretty much the same political views and thoughts on many subjects.

He was the first guy that I finally worked up the courage to meet face to face, and I have to say, I'm thrilled that it was him of all the guys that lurk around that MH site. We didn't hit anything off sexually as I was too nervous.... my heart was racing a mile a minute at some points, primarily when I first saw him and walked in. Hes a hottie as predicted, but on top of that, hes cool, and I feel comfortable around him.

So, although there wasn't any sex involved in my first meeting with this guy, although it was pre-planned to be, I'm sure the next one will be nice and hot, and I'll be sure to fill ya'll in on the juicy story! haha

I feel pretty lucky actually... and thankfully he was comfortable with waiting if needed, which I regret now but meh... things happened this way for a reason so, I'm gonna just go with the flow and trust the path that has been laid in front of me.

 

[RicanDAB]

Hey Bzeus,

Glad to hear all went well with your Manhunt meet. Sounds like a nice guy and when you guys get together again it should be even better now that he's not so anonymous.

I agree Manhunt has a bunch of creeps lurking within, but when you weed through them and find a gem it feels great. I ended up with one friend on there from all the guys I met (we're just friends now, but the sex was HOT .. can't deny that )