First Hookup

[SonOfSlobone]

What would I do? Honey, you don't want to do what I would have done at your age*...

But what should you do, is the question. Go ahead and meet him. What have you got to lose? You're horny, he's interested, let nature take its course.

*(Probably something along the lines of "I'll leave the front door open. I'll be in bed with the lights off. Just get naked and climb on in...)

 

[G-Lexington]

He's doing everything right - suggesting a public meet up first and all. So do it. If you don't feel yourself "clicking" with him, let him know, thank him for his time, and try again.

Lex

 

[Gin&Tonic]

You could always join BiggerCity... Lots of guys there that are interested in your bod. type

 

[Eagle653]

It's hard to add to the great advice above.

I agree that you both seem sensible and are doing everything right, including meeting in a public place beforehand. If you have any reservations at all during the meeting, you can politely call it off. Don't hesitate to do that if your instincts tell you to. Otherwise, I hope it goes great.

Hooking up online is a crap-shoot at best, as you've found out. It is a popular way to do it, though, because it's so efficient, and even quick. Nothing replaces the "old fashioned way" of getting out and meeting people, though. Whether it be through social clubs, mutual friends, bars, cultural events--what have you--you get the chance to meet people on a people-level first, w/o the expectation that the person will be anything other than an acquaintance or friend (and, if it does progress, so much the better).

Good luck! Let us know how it goes!

 

[SonOfSlobone]

Good, that's the right attitude. So now you know that people you meet online aren't necessarily Jeffrey Dahmers and Larry Craigs...

 

[treanir]

So no hookup. Met with the guy and although he was incredibly nice and we talked for a while, there was no attraction. I felt bad, but his stats didn't line up to well I think, and its hard to have sex with someone you aren't very attracted too. All and all the whole thing was worth it. Met a nice guy and learned a bit about myself on the way.

Well done, I say. You handled yourself admirably.

 

[KaraBulut]

So no hookup. Met with the guy and although he was incredibly nice and we talked for a while, there was no attraction. I felt bad, but his stats didn't line up to well I think, and its hard to have sex with someone you aren't very attracted too. All and all the whole thing was worth it. Met a nice guy and learned a bit about myself on the way.

That's a good attitude to have.

Unfortunately, a lot of gay people don't have the opportunity to learn to date until later in their life while their straight peers have started dating in their teens.

Dating is not necessarily about finding the love of your life or finding a warm body to sleep with. Dating is supposed to be about meeting people, socializing and having fun- and when you look at it that way, it's a lot less pressure on everyone, including yourself.

Better luck next time.

 

[MithosYggdrasilCz]

If u ask me what would I do, I would never even meet with someone I dont know from photos. And I hate sex without relationship, I allways have that slutty feeling after that !