First post - would like relationship advice; feeling let down and hurt.

[TX-Beau]

I smell another guy.

 

[TX-Beau]

Hey guys, sorry for the massive bump.

Bit of an update about all of this.

Turns out he actually cheated on me with this new guy. Just to keep things civil, because we wanted to stay friends, I was just talking to his new boyfriend one night and, as my ex never told him, he just asked when we separated. I told him the date, June 16, and he immediately said "that can't be right, me and him got together the first time [ie: had sex] on June 13". Well my ex flat-out denied it to his boyfriend, but within minutes sent me a text saying he never wanted to hear from me again, as if I had deliberately said it to break them up (despite the fact I had no idea when they got together and that it was all news to me). I think I had more right to be pissed off, not only did he deny it to his boyfriend, but he also flat-out lied to me when I actually had the guts to ask him several weeks before that. Then I randomly get an email a few weeks later incriminating him further, he tries to make things "better" by trying to "use" dates to get himself out of trouble. The funny thing is that none of the dates made sense - he said, and I quote, "we met on June 26"; despite the fact he told me, and this topic itself serves as proof, about this guy and everything about him way before that. So basically I've come to the conclusion that this entire time he had just been lying, cheating scum that cares more about the sex then actually spending time with someone. In fact, Im really quite saddened at how much it's changed him to be honest. He's become very rebellious and childish, especially for a 19 year old, and is starting to mix in with the wrong crowd (his new boyfriend is into the drugs and everything, apparently)... I cant, and refuse to, intervene, but I just hope he realises it's not good for him. Just last week it was his birthday, and the day before he sent me a text saying "not to say happy birthday to him at all, if I try and contact him then I'll regret it". I've refused to speak to him at all since I found out he cheated anyway, because that was just betrayal of extreme proportions.

But anywaaay, on the positive side, like many people in this topic suggested, I've been getting out a lot more and have been socialising with my old friends a lot more. In the last six weeks I've been out with friends every weekend and have been really enjoying myself. And of course, I have people here too! There is a guy I've met, and he seems great, we're not together or anything but we're just going to see where things might take us. Basically, in contrast to when I opened this topic, I'm really loving life

Just thought it was time for an update!!

I knew it.

 

[FabFairy]

navinator Thanks for the update and it is really good life is turning around for you now. I'm with Lex stay well away from the ex now he is in the wrong crowd and into drugs that is one little black box you don't ever want to open. If you see him come your way run for the hill or something because as sure as night follows day it will be trouble and bad news and very costly all the time he is around.

 

[crowboy]

This gave me a smile.

Basically, in contrast to when I opened this topic, I'm really loving life

Good for you.

When I started reading this I felt bad for you.

You don't need it now but here is one for the bank when you need it.
heck have two