First Time Alone - We're both shy....

[Therobbyshow]

I definitely wouldn't push into things, especially if this is the first
gay relationship for the both of you. Also, if you really are into him,
you don't want to be too aggressive and scare him off. You met him last
week and had one date...relax a little. Things will happen, just let them
come as they do. Just maybe sit close to each other and see how things
progress. It's also not too old fashioned to ask if you can give him a kiss
either...especially for someone so shy. Atleast then you haven't pushed
anything to fast and you have let him decide if it's the right time. Also,
a kiss can lead to more feelings coming out .
Good luck and have a nice time tonight.

 

[SilverRRCloud]

Sure, you like him. Show him that.

If both of you are just scared, this is leading nowhere.

Grab the initiative and show some guts. If he chickens out, that's his problem.

Dano is right: confident and somewhat aggressive dudes are sexy.

SC

 

[bicause]

Take your time, do what you feel comfortable with.
Start with a kiss, and see where it leads...

 

[BoSoxFanVa]

I like Danno's advice. Aggressive, take charge guys are turn ons. Don't go overboard but make the first move.

 

[M4P]

Its always difficult to make the first move - especially when you're shy. Me thinks he's hoping you'll do something. You've been given some great advice here. Start slow to see how he reacts. Have a great time.

 

[confusedboy23]

Danno is right! Be just a little more confident with yourself and I'm pretty sure it will go a long way! Don't be afraid to be honest about what you feel because opportunities can just slip away..................

 

[Riverrick]

So start with the touching stuff - rub his forearm while you're talking, put your arm around his neck and play with his hair some. Break down the touch boundaries and establish this is ok with him. This will give you confidence.

The next thing I would do is kiss him. Maybe a short one to see how he reacts. And if all goes well, move in for a passionate one.

Once you've done that, you're already having sex. Just keeps the hands and lips in motion.

Alright! Now I'm getting jealous. Sigh!

 

[Alberto_15]

How cute!

From what you say there is chemistry between you too, I'm sure it will be ok. Let us know how it went!!!

 

[dexyboi86]

A bit of alcohol could help..

I would not so much recommend this...it would help to loosen up, but there might be a tndency to drink too much and you will lose the joy and pleasure of a fully coherent moment.

 

[Alive and Free]

Take it slow and let it come naturally !

 

[DarkNeko]

Take it slowly, but don't let him get away lol

 

[luvthissite]

Don't be too aggressive, you don't want to scare him away.

Just take it somewhat slow if you can. It is best if you can become good friends before you become good sex mates.

Just be sure to give him some compliments (not too heavy) and let him know when you part for the evening, "Tom, I had a really good time with you tonight". "I can't wait until we go out again"
"Tom, you are a really good kisser". As long as Tom knows you are into him, everything will work out great.

have fun.

 

[operafan]

It's also not too old fashioned to ask if you can give him a kiss
either...especially for someone so shy.

I like this answer. Be sure to lean into him and have your lips just barely from his when you ask. It's sweet, it's direct, and, if he panics, you can still back out.

By all means, tell us how it went.

 

[bedbugy]

maybe watch a mild porn movie with a bottle of wine/beer