First time bottoming was a disaster - help!

[momoda6]

Hi, so I'm panicking slightly and I don't really know who to talk to about this, so any help would be appreciated. (Long post ahead, sorry guys.)

I'm pretty inexperienced when it comes to sex, I've only really done oral stuff so far, but I went to a gay sauna last night hoping to have a bit of fun. (Side story - I fucked someone for the first time, and he kept bending my dick when he rode me and now I have a big purple bruise on the side of it. Bad night overall.) Eventually I went into a room with this big black guy. He really wanted to fuck me, and I stupidly said we could try it, even though I've barely had more than a few fingers up there. So he laid me back and pulled my legs up and started lubing me up, but he didn't even try and prep me or anything, he just started pushing in with his dick (he put a condom on so at least I don't have that to worry about). I kept telling him to stop and that it hurt but he kept going, and he had all his weight on top of me so I couldn't really move. Whenever I asked him to stop he was just like 'relax, I'm in' and kept making me sniff poppers (which were gross). He finished pretty quickly luckily, and I was pretty thankful that he was stopping. I felt fine after that, as the only pain had really been when he moved. His dick was really big though, and I don't think my hole could close up straight away.

Anyway, this isn't really the forum for these kinds of stories, but obviously this is where the medical part comes in.

This happened in early evening. I showered and felt fine, if a little bit weird, but a few hours later I felt around back there and came away with a little bit of blood. I went into the toilet and wiped and there was a couple of streaks on the paper. I was instantly worried that I was going to die, but there wasn't any more blood there so I tried to forget about it. (I don't know if this is related, and it might just be from worrying about it, but during the night I ended up feeling really hot and ended up throwing up, so that just made me more convinced I was going to die.)

Today there hasn't been any more blood, but at the same time I still haven't been to the toilet because I'm terrified of what will come out. Plus it feels really tender down there and I don't want to try and push. It's now evening again, 24 hours later, and I looked in a mirror and noticed what looks like a purple vein on my anus. Am I right in thinking it's a hemorrhoid?

I'm really scared basically. I did a bit of googling about hemorrhoids and I know they're not life threatening and you can get creams and things (I used some sudocrem earlier, don't know how helpful that was), but I'm pretty sure I am, or at least was yesterday, bleeding internally, and I don't know how serious it is or how worried I should be. Is this something that usually just heals up itself, or should I be going to see someone about it? Is there anything I should be doing to help? Will going to the toilet complicate things (or rather reveal what the real situation is)? Or worse, if poop gets in the cuts, am I going to get an infection?

Not knowing what's going on is possibly the worse thing about this, because I'm a worrier and I'll expect everything to be a hundred times worse than it is, so any advice or knowledge you can give me is much appreciated. And thanks if you read all of my rant.

 

[Aymotin]

The blood doesn´t have to be from internal bleeding, it could also be small ruptures on the outside. Even if it comes from the inside, it doesn´t have to be anything serious. The body is very good in taking care of itself.

In conclusion: If someone rammed a big hard thing inside an opening that isn´t used to such treatment, some swelling, pain or even a bit of blood isn´t that unexpected. The vomiting and hot sensation could also be side effect from those poppers.

In a nutshell: Don´t let people stick big things into your ass when you are uncomfortable with it, and don´t inhale things that people hold under your nose.


If there is internal bleeding, your feces will appear very dark and blood will be visible. If the swelling doesn´t go back in 1-2 days, if the nausea/vomiting/hotness comes back etc go see a Doc.

 

[momoda6]

Thanks for the reply!

That's good. I sort of knew that but it's comforting to hear it from someone else. I didn't even consider that the poppers could have had an effect on me either, so that's good to know as well. Better than when my brain was thinking things like 'oh no what if I've lost so much blood that I'm going to pass out and die', haha. *overworrier*

And yeah, lesson learned, definitely. If I ever bottom again it's gonna be with someone I trust. And I'm definitely never letting anyone give me poppers either.

 

[jensu846]

he may have teared you alittle and thats why there is a little blood. anal fissures is what they are called i think. It has happened to me when the guy is big or too rough. I think you being hot and puking was from a serious case of nerves. nothing more. try to relax, its not all that uncommon for a little blood. i freaked out the first time i saw blood too. you'll be ok.

 

[looseliam]

I'm sorry your first time was so unpleasant, to put it lightly. Should you ever find yourself in a similar situation and he won't get off and is bigger than you, go for the eyes - dig in as hard as you can. I do hope, though, it never comes to that again.

 

[Bladerunner1811]

Hmm lets examine something here::

1)I kept telling him to stop and that it hurt but he kept going,

( ok he forced himself inside you even when you wanted him to stop thats not good,he's probably done that to a lot of guys)

2)and he had all his weight on top of me so I couldn't really move.

(again making sure you can't move so he can nail you even though your wanting him to stop,again prbably has done that to a lot of guys before)


3)Whenever I asked him to stop he was just like 'relax, I'm in' and kept making me sniff poppers (which were gross).


Hmm ignoring your please to stop and forcing you to sniff something that would get you kinda high.

I'm just going to comeout and say it baiscally the man raped you!And you are probably not the first guy he has done that too.

 

[Aymotin]

I'm just going to comeout and say it baiscally the man raped you!And you are probably not the first guy he has done that too.

Thanks Sherlock, now get yourself a cookie for coming to this conclusion.

Should you ever find yourself in a similar situation and he won't get off and is bigger than you, go for the eyes - dig in as hard as you can.

Nope, don´t do that.
1. You might do irreversible damage (legal aspect)
2. He just has to pull back his head to be out of reach, than you can be easily overpowered by a heavier man...or get your face smashed in.
3. His arms would be under your arms, simply throwing them up will break your grip.

In the described situation, reach down, grab his balls. Squeeze hard and pull. Unless someone is on realy bad drugs, he will do whatever you say and can´t free himself (if he tries to grab your holding arm, just squeeze harder, you will have his attention immediately).

 

[AlmondMilk]

To make going to the bathroom easier, make sure for the next couple of days you have a high fiber diet (plenty of fruits, veggies, multigrain breads) and water to make your stools softer. I'm really sorry your experience wasn't as you'd hope for

 

[KaraBulut]

Just a reminder that Health & Well-being is part of the No-Flame Zone.

 

[BNW1985]

I'm pretty sure I got a hemorrhoid from trying to take a big dick without any real kind of lube, but you probably won't know for a little while. If it doesn't hurt too much, try to relax yourself in the shower or something and just kind of feel around for a bump with the tip of your finger. I have no medical expertise whatsoever, but I remember that's how I "discovered" mine (after realizing how itchy I was down there). If it is a hemorrhoid you can see your doctor about it, and if not, I'd wait a little while and see if the situation improves. Obviously if you keep bleeding or there is a serious complication though, see your doctor!