for people who are in love...i have a question

[tea123456]

for the people who are in love, like LOVE LOVE, the deeper the better for answering my question.

so, question for people who are in love, if your lover was a female, do you think you would have loved him anyway(not taking the sex/cock into account)

this question just popped up in my mind

 

[cbtfan]

No.

Because 'he' wouldn't have a cock.

 

[M4P]

The answer is no and the reason its no is because I'm gay. I'm not capable of falling in love with a woman

 

[tea123456]

but what if you dont take the sex or body into account
just their personality and the emotional attraction and everything

 

[Smitho]

No, and it is an interesting question about the no physical emotional connection, but in reality if he was a she, I just would not have looked at her in the same way, or had any consideration of the posibility, as I am only looking at blokes for a relationship.

Would we be friends if he was a she, yes I think probably.

 

[redhenry]

No becasue I fell in love with the man - not the cock (Although that is hot too).

Being a gay man means that I am attracted to men for all sorts of reasons. I can love my female friends but it's not the same.

 

[G-Lexington]

That's a damned weird question.

I'd say no. Not because I hate/fear women, but because I'm gay. And as such, I search for men to be my partners. Had I met my b/f as a woman, I'd probably have become very good friends with her, but I'm pretty sure I wouldn't have fallen in love with her.

Lex

 

[megustamyn]

I’ve been in love with women and I’ve been in love with men. In some ways relationships between women and men are easier because there are socially defined and approved roles. My experience has been that with men there is more negotiating involved, whether conscious or not.

However, I found that there was always something missing in relationships with women. I don’t think it’s about sex organs. I’ve been in relationships with men who are bottoms exclusively, tops exclusively and versatile. Sexual mechanics are only part of the relationship. The emotional bonding is different with a man than it is with a woman. When I’m with a man I feel complete. When I’m with a woman I feel something lacking. It’s been rather sad because I’ve had a couple of wonderful women in my life with whom I would have wanted to spend the rest of my life but it was not possible. It’s not about having or not having cock. I went through an 8-year period without a relationship or sex and it was less painful than being in a loving relationship where I did not feel fulfilled.

I’ve been with my husband for nearly 10 years and I expect this to be for the rest of my life but if turned out not to be I’d be looking for another man.

 

[phoenix72]

No i dont see that happening. Ive been with a few women and their was no spark, no interest, no chemistry or anything happening at all. I knew before that i was gay and that pretty much sealed the deal for me.

 

[Pringle]

I think this is a fantastic question -

Although I am 100% gay I am very much in love with a women. We are so perfectly matched it is unreal but the fact that for a relationship she would wont something I couldn't give her and I have this burning desire to suck cock means we would never be anything other than just very close friends.

Its a shame really cause matches like that don't happen very often - but I think I am answering your question when I say true love runs deeper than sex - at least I hope it does - but in reality you need some sexual chemistry to make an actual relationship work IMO.

 

[trawler69]

Hmm interesting question. I think if my B/F or past B/F had been female we would not have had the attraction of minds that leads to love. But oddly I have female friend, who was once, and may be still is, into me and I love her dearly and we get on great together but I could never do the sexual relationship with her. I know it sounds contradictory but that is the way it is. I identify myself as Gay because I don't feel I could never feel both emotionally and physically in love with a woman. With me emotion is primary and physical is secondary but there is an overlap and women hold nothing physical for me. Dunno if that makes sense but I tried.

 

[thephoenix]

This is an interesting question. I'm in love and would say my love goes beyond sex. Don't get me wrong, sex is a very important part of intimacy. At first i loved my guy because he was beautiful and manly on the outside. I could say: "hey this is why I love this guy" now I've seen his heart and soul and couldn't begin to tell you why I love him or fell in love with him. Sex deepens our connection and if he were a woman, I'd still love him with all of my heart, I just wouldn't be sexually attracted to him (this is assuming I'm still a gay man). We'd lose that sexual intimacy.

 

[SilverRRCloud]

Nope. It is the male psyche that I find irresistable. The female view of the world does not do much for me.

SC

 

[Ninja108]

no, I'm gay and while I can be friends with women, I could just never go to feelings beyond that

 

[squiggle]

I see what you're trying to get out but there is more at play. I think I have the same hormones as a straight women. They seek out men!

 

[Boogerqueesha]

Maybe a better way to put it would be, if the guy you were in love with got MAGICALLY AND TRAGICALLY TURNED INTO A WOMAN!!!... would you still love him... her... it... err...

I'd say, yes. But I might have some psychological issues, haha.

 

[shygay19]

I would have given my life just to be able to meet him a few times a week and smile to him and be smiled at. But he says he is not gay.

 

[mabby7]

Maybe a better way to put it would be, if the guy you were in love with got MAGICALLY AND TRAGICALLY TURNED INTO A WOMAN!!!... would you still love him... her... it... err...

I'd say, yes. But I might have some psychological issues, haha.

Hehe. I was thinking that too, but this is a good question. I would say that I would like him/her, but like what others said, I may not be sexually attracted to her.