Friend Told Me He Is Bisexual

[Apollo]

So last night after a fun night of drinking etc. Me and my friend went back to my room and we got in a deep conversation about everything. So eventually he tells me he thinks he is bisexual.

Now a little back story. I have given him a few blow jobs and been somewhat intimate with him. I know for JUB, giving a guy a blowjob makes him at least bisexual, but that is not really my belief. He has always been more about women, and has told me in the past that he really cant see the attraction I feel towards men. Just like the majority of us can't understand the attraction a lot of men feel towards females.

But yesterday, we chilled with a good friend of mines who happens to be a very attractive man. He he said he thought he was attractive. Like he imagined holding hands with him and all that jazz. Now for one, that made me sad because he is everything I imagine I want in a guy. He is my perfect guy. But I put on my best smile and listened and gave him advice.

What should I tell him or how should I help him? My friend isn't gay, and he isn't trying to persue so yeah. But...I feel I know how I should continue on. But I could always use the advice of guys more experienced with this than me.

 

[Eagle653]

You have a complicated situation, made more so by the admission by your friend that he thinks he's bisexual. If he were confirmed straight, then at least you'd know that, great guy that he is, he's off-limits for you or any guy. Now, that's not so clear nor certain.

It could be that he admitted his bi feelings in order to gauge your reaction and perhaps open the door a bit for you to pursue him. Or, maybe he just mentioned it as an intimate feelings he has to someone like you whom he trusts.

Right now, you're a bit in limbo about what this all means and what the possibilities might be. You two seem to have a relationship in which you can talk intimately with each other about what you're thinking. Find a way to bring it all back up again and tell him that you like him...a lot...in THAT way. But, don't do it in a way that's intimidating or embarrassing for him, especially if he doesn't have the same romantic feelings for you (if you do, he could feel awkward and cool your friendship thinking you have the hots for him and he doesn't for you).

Tread carefully, and test the waters. The worse thing you can do is wait and wonder and be in limbo. He's opened the door. Maybe he expects you to come in, and if you don't, he may (incorrectly) assume you're the one who's not interested. This case needs resolution one way or another. Good luck, and let us know what you do and what happens.

 

[Apollo]

I think I might. Although, I am sure he doesn't like me that way, but you did infer something about our relationship that is very true and we actually did talk about last night. Sooooo, who knows...

 

[KaraBulut]

What should I tell him or how should I help him? My friend isn't gay, and he isn't trying to persue so yeah. But...I feel I know how I should continue on. But I could always use the advice of guys more experienced with this than me.

There's nothing to be fixed. Don't tell him anything. Sometimes guys just need someone to talk to.

Just listen.

 

[lambdaboy]

First off I agree that getting a blow job from a guy does not mean you are bi or gay. I worked with a guy I was 23 engaged to be married a real closet case. He was str8 had a hot GF who whatever her religion was would do nothing other than kiss with him. I got married and when my wife was in the hospital a total of 4 days he went with me to see her and the baby then crashed at my house. We only had one bedroom with a bed the other had a crib the couch had those tacky plastic covers so he slept with me. We talked and I said the last few months had been rough no sex he said oh like me. He knew I knew he was a virgin no one else knew. As we talked I said maybe we can help each other out. He said sounds good how. I said In a joking way Id give you your first blow job first you let me fuck your hot ass ( he worked out and all of him was hot). He picked up the pillow and we started a pillow fight. As we wrestled I got on top of him and both of us were hard. I said feels like you like the idea. He laughed said I like part one not part two. I said Ill do a good part one then you let me try part two if it hurts too much I will stop. We had showered but even if we had not I would have continued I said flip out the light and just think of any hot girl I started on his nipples and worked my way down with my finger in his hole I sucked him off. He said If I let you fuck me will you suck me again I said yes he fliupped over I got KY from my wife s night table and took my time once in all the way he said do it slow he started moving his hips and said that most of the time when h jacked off he just grinded his cock in the bed As I came I pulled out shot on his back and cleaned him off with a towel. He said wow that was fast you really did need it I sucked him off again and about 8 times over the next two years till he got married he would come over if my wife was away. When I left my wife I told him I was gay he was shocked. He is married with 3 kids and that's that

 

[2untru]

Straight Guy + Gay Sex (oral/anal) = Bi
Bisexuality is a journey just like homosexuality. He will discover himself in stages and it might start with curiousity, boredom, or horniness. I will never understand how someone can honestly say they are straight as he's pumping his cum down another guys throat (slight rant).

I think your friend is figuring out who he is and is taking it step by step at a pace that works for him. If he is attracted to you, he could be dealing with the idea of him admitting to himself that he's attracted to guys, which is not always easy.

I personally would recommend avoiding a Boy Crush on him or holding out for a relationship. Bi boys can be dangerous when they're in that in-between phase of bi-curious. They have sex appeal, acceptance, and innocence all wrapped into one throbbing hard package. From reading these threads it actually seems like the bi-curious friend gets jealous when they see you entering a relationship with another person...hmmmmm, food for thought.

 

[Apollo]

Straight Guy + Gay Sex (oral/anal) = Bi
Bisexuality is a journey just like homosexuality. He will discover himself in stages and it might start with curiousity, boredom, or horniness. I will never understand how someone can honestly say they are straight as he's pumping his cum down another guys throat (slight rant).

I think your friend is figuring out who he is and is taking it step by step at a pace that works for him. If he is attracted to you, he could be dealing with the idea of him admitting to himself that he's attracted to guys, which is not always easy.

I personally would recommend avoiding a boy crush on him or holding out for a relationship. Bi boys can be dangerous when they're in that in-between phase of bi-curious. They have sex appeal, acceptance, and innocence all wrapped into one throbbing hard package. From reading these threads it actually seems like the bi-curious friend gets jealous when they see you entering a relationship with another person...hmmmmm, food for thought.

Well he is definitely entering his journey, and I am avoiding a crush on him as hard as I can. Honestly, what helps avoid the crush is that we are fooling around. There is no longing or wishing for it, cause I get it from time to time. Not frequently, but it happens.

Really, I am just sitting back and allowing him to discover it for himself. If he has questions, or anything, I know he will ask. And he knows I am always here for him.