Friends and religion

[hotb0d]

well maybe you should tell him to get his nose out of other people's bedrooms.

 

[subobj]

Ouch, this has to hurt. Sorry to hear it.

I think I would find it very hard, if not self-destructive, to maintain a long term friendship with someone like this. I can't imagine it not somehow whittling away at your sense of self-worth.

But you may be stronger than I am in this regard, and your dedication to the friendship itself is certainly admirable.

I guess my only advice would be: don't put yourself back in the closet when you're around him. I'm not saying to artificially foreground the fact that you're gay -- just be your normal, queer self, don't apologize for it, and see if he adjusts. If he can't handle it, I'd venture that he's not mature enough to be friends with you at this point in his life.

 

[DafyddGeraint]

He tells me gay sex is beautiful and he wants me to love somebody and that I can do whatever I want with a guy and he will be happy for me but his religion believes that it's wrong and he is not going to question it. He even says he wishes it wasn't like that. Arrgh he's such a ****.

This pretty much comfirms what I posted earlier, its the difficultly of reconciling his 'faith' with his friendship. He can't question his faith, because if he does he realises that there are flaws which will bring it crashing down around him, it's easier to accept a contradiction and a hypocracy. He wants you to be happy, he wants you to be Gay, He wants you to have lots of beautiful Gay sex and enjoy it. But just remember that the good Lord won't like it. Why does he believe that God won't like it? Because thats what he's been told.

I hope you can talk some sense into him and that he realises that you and he can coexist

 

[Maaaatt]

UPDATE:

He called me today and told me that he was having personal issues. I listenend to his problem and tried my best to boost his spirits. I realised that I can't be mad at him anymore. It hurts me to see him hurt (even though the personal issue at hand makes me kind of happy. Hey, I'm not perfect) and I don't want to let such a childish argument get in the way of our friendship nor do I want to add to his woes.

He brought up our issue and he explained it using the right words this time and I forgive him. Why did I even worry? I can never be angry at him for long. He's too much of a c***t.

I want to thank everyone who replied. Regardless of how you responded (telling me to get over it, stop being friends with him, agree to disagree to keep the friendship etc), it all really helped me form my opinion.

 

[G-Lexington]

>>>I can never be angry at him for long. He's too much of a c***t.

A...count? Cleat? Court? What?

Lex

 

[Georgiadude]

I'm glad you decided to make nice and move on. It sounds like you have a good friend that cares about you. People have been fighting over religion and beliefs since time began and probably will until the world ends. You said he is a good friend and a great guy. He's accepting of you being gay and wants you to be happy. He turned to you when he needed support about something important. Obviously he trusts you and feels that your a good friend. I'd move on with the friendship and leave the religion topic alone. As long as he isn't preaching or condemning you I'd be happy to have a friend I could trust.

Steven.

 

[Lube]

Still sounds like a closet case to me. Don't be surprised if comes out to you in the next couple years.