From gay to bi ¿?

[Suteki]

Hi guys, I'm new here. I'm 20 years old, and It's been almost half a year since I suddenly stopped being gay. I don't know how that happened, but some day I woke up and noticed it. It was extremely scary, but now I guess I'm OK with it. Then what's my problem? Well, I don't think it was that easy. I like girls now, I feel attracted by them, but porn containing girls does nothing for me.

I don't feel grossed as before, but I'm not confortable with straight porn. Then I still must be gay, right? I don't know if that's the case. My attraction for guys really went down, I don't feel as attracted to boys as before. Gay porn works, but it feels weird... I don't know. Even if I'm a virgin (lol, 20 years old virgin), I used to "be" bottom, I loved the idea of getting f_cked by a man. Now I don't feel like that...

In short, I don't even know what I "like". What's your opinion? Do you think I became bi? Do you think I'm still gay? Will I ever be back to normal? I used to hate my homosexuality, I wished I could feel attracted to girls, and now I'm not liking it...

Thanks in advance. Please, help @_@

 

[8591paul]

Looking at your age I would say you are still in the "experimental stage"..I would say just enjoy what you do, be it with a man or woman, and dont worry about labeling yourself..there are plenty of people out in the world who will do that for you!

 

[Suteki]

Thanks for the advice, guys. Yeah, it sounds like that's what's happening to me. I just find it odd that it never happened during the first 20 years of my life, so I creeped out when it happened. Also, I don't like the idea of not being attracted to boys or girls as much as I was to boys before, it's impossible for me to consider someome "really" hot, lol. So, what would you do? Should I date guys or girls first? I know it's a stupid question, but I'm afraid I may not like boys or girls enough to date someone @_@

 

[Tizinsane]

I'm a 19 year old virgin...its no big deal.

Don't ever worry about labels. Get them out of your head. Teenage years and 20s are meant for experimenting. Have fun!

 

[swarley]

First off, who cares if you're a virgin and second why not just try being with both a girl and a guy? in other words, experiment. If you like one and not the other then you have your answer and if you like both then that's no big deal. Just remember you don't have to choose between one or the other if you like both. You'll know your answer as soon as you experiment a little and there is no correct answer. It isn't like a sex exam where the choice is a.) men or b.) women. there is the option of c.) both a and b. Also this isn't a timed test so take your time in figuring out the answer.

 

[Tizinsane]

Awesome way of explaining things, Swarley.

 

[DidntMeanToTurnYouOn]

There is no need to put yourself in a box. Go out there and just meet people. You don't have to start labelling yourself. Just go with the flow and you will eventually know.

 

[Maccabee]

Hmmm, this sounds a lot like my story. First I thought I was gay, but now half a year later after coming out as bi to my friends, I get more interested in girls and less in boys... Very strange...
It is really confusing for me too. Like you say, first I hated having feelings for boys, then I accepted it and now I don't want to have feelings for girls anymore. But now they are getting stronger every day...

 

[Suteki]

What else is going on in your life?
Are you working? In college?

I'm in college right now. I don't know if this is relevant, but I was under a big depression when the "switch" happened, just after I told someone about my orientation for the first time ever. It was my first depression ever, and I hope it's the last one.

Like you say, first I hated having feelings for boys, then I accepted it and now I don't want to have feelings for girls anymore. But now they are getting stronger every day...

That's exactly what happened to me. I finally got over it after 20 freaking years, and now it's gone. Sucks if you ask me >_<

Thanks for the advice, guys, I just have to stop thinking about myself as gay/bi/straight/whatever, I'll just go with the flow.

EDIT: I went to a Japanese expo today (I love Japan), so I was interested to see whether I'd pay more attention to the male cosplayers or the female cosplayer. Except for, like, one girl, I didn't feel attracted at all... I liked the guys just a little bit more, but far from what would have been happened 1 year ago. I'm kinda asexual, lol.