Frustrated, need advice. (rant)

[Cyanlaser]

I have a friend who I met on a random forum. Anyways, we've talked over the past 4-5 months quite a bit, and became pretty good e-pals, or whatever the "cool" name for those are. lol.

We've talked a lot though, about everything from weather to the mythical Greek gods to Dolly Parton (I like her, so what?) and he's usually a big part of the convo.

Tonight I log into yahoo just to see what's up before bed, and he messages me, and starts gushing about how happy he was to see me online. I was really excited, because I have a crush on the guy. He tells me how big a crush he has on me, and starts talking about how he wishes I was there.

He told me he's "Bi but mostly guy" cute eh? no? Oh well...i didn't think so either. anywho

I've barely done anything online, and the thought of possibly doing something with the guy got me really excited. I started thinking...oh, maybe we'll have a little cyber fun tonight. So we sort of started off, and now, he's replying like...3 minutes after I send a message, and just seems to be kind of "out of it". But he keeps telling me how excited he is that we're "Finally doing this" etc.

I don't get it. I just don't get it. I keep sending messages etc, and he'll just reply with a generic "hot" or "I want you" or "I need you so bad right now" etc. It's killing the romantic mood I was in just minutes ago :/ It just doesn't seem like the normal him. He swears he's "great" but I don't know...

I'd question his creativity and way with words, but he happens to be an actor & singer, and has written some great stories and things, so that's obviously not the case. Is he drunk?

Idk...I guess, since I'm new to pretty much everything, what should I do? Log out and go to bed? Keep trying to get him interested? He is very sincere and passionate, and has made it clear that he has a crush on me, but I just don't know. I don't think we're either looking for an online relationship, but more of just a "online fling" or something.

What would you do? Just want advice. Sorry for the rant. Thanks guys, yall are definitely a good remedy to a romantic evening gone wrong :/ And I don't necessarily mean about tonight, but in general. If you need more details, I've got em. Thanks again guys

 

[chrmd1]

I think u said it urself... log out and go to bed. Leave him wanting more and hopefully he will miss u. Maybe stop messaging him until he messages u... IMHO

 

[QuinnRider]

Dolly Parton is awesome!

Hmm, my ex did that. Really frusterated me, and actually hurt my feelings. I just stopped doing it and told him I had to go, and then the next time he didn't do it. Maybe he is busy with something he cant help with, but really wants to still do that? Maybe you should ask him if another time would be better? Sorry I dont have better advice, haha :/

 

[evanrick]

are you sure its a guy?

 

[soiram]

Would I be stating the obvious if I said that it is a bit...uhm...weird to expect romance and sex flow through messaging each other? Can you not meet this person face to face and then see if you still like each other and then get your rocks off?

And if that is not an option for whatever reason, then you might consider having a cam session...To me, messaging is the least sexual thing one could do. In any case, investing that much on an e-pal, without having met him is not the wisest thing to do....I should know, I have done it!

 

[rareboy]

It is a tale of everything that is wrong with the neurotic and narcissistic misuse of the etherworld to find emotional and not just sexual satisfaction.

Get a better hobby.

Turn off the machine.

Leave your parents' basement.

Go out and meet real people.

 

[Hot White Trash]

Sounds to me like he is just as new to everything as you are. The other thing is maybe when he said he had a crush he was not talking about jumping into "cyber."

I say next time let him lead the way so you know what he wants and is into.