gay bars

[collegemo]

I'm sure there is a post on this that I was unable to find.

What are everyone's thoughts on gay bars?
Do you think they are a nice haven, and hang out where you can be comfortable?
Or do you think they are a feeding ground for hooking up?
Or some combination of both?

I haven't been to a lot of gay bars, and just curious as to what peole's opinions are. I know not all bars are the same, but generally I find them to be similar. Even gay bars and other bars... have a lot of similarities.

 

[winterknight]

As far as I'm concerned, all bars, gay or straight, are exactly the same.

They're places where I go, and sit in a corner, and assiduously not talk to anyone the entire time I'm in there.

That's never my intention when I go in, but it always ends up that way

So it shouldn't be a surprise that I don't go that often.

 

[ahotjock71]

Generally I would say both. But then again it depends on what TYPE of gay bar you go to.

 

[reachingout]

I was afraid to go into my first gay bar. A friend took me in and I have been at home since. I have fun and feel safe with the tribe.

 

[Dave_83]

HUUUGE difference between straight and 'gay' orientated bars. I don't need to point out what the differences are either. lol. At least for me there is a difference. It's the difference between getting hit on by guys are girls. and guys don't stare at my cock when i take a piss in straight bars. lol. Either way, they are both a lot of fun. I have only been to a few gay bars though. and only a couple times at that. i still need to get out more into the community. there really isnt much of a gay community here in Kingston. i need to get to Toronto more often, and Montreal.

 

[belamy]

I have too much of a stuck-up side to like bars, so I couldn´t care less about "gay" bars.
Besides, I fear rejection... I mean mine of the others, you know I only have paid sex

 

[belamy]

You should try it more often. (...)People go to bars to be unprofessional and relieve their stress. Even if you don't pick up any guy or don't dance, just the surrounding would take you to an alternate reality for a short time.

I have a rich inside world of my own, thanks
Besides, I feel extremely uncomfortable if I have to relax in public all on my own, I hate anyone watching my intimity, whether it be pissing or thinking or just relaxing, that´s why I always ask my mother to go with me to the beach... that also prevents undesirable approaches I don´t know if that means I will always have go to Tarragona to get my summer tan every year
And maybe that´s why many acquaintances (neighbours, colleagues and the like) think I am a prudish repressed gay mummy boy


Hm, four emos on a single post, not bad.

 

[Orlandude]

It depends on the gay bar. If it's a club, I enjoy it more, usually go with friends, feel safe and in an environment where I can be myself. I find too many of the smaller bars very "clicky", attitude-laden and/or nothing more than meat markets. Or havens for the local alcoholics who are sitting on the same bar stool, night after night, trashing everybody that walks through the door. That's not my idea of fun. I don't go to gay bars to cruise. I go there to have fun and socialize with friends. Many are there mainly to pick up someone. If I happen to meet someone new, we do the tribal ritual of exchanging phone numbers. If there is further communication, we get together. If not, it goes in the drawer with the rest of the phone numbers that periodically make their way to the trash can. What I really hate is when you talk to someone in the bar for half the evening, you exchange phone numbers and call them the next day...only to hear "WHO????". Obviously, they wasted half your evening because they had nobody else to talk with or they were waiting for someone else to show up.

Maybe I am outgrowing the bars. Too many mindless head games and attitude. The straight ones are no better really. A bar is a bar. In my area, there is a leaning more towards private parties which are a LOT more fun and you get to met a nicer crowd of people, especially the ones who, for whatever reasons, don't go to the bars at all. I have found that as many people you do see in the bars, that's how many more don't go at all. Meeting them at a private party where you can actually talk without screaming over the music...is a lot more fun.

 

[belamy]

In my area, there is a leaning more towards private parties which are a LOT more fun and you get to met a nicer crowd of people, especially the ones who, for whatever reasons, don't go to the bars at all.

I think that´s the idea behind any social meeting place. And I don´t think that being open to new people means the same as open to just anyone.

 

[MadeUpName27]

It all depends on the bar.
And it all depends on you.

Find a place that suits your personal style and taste.
You'll meet other people with similar tastes.

Good Luck!!!

 

[SilverRRCloud]

I love the idea of having a few gay bars around. I do not go often, but the idea that I CAN go and hang out there, anytime I choose to is worth something, too.

IMHE, there are two types of gay bars:

a) mostly social venues, where you basically go to meet up with the guys you know anyway, and possibly meet someone new, who has been tagging along with your ole guys.

b) serious meat markets, with some backroom space not for Mr. Right but so much more for Mr. Right Now.

Since virtually everyone has got one (or rather several) of the nifty cell phones these days, it does not take much of an effort to hook up with other guys, you know just anywhere. So, we do...

And yeah, ever so often, I love crusing the good ole' meat market.

SC

 

[_AJ_]

Who's that Happyboy? Stuart Townsend?

LOL

i think he means ricky martin

he been acting like a singer for years

 

[cocktales]

WE don't go to 'em!

I'm sure there's a reason for those of you who do NOT have a Partner, and need companionship; but for us, or maybe someone who already has the man of their life..........why go?

I guess entertainment is an answer or perhaps this couple's partnership is NOT going well and they are looking for a 3rd to spice their love-life up or something???

Any case, we find entertainment/cocktails else-where and find that we do NOT miss the gay bar scene at all.....

NOTE: We are NOT bashing the Gay bar scene altogether......We both realize that gays have to meet people some where and perhaps bars are better than bathrooms or even sleazy places that are scary places, etc!

 

[cocktales]

^^^^: EP, please do NOT be offended with my comments for "you" going to the Gay bars, K?

I know it's a place where we can be ourselves, to hold hands, to kiss and touch without someone yelling the "F" word: FAGGOT!!!

I love Palm Springs for this very reason, for you do NOT have to worry about the Reverend Phelps types to start picketing your house for gay love!!

So, yes, by all means, go there and be yourselves.........until someone throws/spills beer all over ya or tries to take over your boyfriend!

 

[slobone]

guys don't stare at my cock when i take a piss in straight bars. lol.

You haven't been in some of the straight bars I've been in! Not to mention sports stadiums, lockerrooms, etc.

I think it's important to point out that there are all different kinds of gay bars -- leather bars, clubs for dancing, neighborhood bars, etc. Each fulfills a different purpose.

I once spent a very frustrating evening trying to cruise at a bar that I later found out was strictly a "hey I'll meet you at XXX for a drink and then we'll go to dinner/movies/my place" bar.

The one thing they all have in common is that if you don't drink -- which I don't anymore -- you're not going to have a very good time.

 

[twardmo]

I love going to the bar as long as i have someone to go with, but going alone kind of sucks cuz i'm not too outgoing. but generally i have a lot of fun at gay bars, and bars in general.

 

[Green_Man_007]

I'm sure there is a post on this that I was unable to find.

What are everyone's thoughts on gay bars?
Do you think they are a nice haven, and hang out where you can be comfortable?
Or do you think they are a feeding ground for hooking up?
Or some combination of both?

Combination of both, though more the fun "haven" to see friends

Usually, if I meet someone new, that's cool. If not, that's cool, too. Whatever's meant to happen is meant to happen.

Plus, the music's the best one can hear without having to pay a high cover charge and deal with pretentious str8 metrosexuals and their self-involved hoochies.

 

[belamy]

Yep....That is me....And yeah, I get Jude Law all the time too....

Sorry, back to topic..........

Jude Law? In some pic you may be related to a young Rupert Graves or even a short Rupert Everett if you have cataracts or simply HoodedRat´s sight (mine in about ten years too) but... Jude Law?! What may someone as real as you have in common with that pretty toff?

 

[BrandonSBCA]

Gay bars are too cliquish just like JUB.
People stick with their circle of friends.
Usually the handsome popular guys get hit on the most.

And thats all just a bear bar. I'd hate to go to a bar with twinks, I'd be invisible as fuck at those kind of bars. I don't care for bars anymore.

 

[unclaimedblessing]

The bar I worked in was considered a neighborhood bar which happened to be gay. It really was like a gay "Cheers".
The majority of people came there to see friends and have a good time. Sure there were some cruising sharks and career drunks, but they're pretty easy to identify and avoid.