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Gay / Bi and out in the Oil Industry???

Kitesurfboi

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Do any of you work in the oil industry and are openly gay / bi?
Its what scares me most about accepting my sexuality, I dont think the industry would be very accepting and I could see it causing my many big issues, particularly when it comes to offshore time. The problem is its such a small industry, community-wise and its very easy to burn bridges that you can regret in a few years time. Also virtually everyone where I live is involved in the industry so its kinda of a all or nothing situation? I mean I'm not ready to come out yet, I've only just begun to explore this, I'm just worried about further down the line.

Hopefully you guys can reassure me that there are plenty out field engineers.
 
marleyisalegend said:
I imagine there are, and I'm terribly jealous. I'd love being around all those greasy, sweaty, manly men all day.
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I hate comments like this. These are what makes people stereotype gays.

Unless you know for a fact that they are the homophobic type, I do not believe it will be a problem. At least with your close friends in the industry. If you're worrying about losing your job over it, that's not even an option as this is illegal. But I don't believe that's what you are here for.
 
I don't know much about the oil industry, but I could imagine it to be a pretty macho environment, and could understand your being uncomfortable coming out. In the end it comes down to your gut feeling about your co-workers. Do you feel they will accept it and not treat you differently? Will it cause a lot of tension, and lead to you being uncomfortable at work? You need to weigh the options for yourself. Is it important enough to you to be out that it's worth the risk?

Ringfinger said:
If you're worrying about losing your job over it, that's not even an option as this is illegal.
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I see you live in the UK, so this should be the case. Unfortunately in the US we aren't so lucky, many states still have no laws regarding discrimination in the workplace.
 
Well there are the usual gay jokes but I'm ok with that I reckon banter is banter and alls fair there. However I have also been witness to openly homophobic comments and its offshore that scares me. I realise sacking me for being gay is illegal but there are so many other ways things could get difficult. Remember I have to life with these guys 24/7 for upto a month at a time. I also worry that promotion could be obstructed and it would be diffcult to prove on what basis. The industry is very much and 'old boys club'. Its so much about who you know rather than what. I'm just scared becuase I enjoy what I do and I know where I want to take it to.
 
Work in the oil biz here, mainly in a dirty hick oil town too.

Same position as you're in, but I'm not out in the field as much, mainly indoors on site.

I understand your frustration though, but I'm totally out here because it's easier since I'm surrounded by office ppl rather than operators etc./rig pigs

It's definitely tough, and when it comes to the oil industry/hard manual labour guys... still lots of outdated machismo and homophobic attitudes out there
 
I am in the Oil game - in Quality side of manufacturing pipe for down hole and sub sea applications.
I am pretty much out to most to all I work with. I flew my Thai BF to Argentina last month the my local Inspection company made reservations for a trip to the wine country and I specified I wanted a suite with 1 bed (for both of us) they got the idea, and nothing said.

Other people I have been on projects with generally say nothing esp. European people, Americans can be a bit homophobic, but I just hand it back to them and will not put up with anything.

I am older (ok Old!) I just live life how I want I do have rainbow stickers on things and have pierced right ear and at my age not having an ex wife nor talking about the girls, they know, yet I have not been harassed I just do as I want.

But then maybe my version of out is not not the same as yours - I look at all the guys I see in work and do not hide anything nor do I speak about women and dating or how hot one may look so I think most all I work with know.

And working in manufacturing facilities being around men all day - GREAT! ..|

I do not go offshore, so can not really answer all of your question
 
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