Gay? Bi? First post

[Echoes]

yep, you won't believe how many threads about this we get. Don't worry about labeling yourself, it's not a matter of life or death. Relax, experience with both and see if after that you still like them, if yes you're bi, if not you're gay. This is not as complicated as it looks like, first figure out yourself and be happy with it. Labels are not necessary but they will eventually come when it's time.

best of luck.

 

[KaraBulut]

Don't worry about labels. Go live your life. Go find love. Get laid. Just be safe about it.

 

[Lube]

Are you OK with being gay? Do you have out gay friends?

It sounds like the usual "I think I'm gay but I'm afraid to label myself that way."

C'mon, you only watch gay porn, you're not interested in sex with a woman, and you're asking this on a gay porn site.

Love yourself for who you are.

 

[Lube]

Would you feel that you "don't know how to feel about women" if everyone was gay and being hetero was considered weird? Think about that.

If you crave sex with men, but just think that women are sort of interesting and beautiful, well, I personally think you're gay and just being influenced by society. IMHO. YMMV.

Good luck and don't be so shy.

 

[sdmister4]

I dont have any out gay friends, but one of my friends at college told me that he has just been with girls, but that he wouldn't mind being with a man. I've kwown some gay guys, but I haven't been friend of any of them.

i'm not entirely sure what the significance of this part is. i've actually never known any gay people either, we never have anything in common except for liking guys. so i guess what i'm saying is, don't base your sexuality on your friends if that's what you're implying. it doesn't mean much in the end.

the main reason just had to respond is..shelter is sooo good haha. ever since seeing it i just want to find another gay surfer and we can sit out in the ocean all day long.

 

[Willie Boy]

Hi, I'm a 19 years old virgin and I'm not really sure about my sexual orientation.

And that is strange how? There are people in their 30s and 40s who haven't figured that out.

I've had crushes on both girls and boys, but I'm not really interested in having sex with a girl. I only watch gay porn, so I decided I was gay,

nothing wrong there.

but then I started noticing girls,

Still nothing wrong.

so now I don't know if I'm getting obsessed about finding a label and I'm really confused.

Bingo. Sounds like you aren't really as confused as you suspected. You realize you are trying to put yourself neatly into a tiny little box, but don't know which one you fit into. My suggestion... Let yourself be who you are. Find you, don't try to conform to one label or another, most people don't fit anyway. We are each individual. Just be yourself.




But for what it is worth, you seem to most closely fit in the bi category, with your attraction to bot male and female.

 

[pojostick]

You're obsessing over this too much. You can be bi and still prefer men. Orientation isn't necessarily the same as sexual preference. Plenty of people who identify as gay or straight are still at least somewhat attracted to the opposite/same sex. Chances are you'll be labeled gay, but you have to know yourself and be confident in what you like and how you live your life.

 

[Mr Ann]

Don't worry about labeling yourself. I like men and women, but I absolutely prefer men over women. I guess if you want to label me it would be Bi, but I consider myself gay. So I guess the lesson in this is it doesn't matter. As long as you are comfortable with yourself and being yourself you will find the answer. Just give it some time