Gay Dating

[looseliam]

I would drop him an email. Just to say "I hope the new job is going well, and I had a good time last Friday."

Or something like that.

Of the impersonal communications, I find SMS to be the worst.

 

[triple7]

Hey mariano,

I'm with liam on the email bit-- it's friendly and not too impersonal. Say you had fun, wish him luck, and tell him that you'd like to get together again sometime, perhaps even suggest a day/evening that you're free. If you wait too long, it may just seem out of place to contact him a week later.

If you don't have a decision on the whole "do I like him?" bit, well then that's what dating is for-- to get to know him and come to that decision. Give a shot if you at least liked his company.

Who knows, he may be having the same thoughts you are about all this.

 

[KennyD]

Hey .. they said it all above !!!

 

[Homoerectus]

E-mail - "Hi, Joe. I enjoyed our time together Friday evening. Here's wishing you good luck with your new job Monday. Let me know about your first day. Maybe we can get together this weekend and talk about your week." - Mariano

 

[BlueStreaker]

If you haven't done anything yet, email him sometime during the day today and say something along the lines of "I hope your first day of work went well, and good luck with the rest of the week." The maybe say that you'd like to get together, like Homoerectus said. Also include that you'd like him to email you back so you know he got the message.

If he doesn't send something back by the weekend, I wouldn't push it further. If he wants to contact you again after that he will, otherwise you'd probably be better off moving on, or at least not getting your expectations up to high and waiting for him forever or bugging him with a deluge of emails.

 

[looseliam]

Why not invite him out? What have you to lose?

 

[triple7]

don't worry too much about the length of time it takes him to reply. If he's multi-tasking, of course he'll take a bit longer but doesn't mean he doesn't like you-- just that he's prioritizing. Read more into the replies themselves. Are they long? Meaningful? more than just one word answers?

 

[BlueStreaker]

Just ask him if he wants to meet up with you Friday, not necessarily to do anything... invite him out for a cup of coffee or something, nothing huge, then maybe take it back to one of your places and see if it leads to fooling around again.

Whatever you do, don't rush it, you might scare him off. Hopefully it'll work out and you two can make it a regular thing, or even start dating, if that's what you want.

 

[slobone]

It's a bit like ping pong -- you hit the ball, then he hits it back, then you hit it back...

Just don't hit it twice in a row, at this stage. Later on when you know each other better you don't need to worry about that so much.

But otherwise, why play hard to get if you do want to see him again? When he emails you, respond right away if you feel like it. That's what email is for! Then wait for his response before getting in touch again.

 

[waynemm]

Have you thought that he might be playing hard-to-get? ;-) It's driving you mad that he's not responding immediately, so you want to contact him.

But some good advice has been given here - give it a few dates and get to know him and see if you like him! If you don't, or he doesn't, at least you will know that you've tried! And then you move onto the next guy. I assume that you're still pretty young, so you have to have your heart broken at least once to get a better idea of what kinda love you really want!

Good luck!!